Hollie Murdoch Therapy

16/05/2024

How to tell the therapy puppy that she’s not actually the therapist 😂

28/09/2023

Trust is at the heart of relationship. It is difficult to be truly vulnerable if the trust has been eroded. Trust isn’t built overnight; it takes time. In a relationship, many small moments added together become the building blocks of trust. It might be when you fought with your parents, and your partner took your side, the time you shared that you had been hurt in your last relationship and your partner gave you a warm, comforting hug, or when they said they would be somewhere at a particular time and they kept their word. All of these small moments add up over time and build a solid foundation of trust.⁣
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When our partner is inconsistent, and uncompassionate when we are vulnerable, and other times defensive, we learn that we cannot trust the response we will get. It limits the intimacy within the relationship.⁣
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Learning to be empathetic with your partner is one of the most powerful things you can do to build trust in your relationship. Empathy is the ability to stand in another person’s shoes and see the world from their perspective. Empathy helps with defensiveness. If we tend to be defensive in conflict, taking a moment to see the world through our partner’s eyes will often allow us to take more responsibility.
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If you find you can’t trust your partner in the small things, what will happen in the big things?⁣
Focusing on building a solid foundation for your relationship, using this list will help.

28/09/2023

Trust is at the heart of relationship. It is difficult to be truly vulnerable if the trust has been eroded. Trust isn’t built overnight; it takes time. In a relationship, many small moments added together become the building blocks of trust. It might be when you fought with your parents, and your partner took your side, the time you shared that you had been hurt in your last relationship and your partner gave you a warm, comforting hug, or when they said they would be somewhere at a particular time and they kept their word. All of these small moments add up over time and build a solid foundation of trust.⁣
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When our partner is inconsistent, and uncompassionate when we are vulnerable, and other times defensive, we learn that we cannot trust the response we will get. It limits the intimacy within the relationship.⁣
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💕Learning to be empathetic with your partner is one of the most powerful things you can do to build trust in your relationship. Empathy is the ability to stand in another person’s shoes and see the world from their perspective. Empathy helps with defensiveness. If we tend to be defensive in conflict, taking a moment to see the world through our partner’s eyes will often allow us to take more responsibility.
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If you find you can’t trust your partner in the small things, what will happen in the big things?⁣
Focusing on building a solid foundation for your relationship, using this list will help.⁣

10/09/2023

Attachment theory underpins my work with couples. It creates a meaningful and effective map of distress between partners. Often partners aren’t aware of what’s causing their angst but when they understand their patterns of behaviour based on normal biological needs it helps to open up a different way of communicating with each other 💚🪴

16/11/2022

Your words are magical, let your partner know that you see how beautiful they are 💗

22/08/2022