09/09/2025
I love this post of Lucy’s (for many reasons). In any manual therapy, the true skill is in being both precise and gentle. When you have a clear understanding of the anatomy; know exactly which structures you are influencing and why (locally and globally); and can feel how they are responding (and therefore know when a change has occurred), you don't need to use force. Precision and finesse allow you to achieve the right amount of change without doing too much or too little.
Softness then – as Lucy writes – is a strength because along with this skill, you are valuing and honouring the horse’s experience throughout the process as well. Softness, calmness and intentional movements and energies are always appreciated by the horse. And as they are the ones who are ultimately doing the healing (the therapist is simply removing the barriers to health so that the horse can self-heal), their experience throughout the process should be in line with an approach that creates the best environment in which to heal.
If you have followed American horse trainer and author Mark Rashid's work, you will know how highly he also speaks of developing internal and external softness (in both working with horses and in how one approaches life in general). And this is because softness transforms – it’s about having the sensitivity to feel the changes the horse makes (both internally and externally). Developing softness whilst also mastering ‘feel’ takes time and a dedication to the work. The experience gained as manual therapists trained in osteopathy is through a significant amount of time spent touching the horse and understanding the different feel of fascia, muscle, ligament, tendon, bone, joint, barriers, and so on. Having this developed sense of feel and then applying it with softness, precision and intention is a game-changer (and this cannot be achieved from machines and gadgets). A treatment session is an ongoing two-way communication – in which the therapist is ‘asking’ certain things from the horse’s body and the horse's body is ‘answering’. The subtlest of responses and changes needs to be received and understood. Often the softer you are in your hands, in your body and in your mental awareness, the more you receive the feedback. Softness allows the ‘awareness’ of the therapist to be available to all the layers of communication the horse is giving so that only the right level of touch is used to illicit the desired change (and then we step away – ‘find it, fix it, leave it alone’).
Furthermore, the softness of your own presence—your way of being in the world—is equally important. It lends itself to compassion, kindness, empathy, and respect, all of which ultimately deepens the connection, which is vital in a therapeutic environment.
Nicely written Lucy and so very true! 💙
Working with horses every day has taught me so much about softness, not as a weakness, but as quiet strength.
Horses don’t respond to force. They respond to presence, to patience, to genuine connection.
As an equine osteopath, I’ve learned that real change doesn’t come from pushing harder, it comes from listening more deeply, holding space, and meeting each horse exactly where they are and where they need to be.
In a world that often feels hard and fast paced, I’m choosing to stay soft and kind. To lead with empathy and stay true to my values, even when it’s not the easy route.
So if you’re someone who feels deeply, and treads softly, keep going. You don’t need to toughen up to make an impact.
Softness heals. Authenticity connects. And there’s real power in that.