17/12/2025
📷 📖 Mother Mary Comes To Me, by Arundhati Roy
I read this book almost in one go. I used to read Arundhati Roy when I was in India, along with other female India poets and writers, whilst I was studying Buddhism.
Her bandwidth for both tenderness and fierceness has always educated me.
To read about her mother, Mary - her aggression, her neglect of her children, as well as her greatness - the wholeness of her depicted by AR, was very powerful.
Arundhati’s lack of self-victimisation whilst in the same breath not minimising the harm/impact of her mother's cruelty, along with the recognition that her gifts were entwined with her mother’s, struck me.
Roy’s instinctive sense that the language that she always knew would help her blood flow through her more easily, inspires me.
I know AR doesn’t need anything from me, but I keep imagining all these pot plants around her. Maybe I just want all these brave ones to get good gusts of fresh air.
I’m thinking of the women who’ve sat in my practice spaces - the leaders, mothers, mavericks, academics, mediators, cultural leaders, artists, professionals. How it can be hard at times for these women who’ve had to push shoulder first through doors once shut, whilst also caring for many, to let tenderness deeper in.
Sometimes I’ve wanted to bolt the door in my practice spaces - I’m going to hold you in here until you let the love in. So you can get the nourishment in. Before you get up and do another Big thing, or care for someone Else, or some thing else
I’m thinking of fierceness coupled with tenderness, allowing the whole range to course through each of us.
I’m offering Deep Springs, a self- paced course on the Brahma Viharas (teachings exploring qualities in an alive, resourced heart) for half price, $99, until this Sunday 21st.
I'm offering this as a kind of container to let the warmth in. From where you are. At your own pace. No-one watching. Finding your place around the teachings that I’ve always imagined are like a fire we can gather around, together as citizens of our universe.
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