30/03/2026
Which stage of Breaking up with a toxic person are you at?
Breaking up with a toxic person can leave you feeling so confused, lost, feeling not good enough, and this was all by design.
They want you to be seeking closure, validation and always on the hook to give them their supply.
During my years Counselling people through abusive relationships, there a three clear stages i have found.
1. Just broken up. In this stage you will be solely focused on the the toxic person, Why did they do this? Are they a narcissist? Can they really love me? They are toxic?
This stage is the hardest to break, as your desperately trying to find some sort or answer, closure or hope they come back.
2. Focus on the relationship dynamics. How did all this happen? They did this, which made me do that? Whats Complex Trauma and Codependency? twin flames, im an empath. I can start to see maybe I have issues i need to work on.
3. All about me. Am I the narcissist? I have toxic traits. How did my childhood effect all my relationships, how do I change these patterns of behaviour, what do I want to do with my life? Should I study? Im going to assert boundaries
The longer you keep focused on the snake, the more you delay your healing, which is the same as the 2nd stage, dont get stuck their, keep swimming and learning because the 3rd stage is where life gets amazing ♥️
Troy will be taking on new Exercise Psychotherapy participants, when he is back from his upskilling trip in Thailand.
This mixes Martial Arts or Gym with Counselling and Coaching, to help you move
Spots will be limited, so please email info@completehealthgeelong.com.au to register your interest.
In the meantime, you can download this free workbook on finding your core values, written by Troy, to help bring some focus into your life.
https://whatsyourcorevalues.tiiny.site/_auth?fbclid=IwVERDUAQowb1leHRuA2FlbQIxMABzcnRjBmFwcF9pZAwzNTA2ODU1MzE3MjgAAR6J8y6U41fDQa_S_8bP1yThooENayXnOxLwH24ZtCOWXPzkK_RC-zkKUwA-Zw_aem_6l3unW71FjrvATWh5-myzQ
