11/11/2025
26 Years Without Henry 🕊️
𝟭𝟬 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗜’𝘃𝗲 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗱𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗵
It’s been 26 years since my little brother Henry left his earthly body.
Time has softened the edges of this inexplicable loss,
but love…
love NEVER fades.
Here are some of things his life and death have taught me:
1. Grief doesn’t disappear, it transforms. It becomes part of who you are, woven into your existence in outwardly, non-obvious ways.
2. Love doesn’t end with death.
It shifts shape…it’s sometimes in the warm salty tears of gratitude, and the arms wide open in sweet surrender moments; it’s in the subtle ways I choose to live life beyond his.
3. You never “move on,” you find ways to “move with” it.
4. Sometimes the smallest recollections hold the biggest meaning, and have the most profound impact.
5. Speaking his name keeps him alive in the world. And so I speak it often
6. Loss cracked me open but through those crevices, more softness, wisdom and compassion flows in.
7. Healing isn’t linear. Some days I feel peace, others I feel the ache like it’s brand new…and both are welcome.
8. Time doesn’t heal everything. Presence, connection, and peace does.
9. Grief taught me to cherish the living… to repair quickly, to hug a little longer, say “I love you” more often, and never assume there’s a next time.
10. The bond between souls never breaks. It simply changes form.
I miss you in the every-dayness of my life, Henry.
Your love continues to shape the way I live, love, and hold others through their pain.
Death… you’ve been the teacher I never wanted and yet you’ve consistently taught how poweful LOVE can be!
Forever living through me little brother
♥️
Ｃａｔｈｅｒｉｎｅ
📸 this photo hangs in my mama’s home.
Ages: Henry 16, Alex 18, Me 21
