Heart Talk Counselling

05/03/2026

A spectacular and powerful book for anyone who has not yet discovered 🙏🏼

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02/03/2026

Beautiful 🌷

21/02/2026

04/02/2026

This!!! 🙌💜

You care deeply, and you often notice other people’s pain before they even name it.

You want to help, support, and show up, even when it costs you something.

That instinct becomes harmful when empathy keeps pulling you past your own limits.

Empathy without boundaries leads to exhaustion, resentment, and quiet self-abandonment.

Boundaries protect your emotional and mental health while allowing you to care without losing yourself.

They help you decide what is yours to carry and what is not.

You can understand someone’s pain and still step back when it starts to harm you.

You can be compassionate and still say no without guilt.

Helping others should not require sacrificing your peace, energy, or sense of self.

Ask yourself
• Is this my responsibility
• What happens to me if I keep giving this much
• What do I need to stay grounded

Protecting yourself is not selfish.

It is how you stay whole while helping others.

26/01/2026

Brilliant summary of the experience and cau of complex PTSD, common misconceptions around mental health challenges and the ways we start to heal 💜

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DT9BpEHAZ7Q/?igsh=MTk3ODlmNG03NDM5MA==

09/01/2026

So wonderful to hear this being articulated. The majority of my clients I would say are in this category and so much of our work together is the unravelling of this very dynamic and the brainwashing they have experienced that it was somehow their fault.

💜 You make sense 💜

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06/01/2026

So excited to see this post. I was just thinking in the last few weeks that I should write something on this exact topic.

At a time when boundaries is such a hot word thrown around there is so much nuance that is being missed. It's very easy for those who have struggled with boundaries to hide behind them as sudden and abrasive walls that destroy relationships rather than utilise them as an important tool to bring clarity and safety and more closeness in relationships.

They are presented abruptly with little information or opportunity for the other person to understand what is being requested and respond in kind through behaviour and validation. Such individuals have usually suppressed their own needs 1000 times over and then suddenly snapped and bring in what they think is a justified boundary, cutting off the person they have told themselves is "toxic" or selfish.

What results is deep hurt and confusion as the recipient has been in the dark much of the relationship without the person having spoken up for themselves with many simple boundaries that were appropriate, only to suddenly encounter a wall followed by cutting off. No space or invitation is provided for further conversation or understanding which may then induce much shame for the person and a tragically missed opportunity for greater understanding.

And what such people don't see is that have they communicated deeds early before March previous trauma had been repeatedly triggered they would likely have been able to do it in such a manner that the person would've lovingly responded with curiosity and care. So many valuable relationships lost this way.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DTIQnBlEnwk/?igsh=MXFyaHV0cWVna2swcA=

05/01/2026

THIS! 💜🌷

03/01/2026

So imperative to be aware of these elements. Scarey to think of how many coaches are out there working with clients on managing such challenges with no understanding of the complexity accomplice by neurodiversity, let alone trauma. Great to have this info start to get out there 💜

30/12/2025

Best therapy ever!!!