11/02/2026
How does it feel for you when your child all of a sudden chucks a tanty? Hahaha 😂
Your brain goes “Holy sh$*!! 🤯 How do I stop this?” Because it makes us feel uncomfortable 😬. It’s hard for us to sit in discomfort – it’s not something we’re taught to do, so not many of us are good at it… me included! 🙋♀️
Plus, we as adults feel we have to fix everything!
It’s our child, therefore our responsibility, to calm our child’s nervous system and fix whatever they’re complaining about so we can go on with our happy lives 😌✨ Isn’t that right?
I’m telling you here and now… STOP! ✋
This is the first step. Stop whatever you’re doing and just watch your child for a second 👀. It doesn’t have to be long – even though it feels like an eternity – it’s only a second or maybe two before you open your mouth.
Next is to BREATHE 🌬️😮💨
Have you noticed when we get into a stressful moment (eg. our child having a meltdown) we hold our breath? That alone sets our nervous system off into a spiralling stressed-out state – that’s when we yell, scream, threaten, smack… basically turning into our parents (which we never want to do).
But when you breathe – and focus on a longer exhalation 🌬️– you switch on the Frontal Cortex part of your brain 🧠, your Intelligence Centre – the one that differentiates us from animals.
When this is working, you’re more likely to make a responsive response rather than a reactive one. Meaning you respond with kindness and patience . Then we can validate them and their feelings 🤗, which will de-escalate the situation and stress by more than 50% – how good is that?!
Would you like help dealing with your toddler’s behaviour? 👶💬
📞 Give me a call – link in bio 🔗💛
