Personal Psychology

06/03/2026

The game is in an hour. The presentation is tomorrow. Your partner is right there.
And your brain has already decided something is about to go wrong.
Performance anxiety hijacks the moments that matter most, your career, your sport, your s*x life, and turns anticipation into dread. If you've ever frozen, spiralled, or gone blank when it counted, this is for you. https://personalpsychology.com.au/performance-anxiety

22/01/2026

Moral injury arises from living with what someone has done, failed to do, or witnessed and cannot reconcile with who one believes they are, leading to persistent guilt, identity-level shame, withdrawal from connections and intimacy, and a belief that redemption is not allowed.

Moral injury is deep existential distress marked by guilt and shame from doing, failing to prevent, or being associated with immoral acts or institutions.

14/01/2026

The 3-3-3 framework helps with early-stage relationship evaluation, the 7-7-7 rule can guide you to maintain that spark and connection, and the 5-5-5 method could help with resolving those conflicts. Not if they arise, but rather when they arise.

Use 3-3-3 rule in early stages of dating to decide to continue, 7-7-7 rule to maintain connection, and 5-5-5 method to resolve repeating conflicts.

17/11/2025

Self-validation is the practice of recognising and believing in your own thoughts, feelings, and experiences without needing confirmation from others to make them feel real or important. It’s an internal compass that says, “My emotions matter. My thoughts are valid. My experiences count, regardless of what anyone else thinks.”

Self-validation is the practice of recognisng and accepting your own thoughts, emotions, and experiences without judgment. Understanding what leads to your feelings, acknowledging them as valid, and responding with kindness and compassion.

22/09/2025

Navigating relationships in today’s world can feel like walking through a maze with constantly shifting walls. The ways we connect, communicate, and commit have been transformed by technology, societal shifts, and evolving norms. These changes can lead to both opportunities and challenges, often leaving people feeling lost or overwhelmed.

Don't get ghosted in a situationship. Be clear about what you’re looking for. Ignore the "market" mindset; focus on getting to know people as individuals.

04/04/2025

CBT helps you more with your mental health than a painkiller helps you with your headache, this is how effective it is

The reason we know CBT works is because we can measure the effect, or effectiveness of it, by comparing how people feel and function before and after therapy.

15/03/2025

Breakups and the resulting distress are unfortunately common. We may experience symptoms of depression, feelings of rejection and betrayal, and physical manifestations such as chest pain and compromised immune function. Let’s see how a psychologist can help you.

Psychologist can help after a Breakup to get over someone. Depression, Rumination, Poor Sleep, and getting sick is all common symptoms after a breakup.

15/03/2025

A common question is, can a psychologist diagnose mental health conditions? Understanding the differences between psychologists, clinical psychologists, psychiatrists, and counsellors helps clarify who is qualified to diagnose mental health conditions and what their specific roles in the process.

Can a psychologist diagnose? Psychologists are registered professionals, trained in human behaviour, diagnostic and treatment of mental health disorders, but not all psychologists can support clients with diagnosis.

19/01/2025

In our fast-paced world, the pressure to say yes is huge. But the truth is, always saying yes and trying to please people isn’t sustainable. It’s a one-way ticket to burnout, resentment, and potentially mental health problems.

The pressure to want to help and say yes is huge. To avoid long-term problems, learn the art of saying no by our tips and tricks and lots of practice.

19/01/2025

Cognitive inflexibility is a key feature of various mental disorders, reflecting an individual’s difficulty in adapting their thinking or behaviour in response to changing circumstances. This rigidity can show up as an inability to shift attention or change strategies, often leading to unhelpful behaviours. In mental health, cognitive inflexibility is linked to compulsivity, where individuals struggle to move away from repetitive thoughts or actions despite negative outcomes. This can worsen symptoms and make coping harder, making it an important focus in understanding and treating mental health conditions.

Cognitive flexibility is linked to mental wellness. Inflexibility to compulsivity and mental health problems. Learn how to increase your cognitive flexibility.

19/01/2025

Perfectionism, especially when it manifests as unrelenting standards, can be a silent saboteur in both your personal and professional life. Psychologists often observe firsthand how these high expectations can lead to significant stress and hinder overall well-being. Let’s explore what perfectionism really is, its impact on mental health, and ways to overcome it.

Overcoming Perfectionism - a unrelenting standards for flawless performance driven by a fear of failure, creating high anxiety, depression, and conflict with others. You can overcome it with therapy.

08/12/2024

Breakups are never easy, and our online presence can make them even harder to navigate. Imagine scrolling through your social media feed, only to be hit with a post from your ex that makes your heart sink. Maybe it’s a photo of them smiling, a status update about how “great” life is, or, the worst of all, a glimpse into their new relationship. It’s a gut punch, an emotional setback just when you thought you were starting to heal. Sound familiar?

Breakups are never easy, and our online presence can make them even harder to navigate. Imagine scrolling through your social media feed, only to be hit with