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18/12/2025

Loving someone living with addiction doesn’t define YOU just like addiction doesn’t define THEM

We can have many beliefs about ourselves and them when we are navigating this time - unfortunately most are unhelpful, untrue & extremely heavy…

I am here to tell you that you can love someone who is living with addiction and have consistency, reliability, calmness and connection but it needs to begin with us. We can create a life that does have joy and happiness, but once again it begins with us and it starts by creating calm in the body with somatic therapy

Working with me means beginning with the foundation of being able to calm your nervous system, we create this space and everything else is built on top of it which means we have a clear safe calm space to heal from.

Calming the nervous system gives us a beautiful calm foundation to operate on which means less reactive interactions, you can find space to communicate kindly and with connection and understanding
🔥It means being aware of how you FEEL at a body sensation level so you can calm the body which will soothe the ‘monkey mind’
🔥It means giving yourself space to take time out before you lash out at your loved one in frustration which leads to less arguing and more conscious conversations
🔥It means you can shift the way you feel at a nervous system level and build a more connected, calm and clear connection with yourself and your loved one

Life Beyond Addiction is a fantastic program I have created from my lived experience & utilising my knowledge from my qualifications, to be exactly what you need to heal deeply and quickly whilst loving someone who is living with addiction.

✅DM or comment HEAL for the details

Take care
Nicole

13/12/2025

Recovery can be a powerful step, but it is in a reset button.

Quite often, if the work isn’t done many of the same behaviours continue to play out:
The lying, the disrespect, the disconnection, the mistrust and so much more.

Another important thing to remember is that as loved ones, we’ve often been in survival mode for months, sometimes years while loving someone through addiction.
We can’t just switch that off.

We don’t hear the words “I’m in recovery” and automatically feel safe, relaxed or trusting again.

This is why I believe it’s so important for loved ones to begin their own recovery work LONG before the person chooses to do theirs.

Because what if they never choose sobriety?
And what if they do but when they get there, you still can’t relax enough to enjoy it or believe it?

if you love someone in addiction, you’re healing matters too.
Your nervous system needs support.
You deserve healthy boundaries.
You deserve to feel valued, cared for and safe within yourself.

You don’t have to wait for everything to be better to start taking care of you.
You can start now.

💛 if you love someone in addiction, I’m here to support you.

💛Follow along, DM me if you’re looking for support or book a free call via the link in my bio to see how I can help you navigate this time.

Take care,
Nicole x

11/12/2025

Recovery isn’t a finish line.
It’s not a magical moment when everything suddenly becomes peaceful, connected, whole and honest.

And if you love someone living with addiction, please don’t wait for their recovery before taking care of yourself.

Because he’s the truth, no one talks about:
Recovery still has triggers.
It still has disconnection.
It still has old behaviours, emotional distance, money issues, mood swings and days where you feel like you’re walking on eggshells all over again.

recovery doesn’t erase the impact of addiction, it just begins a new chapter of healing and you deserve support long before you get there.

Your nervous system, your clarity, your sense of self, they all matter now.
Not ‘one day’
Not ‘when things settle’
Not ‘when he gets clean’

Start your healing too.
You don’t have to wait for anyone else to change before you reclaim your peace 💛

If you are navigating this, please know you are not alone
My DMS are open and I do offer free support calls x

08/12/2025

One of the biggest shifts I made while loving my partner through addiction was this:

I stopped trying to fix him.
I stopped telling him what to do.
I stopped listing every mistake, every consequence, every hurt.

And not because those things weren’t real.
They definitely were.
But because it wasn’t helping either of us!

Every time I lectured, micromanaged or tried to control him, I felt like his mother instead of his partner and I felt awful about the person I became in those moments.

And the truth is, he already knew.
He already knew he messed up.
He already felt the weight.
The voice inside his own head was already tearing him down harder than anything I could say.

My words weren’t inspiring change… There was cementing the shame that was keeping him stuck.

Shame doesn’t create transformation.
Shame disconnects.
Shame drives people deeper into the behaviour they’re already drowning in.

when I stepped back, not abandoning him but releasing control, everything shifted.

I focused on me.
On my own healing.
On my boundaries.
On showing up with compassion instead of urgency
On being grounded instead of reactive

And the message became
“I’m here, I’m looking after myself too. If you want help, I’ll be here”

Sometimes the thing we think is helping is actually preventing the connection and safety that’s required for change

Letting go wasn’t giving up
It was choosing a different way, one that didn’t cost my self worth, my peace or our relationship.

If you’re in this place too, loving someone you can’t Rescue, you’re not alone.
There is another way that doesn’t require you to lose yourself in the process

DM support if you want details about my program for partners navigating a loved ones addiction.
I’m here for you, you don’t need to do this alone.

Take care,
Nicole x

05/12/2025

One of the biggest shifts I made while loving my partner through addiction was this:

💛 I stopped trying to fix him.
💛 I stopped telling him what to do.
💛 I stopped listing every mistake, every consequence, every hurt.

And not because those things weren’t real.
They were.
But because it wasn’t helping either of us.

Every time I lectured, micromanaged or tried to control him, I felt like his mother instead of his partner and I felt awful about the person I became in those moments.

And the truth is, he already knew!
He already knew he’d messed up.
He already felt the weight.
The voice inside his own head was already tearing him down harder than anything I could possibly say.

My words weren’t inspiring change… they were cementing the shame that was keeping him stuck.

Shame doesn’t create transformation.
Shame disconnects and isolates.
Shame drives people deeper into the behaviour they’re already drowning in.

When I stepped back, not abandoning him, but releasing control is when everything shifted.

I focused on me.
On my own healing.
On my boundaries.
On showing up with compassion instead of urgency.
On being grounded instead of reactive.

And the message became
“I I’m here, I’m looking after myself too but if you want help, I’m not going anywhere”

Sometimes the thing we think is helping is actually preventing the connection and safety required for change.

Letting go wasn’t giving up.
It was choosing a different way, one that didn’t cost self worth, my peace or our relationship.

💛 if you’re in this place too, loving someone you can’t Rescue, you’re not alone but there is another way that doesn’t require you to lose yourself in the process.

❤️ DM SUPPORT if you want details about my program for partners navigating a loved ones addiction.
❤️ Alternatively, you can book a free call via the link in my bio

Let’s get started in finding a peaceful place for you to live again
Take care,
Nicole x

01/12/2025

Loving a partner through addiction turns “just hold on for one more day” into a full-time lifestyle!

And honestly?

Most of us have been holding on for years without even realising how much it’s taken from our bodies, and minds and our hearts.

That’s the thing about survival mode, it feels normal until it doesn’t.
UNTIL the sleepless night to catch up.
UNTIL the hypervigilance becomes exhausting.
UNTIL Your nervous system is begging for a break, but you don’t know how to give it one.

If you’re laughing at this real, it’s probably because it’s painfully accurate!
And you deserve more than white knuckling your way through every day

You can heal.
You can feel safe again.
You can reconnect with yourself even while your partner is on their own journey.

💛 if you’re ready for support that’s actually for you!
DM me SUPPORT and I’ll send you the details from my program for partners who love someone living with addiction

You don’t have to keep HOLDING ON alone.
Take care,
Nicole x

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