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10/11/2025

You might think poor diet or bad genes are the biggest threats to your health , but science says toxic relationships could be worse. Recent studies show that being in a harmful, emotionally draining relationship can do more damage to your physical and mental well-being than unhealthy eating or inherited health risks.

Toxic relationships trigger chronic stress, flooding the body with cortisol and adrenaline. Over time, this constant pressure can lead to high blo*d pressure, weakened immunity, insomnia, anxiety, depression, and even increased risk of heart disease. The emotional chaos doesn't just stay in the mind , it spreads into every system of the body.

Unlike a poor diet, which can be adjusted, or genes, which can be monitored, a toxic relationship quietly erodes your energy, self-worth, and resilience, making it harder to heal, cope, and move forward.

In fact, research shows that people stuck in high-conflict or emotionally abusive relationships often experience inflammation, accelerated aging, and impaired brain function , all signs of long-term physical breakdown.

On the flip side, healthy relationships protect health, boosting emotional balance, immunity, and even life expectancy. Love can heal , but only when it’s rooted in respect and support.

This is your reminder that emotional safety is not a luxury , it’s a health requirement. Choose peace over patterns. Your body, brain, and future will thank you.

10/11/2025

Self Love Affirmations
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If you want to awaken all of humanity, then awaken all of yourself. If you want to eliminate the suffering in this world, then eliminate all that is dark and negative within yourself. The greatest gift you have to give the world is that of your own self-transformation.

People who have high intuition, whose light is shining, who uplift a room, have a lot of self-love. Self-love is not vain. It's not selfish. In fact, truly loving yourself, is the most selfless thing that you can do for everybody around you.

We are all here to learn about love. The first lesson is learning to love yourself. Without self love and having an awareness of yourself, we cannot begin to know how to love others.

What Is Self-Love?

Self-Love Is Not Selfishness

“Loving yourself really has nothing to do with being selfish, self-centered or self-engrossed. It means that you accept yourself for who you are. Loving yourself means that you willingly accept complete responsibility for your own spiritual development, growth and happiness.”

Self-Love is not the same thing as Selfishness. On the contrary it is really the exact opposite....You are of greater help and service to all when you take proper care of yourself, and you are at your best.

Selfishness is being concerned only with yourself and no one else. It is ego-driven, as you attempt to gain material goods, use others for your own gain, and you think that you are far superior to others due to your talents, knowledge, actions and more, while looking down on others as "beneath you".

Self-Love is taking good care of your needs to allow yourself to be whole and healthy. It is loving yourself enough to be fully confident in your own thoughts, words and actions, yet being able to express real openness, compassion, empathy and understanding for those of others.

Self-Love is taking the time out to eat healthy organic food, exercise, meditate, pray, to heal yourself physically, mentally and spiritually, and be authentic.

Self-Love is knowing when it is the right time for you to have a rest, versus pushing yourself to utter exhaustion for others. It is sharing your gifts in the best possible way with others to help them and yourself.

Self-Love is being a kind, loving and caring human being to yourself, and all around you, including all of Nature. It is recognizing while you are an individual, unique soul, you are also part of the One Creator, and what you do to another, will be done to you.

Self-Love is choosing positive actions, thoughts and words to help yourself and everyone around you. It is going back to Love, and living more and more with Love every day.

Self-Love is pausing to ask yourself what is the true motivation behind my words, thoughts and actions? Are they Ego or Love driven? It is being aware and wise enough to listen more than to speak.

Self-Love is understanding and listening more to your own inner truth than that of others, although being wise enough to listen to other’s beliefs to see if they resonate with you in some way.

Self-Love is seeking knowledge for growth, wisdom and transformation to “Awaken a more brilliant version of you", while having the discernment to know who else lives with Self-Love.

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How To Love Yourself

To be able to love yourself and attract love from others, to heal all of your emotional wounds, to regain your self-esteem, become confident, assertive, independent, happy, healthy and peaceful, download the following ten hypnotherapy mp3s:

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Play each one of these hypnotherapy mp3s at least once daily for thirty days or even more if you were unloved and emotionally abused while growing up. Play one mp3 for a month or more, then move onto the next mp3 for the next month. You can play these hypnotherapy mp3s for as long as you want to.

I still listen to these hypnotherapy mp3s every day because l was not loved at all as a young child, and l was constantly emotionally abused for many years, so that when l became an adult, I allowed many other people to abuse me too. After listening to Potentials Unlimited, I no longer attract any more abusive people to me. In fact l actually repel toxic people now. Lol…😀

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There are two sides to these hypnotherapy mp3s. One side has music or the relaxing sounds of the ocean with subliminal hypnotherapy, and the other side has hypnotherapy.

You can do what l did and download just the hypnotherapy sides of all these mp3s onto the desktop of your computer, laptop, iPad and your mobile.

While you are playing these mp3s you can adjust the volume to a level that is comfortable for you while you work on your computer, travel to work on a bus, train or plane, watch television, listen to music, read a book and fall asleep at night. I listen to mine through a Bluetooth speaker in my lounge room.

My favourite hypnotherapy mp3s are I Want To Be Happy, How To Attract Love, Self Confidence, Abuse Healed Through Forgiveness, How To Handle Criticism & Stop Being Angry.

* Warning. Please do not listen to these powerful hypnotic mp3s while driving a car

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05/11/2025

A narcissist will go out of their way to "help" others in order to maintain their good guy or good girl image publicly whilst horrifically psychologically and emotionally abusing or neglecting their partner behind closed doors. This is not accidental—it is a meticulously calculated performance, a mask designed to manipulate perception, gain admiration, and project a false sense of virtue. To the outside world, they appear selfless, caring, and dependable, someone who is always willing to lend a hand, offer support, or show compassion. Yet behind closed doors, their partner experiences a very different reality: relentless criticism, manipulation, neglect, or outright cruelty.

The contrast between public persona and private behavior creates a suffocating environment of confusion and doubt. The victim sees the world praising someone who treats them with contempt, and this contradiction leads to extreme cognitive dissonance. They begin to question their own feelings, their sense of reality, and even their sanity. “Am I overreacting? Am I imagining things?” become constant internal questions. Every act of public kindness, every self-promoting gesture, becomes another tool in the narcissist’s arsenal—a weapon used to justify their abusive behavior, silence the victim, and manipulate everyone’s perception.

Over time, this pattern chips away at the victim’s confidence and self-worth. It isolates them emotionally, making it harder to reach out for support because others see only the charming, helpful facade. The gaslighting is layered: the narcissist not only dismisses or invalidates the victim’s experience, but also uses their public image as evidence that the victim is the problem, too sensitive, or ungrateful. It is a deeply insidious form of psychological warfare, one that leaves the victim trapped in a cycle of doubt, confusion, and emotional exhaustion. Every smile in public, every act of “goodness,” is a reminder that nothing is as it seems—and escaping this manipulation requires immense awareness, courage, and support.

05/11/2025

05/11/2025

05/11/2025

Marry a man with a **provider mindset**. Not necessarily a rich man, but one who is **responsible** and knows how to **lead**. He’ll always make sure your needs are met and will go the extra mile for you. A man who is **emotionally mature** is worth far more than a wealthy man who doesn’t value you.

A provider mindset isn’t about money—it’s about character. It’s about a man who understands that leadership means service, not control. He takes initiative, he plans ahead, and he makes you feel safe—not just financially, but emotionally and mentally too. He doesn’t run from responsibility; he embraces it. He doesn’t see caring for his woman as a burden, but as a privilege. When life gets hard, he doesn’t disappear or blame others; he stands beside you and figures it out. That’s what true strength looks like.

A man with a provider mindset wants to build, not just consume. He wants to grow with you, protect what you both create, and make sure you feel secure in every way possible. He values peace, stability, and purpose. He doesn’t compete with his woman—he covers her, uplifts her, and leads her with love. He doesn’t just give you money; he gives you consistency, reassurance, and a sense of direction.

Meanwhile, a man who has money but lacks emotional intelligence will leave you feeling lonely even when you have everything. He may provide material things but neglect your heart. He might buy you gifts but ignore your tears. Wealth without emotional maturity is empty, because love without connection doesn’t last.

So don’t chase riches—choose **responsibility, loyalty, and vision**. Choose the man who listens, communicates, and keeps his word. Choose the one who leads with humility, who protects your heart like it’s his own, and who sees partnership as teamwork, not ownership. A man who provides love, stability, and emotional safety will give you a kind of wealth that money can’t buy.

At the end of the day, real security doesn’t come from a full bank account—it comes from a full heart, a steady soul, and a man who shows up for you, day after day, no matter what life brings.

05/11/2025

If a woman behaves like a child in a relationship, it means she's with a man. If she acts like a mother, she's with a boy.
Relationships are mirrors of maturity and emotional intelligence. When a woman finds herself having to act childlike, dependent, or overly accommodating, it often reflects that her partner is capable of taking responsibility, making decisions, and leading with confidence. On the other hand, if she instinctively slips into a caretaker or mothering role, it’s a clear signal that her partner is still immature, emotionally underdeveloped, or unwilling to grow into the responsibilities of adulthood.

This dynamic affects every part of a relationship—the way arguments are handled, the way love is expressed, and the way trust and support are built. A relationship where one person is always “parenting” the other can feel exhausting, one-sided, and unbalanced. It can drain a woman of her emotional energy, leaving her constantly managing not just her own needs, but her partner’s as well.

True partnership requires both people to show up as equals: to nurture, to support, to love, and to challenge each other to grow. A man who can take care of himself, own his actions, and contribute equally allows a woman the freedom to be playful, vulnerable, and fully herself. A boy, however, unintentionally or not, shifts the burden onto her, forcing her to step into roles she shouldn’t have to fill.

Understanding this pattern is crucial for anyone seeking a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Recognizing who is truly capable of growing and who is still learning is not about judgment—it’s about protecting your emotional wellbeing and creating the kind of love that’s sustainable, reciprocal, and empowering.