16/03/2026
We readily accept that children need co-regulation.
When a child is overwhelmed, we don’t expect them to simply “calm down”. We sit beside them. We soften our voice. We lend them our steadiness until their nervous system settles.
We understand that young brains sometimes need to borrow another brain.
But something strange happens when we become adults... and especially when we become mothers.
The expectations shift.
We might logically understand that we can't do it all. But socially. Culturally. We learn we are meant to manage the emotional load, the mental load, the sensory load, the relational load. Often while running on very little sleep and with very little support or resources.
Yet our nervous systems haven’t fundamentally changed.
Humans regulate in relationship. Always have.
Yes, we can develop strong self-regulation skills over time. But there will still be seasons where capacity runs thin and we need the presence, steadiness and attunement of another person to help us find our way back to centre.
This is one of the things I hold in my work.
Not just strategies or advice.
But a place where your nervous system doesn’t have to do it all alone 🌿
If you’re a mother who feels like you’ve been carrying too much for too long, you’re welcome to reach out.
I offer 1:1 occupational therapy sessions where we can slow things down and make sense of what’s going on in your world.
You can learn more through the link in my bio or send me a message to start the conversation 💖
