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01/01/2026

Intentions, Actions & the Gift of Impermanence

As the new year opens up, I’m noticing how turned off I am by resolutions. They’ve never worked well for me and not because I don’t care, but because something in my system resists rigidity. The moment a rule hardens, force is used, or a future version of myself feels locked in, my body pushes back. Over time, I’ve learned to trust that response, because I am not a static being living in a predictable world.

Bodies change. Energy shifts. Capacity rises and falls with seasons, stress, grief, joy, hormones, and circumstance. When we try to impose fixed promises on a living, changing reality, the inevitable disruption gets interpreted as failure, eroding our body–mind connection, our self-trust, and our intuition.

In Buddhism, Impermanence isn’t something to transcend or master, it’s something to live in relationship with. Everything arises, changes, and passes.

As Pema Chödrön writes:
“We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that.”

When I stop treating change as a personal failure and start recognising it as the nature of reality, I soften and move with life rather than against it and can pair intentions with responsive and adaptable action.

An intention isn’t a rule or a demand. It’s a way of meeting life as it unfolds. It doesn’t ask us to stay rigidly consistent at all costs, it asks us to stay in relationship. To notice. To respond. To return. Again and again.

This year, rather than setting resolutions, I’m orienting myself around a practice drawn directly from Buddhist teaching: the Four Immeasurable qualities — loving-kindness (metta), compassion (karuna), sympathetic joy (mudita), and equanimity (upekkha). They’re called immeasurable because they aren’t destinations to reach, but capacities we can return to, no matter what is happening. Not as ideals to achieve - as practices to return to, practices that keep you coming home to yourself.

Over the next few days, I’ll explore what each of these immeasurable qualities may look like. Sign up to my newsletter to be first to know of 2026 offerings - web link in bio or DM.

29/12/2025

Gooch Week - the space between Christmas and New Year - for me this can be a beautiful no-man’s-land, a space where the busy drops away, obligations are filled, spending is all spent and I can let my nervous system unwind from the year. Adventures, play, genuine connections and extreme laughter have been feeding my soul.

27/12/2025

The Cost of Distraction

Culture trains us to stay busy, entertained, productive, to stuff it down, harden up and keep going. It does not teach us how to feel safe to feel.

Grief is never meant to be carried alone.

Across cultures and time, grief was witnessed, shared, vocalized, mobilized and expressed in communion - held by ritual, community, and expressed through the body.

Without that, grief gets shunted into the background.
Into the fascia.
Into the joints and tissues.
Into symptoms - pain, numbness, inflammation, loss of pleasure, lack of joy, withdrawal and disconnection.

What is often labelled burnout and/or depression is frequently unfelt loss asking for space to be felt and fully expressed.

Grief is not the problem.
The absence of ritual, community, and safe containment to express it is.

If this speaks to something you feel like upure carrying or perhaps something you’ve lost, please join the Gravitas mailing list and be first to know about relevant upcoming events, rituals and offerings

DM “Gravitas” or visit the link in bio.

21/12/2025

GRAVITAS
In order to return, we must first descend

Grief | Shadow | Eros

Descent an Initiation
Grief a Gateway
Awakening as Return

Gravitas: a grief-based embodiment lineage devoted to the work beneath the work, the places we cannot rush, bypass, or just think our way through.

This is not grief as pathology.
It is grief as intelligence - as love and devotion.

A force through which a life reorganises.

Gravitas - coming in 2026.

If you are curious and want to walk this terrain with care, depth, and structure, join my newsletter to be first in line for invitations, early access & discounts, & pre-launch teachings.

In order to return, we must first descend.

18/12/2025

Some medicines don’t arrive with urgency.

They arrive slowly, with immense power, but no force.

They linger and continue to do their work long after the ceremony ends.

This year I sat in ceremony with Renee of Kin of the Fiain Danu, inside the field of the Mugwort Imrana, where we met her not as a plant to be used and abused, but as kin, guide, and guardian.

What Renee carries is ancestral remembrance: plant-spirit knowing that lives in deep in her body, shaped by devotion, time, and lived relationship. Her way of holding ceremony immediately slows the system and opens a deeper listening.

Over two nights we entered communal dreaming, fasting and feasting, forest sit-spots, drumming journeys into sleep and back into waking. Each woman walked her own soul-path with Mugwort, held within a steady, wise collective field, none of us walked out the same.

I feel Mugwort in my spine and womb, she opening portals to insight, shadow, lost memory, and gifts still unfolding.

Her medicine moves in her time, and has continued to work, long after the circle closed.

Deep gratitude to Grandmother Mugwort, and to Renee of Kin of the Fiain Danu

10/12/2025

Earlier this year, I trained as a Play Facilitator with Emma Jane Love, and something in me reorganised itself - in a way I didn’t see coming, or know I needed.

What I loved was how play, in all its forms - simple, unstructured, creative, relational, silly, profound - reached parts of my system that years of deep, heavy inner work could never quite touch.

We weren’t playing to optimise, perform, or improve. Although inevitably, we did.

We softened.

We created.

We let go.

We were playing for the sake of playing.

- Relational games that asked for presence.
- Silly games that cracked us open with laughter.
- Creative games that turned on the imagination.
- Games that loosened perfectionism at the root.
- Games that let us practice being seen without shrinking.
- Games where old wounds surfaced and unwound in real time.
- Games where shame dissolved under warm witnessing.
- Games that invited wild, weird, fully expressed humans - and I said yes to all of it.

In that space, without force, shadows were met. Patterns softened. Masks dropped.

The parts of me that feel “too much,” the parts that fear they’re “not enough,” the part that flinches at being witnessed - all of them were given room to breathe.

What landed deeply was this: healing and breakthrough need company. Co-regulation is essential for us as humans. I was reminded my old habit of going it alone can only take me so far.

It was the witnessing, the shared presence, the being met without demand, the fun, the laughter, the tears, the depth, that changed me. Something playful woke back up inside me - something I had nearly forgotten, and I’m not losing it again.

I need more play.

We all need more play.

We are relational creatures - wired for connection, creativity, communion. Play feeds the nervous system, frees the imagination, and gives the body a language beyond words.

Here’s to more spaces where we get to practice being human together - through play.

Thank you, Emmajane Love . It was brilliant.

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09/12/2025

Attraction as Authenticity

Attraction isn’t something you manufacture. It’s not a performance. It’s what rises when you stop leaving yourself.

Most of us were taught to create attraction by tending to our outward appearance and turning our attention outward - read the room, manage impressions, shape ourselves to be conventionally desirable.

But that version of attraction is fragile. It pulls the nervous system into comparison, competition, and the quiet ache of never being enough and/or being too much.

Performance can feel intense, but it’s not sustainable.
The moment you track someone else’s response, you abandon your own centre. And intimacy becomes something you perform instead of something you feel.

Authentic attraction is different. It starts in the body. In presence. In groundedness. In sensation.
When you inhabit yourself fully, the field around you shifts. People don’t feel a mask; they feel you - rooted, available, real. From here, attraction becomes a by-product of alignment, not effort.

You’re not seeking approval; you’re expressing truth.
You’re not competing; you’re connecting.
You’re not over-performing; you’re receiving yourself first.

This is the heart of the Intimacy & Attraction Wokshops - they are a return to your centre, where presence, not performance, ignites the fire.

5 x $20 discount codes available for the I&A Workshop this Saturday 13/12/25, Mudjimba, Sunshine Coast - DM to secure yourself one Xx

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09/12/2025

This morning in yoga, something seemingly simple broke me open.

Sometimes I black out, and today there was a lot of this going on, I had to be slow and mindful, drop any comparison to what others were doing, soften any ego about what I should look like and give myself space to keep coming back to myself and what was enough for me today.

Lying on my stomach, the teacher placed a towel over my feet and applied steady, grounded pressure.
In that moment, my body stopped holding the vertical vigilance I’ve carried for years without really noticing.

With the pressure and connection anchoring me, grief rose, not as a story, not as memory, but through the fascia itself - a release that bypassed my mind entirely. Tears rolling down my face, I surrendered - no story, just simply letting go.

This is what my body knows:
when the ground is felt, my holding patterns can finally soften. When vigilance is released, truth moves.

Sometimes the deepest healing is simply allowing the exhale I have been postponing.

Presence. Acceptance. Breath.
Allow my body to lead.

Photo credit Belinda Jordaan Photography

08/12/2025

Intimacy doesn’t begin with another person. It begins with your ability to feel yourself.

Before connection comes presence.
Before attraction comes truth.
Before depth comes the capacity to stay with your own experience without collapsing or running.

The Intimacy & Attraction workshop teaches the foundations that make intimacy possible: a grounded relationship with your own nervous system, your sensations, your boundaries, and your truth.

Connection starts here.

Join me for an Intimacy & Attraction Workshop - a practice evening, grounded, trauma aware, rich and layered. 13/12/25 Mudjimba, Sunshine Coast.

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05/12/2025

We can be led to think change happens through mental insight, but the real shifts begin in the body.

Presence, boundaries, sensation, breath, and these are not small skills. They are the somatic foundations that determine how you relate, how you connect, how you protect your energy, and how deeply you can let yourself be met.

Interoceptive awareness is what transforms your relationships from the inside out.

When you can feel yourself, you can choose yourself. When you can choose yourself, you can stay open without abandoning your centre.

This is the work we do.
Grounded. Embodied. Real.

If you want to explore these practices more deeply, join me at an Intimacy & Attraction Workshop, which are clear, accessible, embodied pathways into presence, connection, and polarity.

Next workshop 13/12/25 Mudjimba, Sunshine Coast **ra

04/12/2025

Your nervous system decides how deeply you can connect.
When it feels safe, everything softens: breath, boundaries, receptivity, truth.

Safety isn’t an idea.
It’s a felt sense in the body.
And it’s the foundation of real intimacy.

Because intimacy isn’t built through effort or performance.

It emerges when your body has enough capacity to stay present with sensation, emotion, and connection - without overriding, collapsing, or defending.

Your body is the portal.
Every pathway into deeper intimacy, aliveness, and Eros begins there.

This is the heart of my work:
restoring interoceptive awareness, awakening the body’s natural intelligence, and rebuilding the capacity to open without losing yourself.

If you’re ready to explore intimacy that starts in your body - not your mind - my upcoming offerings will take you there.

Comment “INTIMACY” if you’d like to know more.

Next Intimacy & Attraction
Workshop 13/12/25 Sunshine Coast - check out my events tab.

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