19/11/2025
Micro-Cheating: What It Is, Why It Hurts, and How to Talk About It
Micro-cheating involves small, seemingly minor behaviours that indicate emotional or romantic interest outside the primary relationship. Examples may include flirting over text or social media, hiding interactions with someone, or emotionally prioritising someone else over your partner. While these actions may not constitute a full affair, they can still damage trust and intimacy.
Even subtle forms of micro-cheating can evoke feelings of betrayal, insecurity, and emotional distance. The pain often comes from a perceived breach of emotional loyalty, leaving partners questioning the strength and security of the relationship.
How to Talk About It
👉 Choose the Right Moment: Approach the conversation calmly and privately, avoiding heated or accusatory language.
👉 Use “I” Statements: Express how the behaviour makes you feel, e.g., “I feel hurt when I see…” rather than blaming your partner.
👉 Listen Actively: Allow your partner to explain their perspective without interrupting or judging.
👉 Set Boundaries Together: Discuss what behaviours feel acceptable and unacceptable in your relationship, creating clear mutual expectations.
If micro-cheating is causing tension or hurt in your relationship, Couples Therapy Melbourne can help. Our experienced therapists provide guidance, support, and tools to rebuild trust and strengthen your connection.
📞 Contact us today to take the first step toward a more secure and fulfilling relationship.