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There is incredible wisdom in our body that holds what we need to heal, grow and expand.

18/01/2026

Women aren't public property.

Catcalling isn't flirting. It's entitlement, performed out loud.

Last week I was at a talk where wolf-whistling came up, the older gentleman presenting referred to it a "compliment" in his day, and seemed befuddled as to why women would no longer receive it that way.

So I explained to him. When a man wolf-whistles a woman, she doesn't think how lovely. She starts scanning: Where are the exits?
Is he alone or with his mates?
Phone ready?
Follow risk?
Do l ignore him, appease him, smile, move faster?
That's not a compliment.
That's signal for a threat assessment.

A compliment invites connection. Catcalling imposes itself.

If your "compliment" makes a woman calculate her safety, it's not a compliment - It's entitlement.

Women aren't public property.

NervousSystemAwareness

10/01/2026

Art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable ~
Banksy

Love is not the opposite of war, creation is.

Make art. Experience art. Appreciate art. Be challenged and changed by art.
Meet yourself as a living breathing act of creation - let the way you live and move through life be art.

These images are from the Banksy exhibition currently running in Brisbane, it is brilliant, if you're close enough, go see it.

07/01/2026

Equanimity isn't about staying calm, ambivalent or neutal.

It's about staying present with what is actually here.

When I'm charged it often feels like my perception narrows, my body clenches and my thoughts harden.

And instead of reacting, I pause.
That pause gives my nervous system a moment to settle. Not to suppress what I feel. Not to let it run the show. But to meet it with curiosity instead of reactivity.
Because charge carries information.

Equanimity can be as simple as recognising: this is what's here right now.
I don't have to like ir dislike it.
I don't have to hold on nor resist it.
I don't need it to be different before I stay with it - at least for a moment.

Sometimes equanimity looks like allowing both pleasure and discomfort to move through me. Enjoying what's good without clinging. Meeting what's hard without bracing or collapsing.

Equanimity is the capacity to remain in relationship with life as it unfolds - steady enough to meet change, soft enough to stay present, clear enough to choose rather than be dragged.
This creates a sense of intimacy with life.

05/01/2026

Compersion - Sympathetic Joy

For me, living with, and returning to, the intention of compersion or sympathetic joy can be subtle in practice, yet deeply transformative over time.

Sometimes it begins with noticing a sting of comparison or a flicker of envy when someone else shares good news, and choosing to stay present and curious with that experience rather than contracting or reacting. Allowing their success, joy, or love to be theirs, without measuring it against my own life.

Sometimes it’s practising genuine celebration for another person’s success, love, or happiness even when I’m in a tender or uncertain place myself, letting both experiences coexist. In celebrating their win, I often find I’m able to allow joy back into my own system as well.

And sometimes compersion shows up as letting another person’s fullness soften and light me up rather than threaten or close me down. A visceral reminder that joy, love, and opportunity are not finite, and that someone else’s abundance does not diminish my own, just as mine does not diminish theirs.

For me, compersion is a practice of staying open to goodness wherever and for whomever it appears.

04/01/2026

Compassion

The intention to embody compassion, to keep returning to compassion, can mean staying when I’d rather move away - with self and others.

Not fixing, blaming, explaining, or rushing for resolution, but allowing what hurts to be felt, to be expressed.

Sometimes it’s letting disappointment, grief, or tenderness be present in my body without turning it into a problem or a project - not needing it to mean something. Not stuffing it down or forcing it along too quickly.

Sometimes it’s recognising that another person’s sharpness, distance, or withdrawal is coming from their own pain, and making a choice not to escalate or personalise it in, even if it still needs to be named later.

And compassion must include myself - accept limits, step back, ask for help, speak with kindness inwardly, or allow shame to be named and witnessed.

For me, compassion involves meeting suffering, mine or another’s, with steadiness and care, without abandonment or attack.

03/01/2026

I find to live with an intention of Loving-Kindness often shows up quietly, through presence, acceptance, noticing joy and having choice.

Sometimes it's noticing the way I'm speaking to myself - the tight, corrective inner voice - and softening it. Not pretending things are fine, but choosing not to add harm to what's already here.

Sometimes it's letting my body set the pace, even when my mind wants to push.

Resting. Cancelling. Leaving early. Without turning that listening into a personal failure.

And sometimes loving-kindness includes clarity, telling the truth kindly, setting a boundary, saying no without over-explaining. Not abandoning myself to keep the peace.

For me, loving-kindness involves care and integrity - staying in relationship with myself as life unfolds.

01/01/2026

Intentions, Actions & the Gift of Impermanence

As the new year opens up, I’m noticing how turned off I am by resolutions. They’ve never worked well for me and not because I don’t care, but because something in my system resists rigidity. The moment a rule hardens, force is used, or a future version of myself feels locked in, my body pushes back. Over time, I’ve learned to trust that response, because I am not a static being living in a predictable world.

Bodies change. Energy shifts. Capacity rises and falls with seasons, stress, grief, joy, hormones, and circumstance. When we try to impose fixed promises on a living, changing reality, the inevitable disruption gets interpreted as failure, eroding our body–mind connection, our self-trust, and our intuition.

In Buddhism, Impermanence isn’t something to transcend or master, it’s something to live in relationship with. Everything arises, changes, and passes.

As Pema Chödrön writes:
“We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that.”

When I stop treating change as a personal failure and start recognising it as the nature of reality, I soften and move with life rather than against it and can pair intentions with responsive and adaptable action.

An intention isn’t a rule or a demand. It’s a way of meeting life as it unfolds. It doesn’t ask us to stay rigidly consistent at all costs, it asks us to stay in relationship. To notice. To respond. To return. Again and again.

This year, rather than setting resolutions, I’m orienting myself around a practice drawn directly from Buddhist teaching: the Four Immeasurable qualities — loving-kindness (metta), compassion (karuna), sympathetic joy (mudita), and equanimity (upekkha). They’re called immeasurable because they aren’t destinations to reach, but capacities we can return to, no matter what is happening. Not as ideals to achieve - as practices to return to, practices that keep you coming home to yourself.

Over the next few days, I’ll explore what each of these immeasurable qualities may look like. Sign up to my newsletter to be first to know of 2026 offerings - web link in bio or DM.

29/12/2025

Gooch Week - the space between Christmas and New Year - for me this can be a beautiful no-man’s-land, a space where the busy drops away, obligations are filled, spending is all spent and I can let my nervous system unwind from the year. Adventures, play, genuine connections and extreme laughter have been feeding my soul.

27/12/2025

The Cost of Distraction

Culture trains us to stay busy, entertained, productive, to stuff it down, harden up and keep going. It does not teach us how to feel safe to feel.

Grief is never meant to be carried alone.

Across cultures and time, grief was witnessed, shared, vocalized, mobilized and expressed in communion - held by ritual, community, and expressed through the body.

Without that, grief gets shunted into the background.
Into the fascia.
Into the joints and tissues.
Into symptoms - pain, numbness, inflammation, loss of pleasure, lack of joy, withdrawal and disconnection.

What is often labelled burnout and/or depression is frequently unfelt loss asking for space to be felt and fully expressed.

Grief is not the problem.
The absence of ritual, community, and safe containment to express it is.

If this speaks to something you feel like upure carrying or perhaps something you’ve lost, please join the Gravitas mailing list and be first to know about relevant upcoming events, rituals and offerings

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21/12/2025

GRAVITAS
In order to return, we must first descend

Grief | Shadow | Eros

Descent an Initiation
Grief a Gateway
Awakening as Return

Gravitas: a grief-based embodiment lineage devoted to the work beneath the work, the places we cannot rush, bypass, or just think our way through.

This is not grief as pathology.
It is grief as intelligence - as love and devotion.

A force through which a life reorganises.

Gravitas - coming in 2026.

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In order to return, we must first descend.

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