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When I finally began to connect with my feelings, it was anger that awakened first. Anger that woke me up to my life. An...
19/10/2025

When I finally began to connect with my feelings, it was anger that awakened first. Anger that woke me up to my life. Anger in service of Love that saved me.

Full article on Substack.

I started writing for the pleasure of writing and out of an undefined need to share my story. Now I realise I’m writing to make sense of my life and as a way to reclaim and redefine my identity post deconstruction and divorce. It’s a long road and I’m inviting you to join me on it. If you’d like to join me, please consider subscribing on Substack. Link in bio. 🐦‍🔥

There’s something very powerful about the way we move and orient our bodies. It becomes part of the story we tell even i...
28/09/2025

There’s something very powerful about the way we move and orient our bodies. It becomes part of the story we tell even if we aren’t aware of it. When I stand in my lounge room and face my body eastward, I’m making a conscious choice to orient towards hope, towards the promise of new life and the dawning of new understanding and new levels of awareness. It’s the art and power of living symbolism.

When my world felt as though it was falling apart, when it felt like I was falling apart, I spent a great deal of time oriented towards my grief. It was all I could feel, all I could see. For weeks I lived constantly with ‘eyes set weary on the sinking sun.’ Consumed by everything I’d lost, spiralling around how and why it was lost, wrestling with the desire to get it all back and the deeper, truer desire to let it go.

This was necessary.

This was the point.

I knew as surely as anything that if I resisted my grief or tried to control it and contain it, I would miss this opportunity and the treasures of growth and self-knowledge that it offered me. But it was the daily orientation of my body towards the eastern horizon, the consistent repetitive practice of facing the sunrise and the promise of tomorrow, that reminded me that even as I walked through the lengthening shadows into the dark of night, dawn was always coming. I could soften towards the pain, surrender to the process, knowing I would emerge again into daylight, no matter how long the night.

And so I stood facing East, and found the courage to follow the dying sun into the Underworld.

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09/09/2025

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01/09/2025

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43.✨A quiet birthday this year. A very tender, quiet day full of tender, small things. Texts and voice messages exchange...
04/07/2025

43.

A quiet birthday this year. A very tender, quiet day full of tender, small things. Texts and voice messages exchanged with the dearest of friends. FaceTime with my precious baby nephew. My eldest child away for the week, sending me heartfelt messages from interstate about how impossibly ancient I am. (“Don’t look a day over 350,” he says. Sweet talker.) And my other two babies filling my day with sweetness.
I am bone tired. All of my feelings are right here, just beneath the surface of my skin. I feel like water running over stone, thin and transparent and insubstantial. Life has taken turn after unthinkable turn and I am just barely here. But today my incredibly brave daughter wrote her love for me in a letter that I will treasure forever, reminding me that my courage isn’t only for me - she’s watching and learning, especially when I don’t know it. And my youngest daughter lent me her unflagging joy and the tenderness of her big caring heart from the moment she woke until the moment her head hit the pillow tonight. And we ate Woolies cupcakes straight from the tray and let the single candle burn too long and panicked about smoke alarms that didn’t go off and played card games and sang in the car and fell asleep cuddling. It was fragile and ordinary and perfect.
43 slipped in under the radar, quiet amidst the madness that is 2025. Quiet like the turning of a page.

She’s burning. But it’s for her own good.
12/05/2025

She’s burning. But it’s for her own good.

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