29/01/2026
Stop Waiting to Be Chosen: Learning to Love Yourself First
Most of us were never taught how to love ourselves — we were taught how to wait. Wait to be picked, approved of, desired, reassured. And over time, that turns into outsourcing our worth to partners, parents, friends, clients, likes, and attention. The problem isn’t that you’re unlovable. It’s that you’ve been trained to look outside yourself for proof that you matter. Real self-love isn’t affirmations or pretending you’re confident. It’s deciding — quietly and firmly — that your value isn’t up for negotiation anymore. When you stop needing external permission to feel worthy, relationships change. Not because people suddenly love you more — but because you finally do.