20/01/2026
Have you ever noticed how we react when it starts raining? 🌧️
We might think:
💭 This shouldn’t be happening.
💭 Why now?
💭 I can’t deal with this.
In many ways, this is how we respond to life’s difficult moments too.
As humans, we often resist pain and hardship. There’s a part of us that fears that accepting reality means agreeing with it as though acceptance says, “This is okay.” So we fight what’s happening, wish it away, or try to escape it.
But resisting reality doesn’t stop the rain. It just leaves us tense, often stressed, and exhausted. Resisting reality increases our distress and adds to our pain.
✨ This is where radical acceptance comes in. ✨
Radical acceptance is a core skill in Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT). It is about acknowledging reality as it is, without judgment or resistance. It’s like noticing: It’s raining right now. No arguing. No “shoulds.” Just the facts.
This doesn’t mean we like or approve of the rain, or stop looking for shelter. It means we stop adding extra suffering by fighting what already is.
🌱 Why radical acceptance helps:
• Reduces emotional suffering
• Processing emotions in more helpful ways
• Moving forward
• Increases acceptance of others
• Helps us respond, rather than react
🧘♀️ Practising radical acceptance can look like:
• Pausing and taking a breath
• Naming what’s happening inside and outside of you, sticking to the facts
• Letting go of the need to control outcomes and thoughts like “this shouldn’t be happening”
• Offering yourself compassion in the moment
• Remember the impermanence of emotions and situations: 'this too shall pass'
Interested in learning more?
👉 See our website for information about our upcoming DBT group therapy programs where you can build radical acceptance and other DBT skills.
