21/02/2022
It’s ok to feel what we feel, the way we respond to our feelings is modelled to our kids
Thanks Lelia Schott, Synergy: gentle parenting resources. for creating this lovely graphic 💕
Being calm” is one of the most misunderstood parts of regulation. Being calm is not the point- learning how to stay mindfully connected to ourselves in the midst of the internal activation we experience is the the goal of learning how to regulate.
When we put more value on being calm, we not only send a message that the other emotional states inside us are “not as good” setting ourselves up to feel guilt and shame when they arise or when being calm is a struggle, but we also set the stage to inadvertently bypass the most important part of the regulation experience- Learning how to mindfully “be with” all aspects of our human experience.
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