07/02/2026
“Perhaps there is more understanding and beauty in life when the glaring sunlight is softened by the patterns of shadows. Perhaps there is more depth in a relationship that has weathered some storms. Experience that never disappoints or saddens or stirs up feeling is a bland experience with little challenge or variation of color. Perhaps it's when we experience confidence and faith and hope that we see materialise before our eyes this builds up within us a feeling of inner strength, courage, and security. We are all personalities that grow and develop as a result of our experiences, relationships, thoughts, and emotions. We are the sum total of all the parts that go into the making of a life.” ― Virginia M. Axline,
There is so much emphasis on technique and skill advancement in today's world. Most practitioners I know are chasing the latest buzzwords: EMDR, IFS, SE, and NARM. They invest in these ways in the hope that these competencies will help navigate the heat of uncertainty encountered in the practice room. How can competence help therapists in the moment of dismay and emotional distress? How do they in times when the sense of inadequacy is maximised and the self-doubt amplified? How do we experience the profound vulnerability at these junctures, a soil needing cultivation, kneading space for transformation? Covering up and the onset of confidence may not sustain an adequate human response. Instead, I am exploring how I see myself in this experiential. I notice the constant worry about being forgotten, taken for a ride, and being blamed for ruptures. I acknowledge myself as I am, staying with all of them without distracting myself. I am here with myself, so I can be with you.
