21/01/2026
One of the most powerful aspects of the Calmbirth program is how it encourages couples to reflect together and come into alignment about the kind of birth they wish to experience. For some couples, this can be challenging, as each partner may bring different beliefs, fears, or expectations about the birth process. This was the case for Sarah and Aidan, one of my Calmbirth couples, who initially held opposing views.
“The course was absolutely a turning point between anxiety and panic, and peace and confidence about labour. especially in how Aidan and I would move through it together. I was leaning towards wanting a peaceful, positive, preferably natural experience, while Aidan viewed birth as a potentially dangerous medical event that needed to be endured as quickly and painlessly as possible. We ultimately wanted the same outcome, but it often felt like we were pulling in opposite directions, which made me feel nervous and sad. I didn’t want to be ‘robbed’ of the beautiful, bonding experience I knew was possible. The course became a bridge between us, helping us create a shared vision of what we wanted.”
Another central theme of the Calmbirth course is birthing as a team. Once the birth partner’s integral role is clearly defined, couples begin to understand just how vital that support is, not only physically, through comfort measures, but also psychologically, by fostering calm, confidence, and advocacy during decision-making. This was something Sarah and Aidan experienced firsthand.
“Aidan was riding the contractions with me, offering encouragement, rubs, juice poppers, and gentle reminders to breathe deeply. It was the only phase of labour where I could truly relax and surrender to the contractions. This was the second great gift of Calmbirth. I had previously worried that we might not be on the same page during labour, but the course helped us develop a shared vision, a strong understanding of Aidan’s critical role, and plenty of practice entering a connected, calm space together. That sense of unity carried through the entire labour, especially during the precious shower hours.”
Finally, because Calmbirth is a holistic, evidence-based, and unbiased program, all birth possibilities are explored so couples feel informed and prepared, whatever path their birth may take.
“One of the greatest gifts of Calmbirth for me was being given ‘permission’ to choose a medicated birth if I wanted to. Previously, I would have seen that as a failure. Letting go of that belief lifted a huge emotional burden.”
