31/03/2026
A special needs mum said something to me recently that hit hard:
“I want a life that exists outside of caring.”
And I know so many women will feel that deep in their body.
Because this is not about loving your child any less.
It is about what happens when years of stress, hypervigilance and carrying too much start swallowing you whole.
If your whole identity has become managing, surviving, anticipating, preventing, holding it all together…
of course you feel lost.
Of course you feel flat.
Of course part of you misses yourself.
That does not make you selfish.
It makes you a human being whose nervous system has been under pressure for far too long.
This is why so many forms of self care do not touch the depth of it.
Because the issue is not that you need more candles, baths or time management.
The issue is that your body has been stuck in survival for so long that rest does not actually feel like rest anymore.
You cannot mindset your way out of a body that feels constantly on alert.
This is why I care so much about somatic healing.
Because when we work with the body, not just the thoughts, things start to shift.
You begin to feel safer.
Softer.
More present.
More like you again.
You are allowed to be a devoted mum and still want more for your life.
You are allowed to want joy, space, identity, breath, peace.
You do not have to disappear in order to love your child well.
I made a short video explaining why somatic healing can be such a missing piece for burnt out special needs mums.
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