Coaching For Lifetime Change

25/03/2026

We can't do this alone, we must do this together 🥰

25/03/2026

Going to try this tomorrow

Legs up the wall is one of my favourite calm-down tools because it’s simple, gentle, and surprisingly powerful.

When a child’s nervous system is stuck in 'go-go-go' mode, this posture helps the body switch into rest-and-reset.

The legs being raised gives calming sensory input, encourages circulation, and can help slow the heart rate and soften tension in the body.

It’s brilliant for:
after school restraint collapse
bedtime anxiety
big feelings that won’t settle
overstimulation and sensory overload
those “I’m tired but I can’t stop” moments

You can invite it as a choice:
“Want to try legs up the wall for 2 minutes while we breathe together?”
No forcing. No perfection. Just a safe body pause.

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25/03/2026

Can I say something you might not have said out loud yet?

No one talks about how often you can feel like you’re failing your child… even when you’re doing everything you can.

Even now you hear comments like "they just need more discipline", "there is nothing wrong with them", "I don't want my child to hang out with children who need help" even after all this time, it makes me feel like I have failed them. However, reality is that even now there is limited support that helps really look into these feelings as once again you are felt that you are doing something wrong.

I remember experiencing another meltdown at the shopping centre and the comments that were running on repeat is that if I was a better parent, I would have solved this already. Never once did my brain say that this is complex but just said I was a failure.

Why are we not talking about this? Because it is hard to sit in this invisible emotional load and hey we don't want to feel any more like a failure.

However, this is how the new map is going to help you process these emotions. As you are not a failure, the systems, in place is 2026, are not designed to support you through these thoughts and just there to make you feel worse. I am here to change that for you.

Feel free to join our group Nurturing Families with Neurodiverse Children - Riding The Waves Together.

24/03/2026

Life has been full — the kind of full that sits heavy in your chest even when you can't quite name why. And I know so many of you are carrying something similar right now. The weight of a world that feels uncertain. A future that won't hold still long enough for you to feel ready for it. A family that you love so deeply, and a nervous system that's doing its absolute best to keep up.

Here's something I keep coming back to:

You can't think your way to feeling safe about the future. But you can tend to the body that's holding all the unknowing.

Your brain is extraordinary. It will keep scanning, problem-solving, generating options — because that's exactly what it's designed to do when it senses threat. It is trying to protect you. Let it.

But the nervous system underneath all of that thinking? It needs something different. It needs tending. Not fixing — tending.

A breath that goes all the way down.

A moment of warmth.

A hand on your chest and the quiet acknowledgement that this is hard, and I am here.

I've been thinking about you — the parents doing this work while the world outside feels shaky. The families navigating what no one gave you a roadmap for. The ones wondering whether they're enough, doing enough, holding enough.

You are not behind. You are not failing. You are in the middle of something that takes time.

The reef doesn't rebuild overnight. But it does rebuild. 🪸

I'm back, and I'm so glad to be here with you again. 💙

23/03/2026

Good morning shining lights,

Do you have anything exciting on today?

23/03/2026

Can I be honest with you?

The last couple of months have been a lot.

And I say that as someone who spends a lot of time thinking about what neurodiverse family life actually costs — emotionally, physically, relationally. It can be hard and so rewarding.

I know the particular exhaustion of being the person who holds everything together, even when you’re barely holding together yourself. I know what it’s like to research and advocate and attend appointments and manage meltdowns and get to the end of the day and have nothing left — and then lie awake anyway, worrying you’re still not doing enough.

I know it because I live it too.

Anchored Amid the Waves Parenting was born from that place. From the desperate wish that someone had handed me a map when we were in the thick of it. From the belief that parents in neurodiverse families deserve more than survival tips and breathing exercises — they deserve to genuinely understand what’s happening, why it’s happening, and what’s actually possible for their family on the other side of the hardest seasons.

That’s what I’m building here.

I’ve been quiet, but I haven’t been still. And I can’t wait to share what’s coming.

If you’ve found this page because you’re exhausted and looking for something real — you’re in the right place.

Welcome. I see you. 🌿🌊

22/03/2026

These are cute

Check out these 12 great strategies that can help your child calm down. Choose between providing sensory input, crossing the body’s midline, grounding, or engaging in a mindfulness activity, or combine between different strategies from each category.

>>> https://www.specialmomadvocate.com/12-strategies-calming-child

22/03/2026

Good morning shining lights,

Imagine you are wearing a heavy back pack. Inside it has all your emotions that are weighing you down.

Exhaustion

Anxiety

Stress

Overwhelm

Resentful

Depressed

Worried

Now imagine taking off a heavy back pack. Getting your fingers under the right strap, feeling just how heavy it and slowly taking it down your right arm. Now imagine getting your fingers under the left strap and easing it off your left shoulder. The weight of the back back tipping you side ways as you place it on the ground.

Now as you stand up, roll your shoulders around. Take deep breathes to fill your body with space. Space for the emotions to move. Space to release the tension from where you are holding it.

Which of those emotions could you leave behind as you start your new day which is a gift?

22/03/2026

Celebrating Grace’s 19th Birthday with a short walk in Mt Macedon as she tests outs her new camera.

But just a moment to ground myself in nature, to feel its calm, sounds of birds to forget about any concerns.

A peaceful way to spend a Sunday.

19/03/2026

This morning I woke up at 4:40am to go out on my morning walk. However when I was getting ready my anxiety went through the roof. How could that happen at that hour of the morning?

We have to remember it is during the night our cortisol levels are at their highest during the night.

Did I get out on my walk…….no I snuggled in bed with Steve.

This afternoon I vowed to listen to my body and put in my strategies. I got a training session done and felt strong from it. But cooking dinner, although I was focused on cooking, I was watching a show and I kept bringing a stop to any unhelpful thinking my anxiety started creeping in.

So I put on my YouTube videos of turtles and my anxiety reduced again. It’s not easy to fight the anxiety but the benefits of a calm nervous system is what works for both myself and my family.

18/03/2026

17/03/2026