05/12/2021
ONE! Phew, what a year 😮💨⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I am so proud to be the mum of this gorgeous, cheeky, LOUD, caring, playful, curious, stubborn and energetic little boy who has just started to take his first steps! Wow things are about to get a whole lot crazier. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When I found out I was going to become a mother, I knew it would involve a lot of change, but I didn’t realise that there would be a permanent shift within myself that would begin from first finding out that I was pregnant, and would continue to evolve through birth, the 4th trimester, and beyond. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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There is a term I learned of recently called ‘Matrescence’, which gives greater understanding to the shift that women go through when they become mothers, and refers to this time as a permanent change in a woman, a change to the same level as what we experience in puberty. I think a lot of women, myself included, expect to give birth, go through the postpartum recovery period and then everything essentially goes back to the way it was, plus the addition of a baby on your hip! But the change we experience when we become mothers, through the traditional sense of the word, as well as through surrogacy, adoption and miscarriage, is on a cellular level - hormonally, physically, mentally, and spiritually. It is a change that is deep and rooted within us. And just like the change in puberty, it is a permanent shift. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I have found this comforting to know as it has allowed me to fall into my new role with more acceptance, understanding and compassion towards myself. Rather than fighting to become the woman I was before, I am allowing the fundamental shift within me to compliment who I was before and offer a new perspective on the way I see the world and the way the world sees me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Have you felt a shift within yourself since becoming a mother? Have you embraced it or have you struggled to reconcile your new self with your previous self?