LIFE Wellbeing Services

30/10/2025

🌱 When Your World Revolves Around Your ADHD Child, Who is Revolving Around You? 🌱

Dear Parents, we know:

Your every day can feel like a battle.
From the morning rush to get up and dressed, to the distractions and procrastination during homework, to managing the challenges of impulsive behaviors…
You pour in double the patience, time, and energy.

You tirelessly learn new techniques and strategies, all to give your child the best support.
But on this long journey, we want to ask you: Dear parent, are you taking care of yourself?

💡 Caring for a child with ADHD is a marathon, not a sprint.
The constant energy drain, the misunderstandings from the outside world, and the inner anxiety and self-blame can easily make you feel:

· Drained, as if running on empty
· Isolated, feeling like no one truly understands
· Emotionally complex, caught between love, frustration, guilt, and helplessness

These feelings are completely normal and valid. They don't mean you aren't good enough; they mean you need to be seen and supported.

🤗 So, please allow us to remind you: Your psychological well-being is not a luxury; it's a necessity.

How can you start caring for your inner self?

1. Allow Yourself to Feel: It's okay to feel frustrated, angry, or sad. Acknowledging these emotions is the first step to managing them.

2. "Recharge" Your Batteries: Even just 10 minutes a day, do one thing that helps you relax: deep breathing, listening to a song, taking a short walk. Your emotional stability is your child's best "calming agent."

3. Find Your "Battle Buddies": Don't face this alone. Join a parent support group or talk to a trusted friend. You will find you are not alone, and the shared experiences and support are incredibly powerful.

4. Seek Professional Help: Talking to a psychological counselor or therapist is not a sign of weakness. It's a safe harbor where you can unpack your burdens, sort through your emotions, and regain strength and perspective.

Remember:
You have to put on your own oxygen mask first before you can help others.
When you fill up your own "emotional fuel tank," you will have more abundant patience and wisdom to walk alongside your child on their growth journey.

➡️ In the comments below, we invite you to share:
"Today, one small thing I did for myself was ______."
(Examples: had a warm cup of tea, read 5 pages of a book, sat in quiet stillness for a moment)

Let's see each other, support each other, and warm each other's hearts here. 💖

28/10/2025

Is There Someone in Your Heart You Never Properly Said Goodbye To?

Sometimes, it's not the loud crashes, but the silences in our daily lives that whisper something to us—

Do you find yourself lingering in these moments?

🍂 Losing patience over small things, feeling inexplicably irritated by a family member's simple comment
🍂 Sitting at a lively gathering, yet feeling like an outsider looking in
🍂 Lying awake at night with a heavy, indistinct weight on your chest
🍂 Increasingly using "I'm fine" to gently push away caring hugs

These emotions that seem to belong to the 'present' might actually be an unresolved loss, gently knocking on the door of your heart.

That 'loss' isn't necessarily a person—
It could be a shattered dream, a faded friendship,
A way of life you can never return to,
Or a possibility you once imagined but that never came to be.

When we don't properly say goodbye, the grief that goes unacknowledged doesn't just vanish. It transforms into:
▫️ An invisible wall you put up against those closest to you
▫️ An inability to truly feel joy in the present moment
▫️ A sensitivity and exhaustion that even you don't understand

A Gentle Invitation to Pause
If you see glimpses of yourself in these words, perhaps you could:

🌿 Acknowledge the validity of that loss—what you lost deserves to be taken seriously.
🌿 Give yourself ten minutes to quietly sit with the part of you that is still hurting.
🌿 Try using words, art, or a conversation with someone you trust to express those 'hard-to-define' feelings.
🌿 Practice telling yourself: "This heaviness I carry is not my fault."

Healing is not about forgetting; it's about learning to move forward with love.

When we courageously illuminate the corners of our hearts, the spaces once occupied by sorrow can eventually grow new strength.

22/10/2025

“I’m fine.” — But is that really the truth?

The heaviest burdens are often those carried in silence.
Society tells us that “men don’t cry easily,” but true strength is not about enduring pain alone.

🔹 Do you tend to bury your stress, anxiety, and exhaustion deep inside?
🔹 Do you find it harder to talk about your emotions than to endure the pain itself?
🔹 Have you ever felt lonely, yet still put on a brave face and said, “Everything’s okay”?

It’s time to redefine what strength really means.

True strength is the courage to face your inner struggles, the bravery to break the silence, and the wisdom to seek support.

We believe: Breaking the Silence IS Building Strength.

This is a safe space — free of judgment, full of understanding. Here, your feelings are valid, and your story matters.

If you’re ready to start this conversation, like, share, or comment a “👊” below to show your support.

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09/10/2025

World Mental Health Day · Your Feelings Matter

Tomorrow (October 10th) is World Mental Health Day. This year's theme is "Mental health is a universal human right."

I want to take this moment to gently remind every friend seeing this:

🌱 Your feelings are valid, no matter how complex or contradictory they may seem.
🌱 Reaching out for help is an act of courage, whether it's talking to a friend or seeking professional support.
🌱 Caring for yourself is not selfish; it is a necessity for survival.

In our fast-paced world, we are often so busy taking care of everyone and everything that we forget to listen to the voice within. Today, why not give yourself a quiet moment to ask, "Hey, how are you, really?"

A few small things we can do together:
💚 Give yourself 5 minutes to simply daydream, phone-free.
💚 Send a message to a trusted friend and check in with each other.
💚 If you're feeling heavy, try deep breathing—breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 4, and exhale for 6.

No one is a perfect island. We all need connection, understanding, and to be seen.

If you are going through a difficult time, please remember that you are not alone. My inbox is always open as a safe space for you to share. Also, please remember that professional psychological support is a strong and reliable resource.

25/09/2025

🌟 Have you ever experienced a moment when you "just knew" something?
Intuition is our inherent ability to grasp information instinctively, bypassing deliberate reasoning. It's like an internal compass, quietly guiding your way. Research suggests that people who use their intuition are more likely to make decisions aligned with their values. ✨

💭 But how can you tell if it's your intuition or overthinking?
👉 Intuition: Communicates neutrally, like a “gut feeling”.
👉 Overthinking: Involves repetitive, unproductive thoughts filled with anxiety.

5 Practical Tips to Develop Your Intuition
1️⃣ Pause and Feel Your Body: Take a deep breath, and notice physical sensations (e.g., in your stomach or chest).
2️⃣ Keep an Intuition Journal: Write down those "inexplicably accurate" gut feelings to strengthen self-awareness.
3️⃣ Label the Voices in Your Head: Learn to distinguish between the "voice of fear" and the "calm inner prompt."
4️⃣ Practice with Small Decisions: Start by trusting your gut with simple choices, like what to eat for lunch or which route to take.
5️⃣ Practice Regular Mindfulness: Meditate for 5 minutes daily to quiet the mind and connect with your inner wisdom.

Trusting your intuition can be the greatest gift you give yourself. 🎁
Let that inner voice guide you toward a more conscious and empowered life!

📌 Share this with a friend who tends to overthink, and start honing your inner wisdom together.

20/09/2025

An interactive workshop. Register today and save your seat

Movement supports emotional regulation and trauma recovery. We have a professional development opportunity for those who work as therapists. If you are curious about incorporating movement into your therapeutic walk. Join us
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20/09/2025

🌸 Do you often find yourself completing tasks at the last minute? Even with plenty of time, you often end up procrastinating and overcomplicating simple things. This may not be because you’re "lazy"—it might be Parkinson’s Law at play!

📌 Parkinson’s Law states:�"Work expands to fill the time allotted for its completion."�This isn’t a scientific law, but a common time-psychology phenomenon—if we give a task too much time, we unconsciously delay it, increase its complexity, and reduce efficiency, leading to more stress.

🔍 For example:�A task that initially takes one hour might stretch over a whole week if we allow it—we procrastinate early on, overthink midway, and end up spending more mental energy.

💡 How to cope with this phenomenon?�✅ Set clear and reasonable deadlines�✅ Write down goals and track progress regularly�✅ Prioritise key tasks and learn to rank them�✅ Use a timer (e.g., Pomodoro technique) to manage time�✅ Break large tasks into smaller steps (chunking)�✅ Take regular breaks to avoid burnout�✅ Use time management tools (planners, reminders, time-tracking apps)

🌿 Good time management not only boosts your productivity—it also reduces emotional exhaustion, lowers stress, and improves work-life balance.

If you often find yourself stuck in a cycle of procrastination → anxiety, → more procrastination, consider seeking guidance through counselling to develop better time management and emotional regulation strategies.

📩 Feel free to send a private message for consultation. Let’s work together to cultivate a calmer and more efficient lifestyle.

✨ Make time your friend, not your source of stress.

18/09/2025

【Entering the "Flow": 10 Tips to Boost Efficiency and Happiness! 🚀】

Have you ever been so immersed in an activity that you lost track of time and felt fully energized and fulfilled? This is what psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi called the "Flow"! 💡

This highly focused, engaged, and dynamic mental experience not only improves productivity but also brings deep happiness. Here are 10 practical tips to help you enter the "flow"—try them out and make your work and life more amazing! ✨

1️⃣ Set Clear Goals
Clear, specific goals direct your attention and let you know what to do at each step.

2️⃣ Balance Challenge and Skill
Choose tasks that are slightly more challenging than your current ability—avoid ones that are too easy (boring) or too hard (anxiety-inducing).

3️⃣ Minimize Distractions
Turn off notifications, tidy your space, and create a distraction-free environment! 📵

4️⃣ Seek Immediate Feedback
Track your progress in real-time (e.g., break tasks into smaller steps) to maintain motivation.

5️⃣ Focus on the Present
Practice mindful breathing or a 5-minute meditation to center your mind in the moment. 🧘♀️

6️⃣ Choose Activities You Love
Passion drives flow! Engage in things you genuinely enjoy.

7️⃣ Break Down Big Tasks
Divide large goals into small steps—each completion is a positive boost. ✅

8️⃣ Set Time Limits
Use a Pomodoro timer or other time constraints to create a sense of urgency. ⏳

9️⃣ Prepare Your Body
Get enough sleep, exercise moderately, and stay hydrated to keep your brain in top condition! 💧

🔟 Practice, Practice, Practice
Flow is a skill—the more you try, the easier it becomes!

🌟 Challenge: Try one of these tips today and share your experience in the comments! 👇
➡️ Share this with a friend who needs a focus boost—unlock the magic of flow together!

29/08/2025

Have you considered that changing your mindset can shift your perspective and open you up to new possibilities?

Growth Mindset： Embracing the idea that you can develop your abilities through hard work, learning, and perseverance.
Instead of saying, "I'm just not good at math," you could say, "I can improve my math skills with practice and effort."

Abundance Mindset： Believing that there are enough resources and opportunities for everyone, which encourages collaboration and positivity.
Rather than thinking, "There’s not enough success to go around," you could think, "There are plenty of opportunities for everyone to succeed."

Solution-Oriented Mindset： Concentrating on finding solutions and taking actionable steps to overcome challenges.
Instead of dwelling on "This project is too difficult," try "What steps can I take to solve this problem?"

Accountability Mindset：Taking responsibility for your actions and decisions, and focusing on what you can control to improve your situation.
Instead of thinking, "Life is unfair, and there's nothing I can do," shift to "What can I do to change my situation or cope better with it?"


Growth Zone Mindset： Stepping out of your comfort zone to embrace new challenges, knowing that this is where growth happens.
Rather than avoiding a difficult task, think "This challenge will help me grow and learn something new."


Self-Improvement Mindset：Focusing on your own progress and striving to be better than you were yesterday, rather than comparing yourself to others.
Instead of comparing yourself to a more successful colleague, focus on "How can I improve my skills and achieve my own goals?"

Progress Over Perfection：Prioritizing continuous improvement and valuing progress, even if it's imperfect.
Instead of thinking, "This has to be perfect before I can move forward," try "Making progress is more important than perfection."

Shifting from one mindset to another can lead to significant personal and professional growth, helping you to become more resilient, adaptive, and successful.

28/08/2025

🌿 6 Things That Can Help Cure Your Chronic Stress 🌿

Stress doesn’t have to control your life. Chronic stress can affect your health, your mood, and even your relationships — but the good news is, there are simple steps you can take to bring back calm.

Here are 6 proven ways to ease chronic stress:

1️⃣ Breathe Deeply – Slow, mindful breathing tells your body it’s safe.�
2️⃣ Move Your Body – Walking, stretching, or Taichi gently releases tension.�
3️⃣ Journal It Out – Writing down your thoughts clears mental clutter.�
4️⃣ Practice Mindfulness / Prayer – Even 5 minutes a day can reset your mind and spirit.�
5️⃣ Sleep Well – Prioritize rest; your brain heals while you sleep.

6️⃣ Connect with Others – Talking with friends, family, or community reduces loneliness.

✨ But here’s the real secret:�👉 Find a hobby you love — and stick with it.
A hobby isn’t “extra.” It’s medicine for your soul. Whether it’s gardening, painting, music, cooking, or simply reading — doing something you love consistently helps your stress melt away and gives you a deeper sense of joy.

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19/08/2025

Friends, have you ever found yourself feeling weighed down by the uncertainty of what lies ahead? Perhaps you’re troubled by unmet goals, unattainable standards, or the challenges that tomorrow may bring.

It’s important to remember that the length of our lives is not something we can measure with precision. Some are blessed with many years, while others have their journeys cut short unexpectedly. This isn’t meant to evoke fear but rather to remind us of a heartwarming truth: the only moment we truly possess is "this present moment."

The future can sometimes feel like an elusive fog, and the past, a chapter that has already been written. Anxiety can often stem from our tendency to cling to "what the future may take" or "what the past has left behind." This can sap our energy and obscure the beauty that surrounds us each day.

Instead of allowing anxiety to overshadow today, consider choosing to:

1. Plant your roots in the present: Take a moment to feel your breath right now. Notice the comforting warmth and scent of your drink. Listen deeply to the person speaking to you, and marvel at the colors of the sky outside. These small, precious moments are what truly weave the fabric of our lives.

2. Live with intention for "today": This doesn’t mean acting recklessly or without thought, but rather asking yourself: “What can I do “today” to nurture a sense of fulfillment, joy, or purpose?" Whether that’s reading a few pages of a book, sharing a warm hug with a friend, completing a small task, or simply allowing yourself some time to rest.
3. Let go of the need for "perfection": Life doesn’t wait for us to reach some ideal milestone. Happiness, meaning, and growth can be found in the ordinary—or even the extraordinary—"today."

4. Cultivate gratitude for the present: A healthy body, warm sunshine, valuable relationships, cherished opportunities, even the simplicity of a smooth breath… Recognizing and appreciating these gifts can lift our spirits in remarkable ways.

While life may feel fleeting, that very fact makes every single "today" deeply precious—worthy of your full attention and presence. Though we cannot control the length of our lives, we “can” decide how to enrich its depth and beauty—beginning with embracing each "today" we’re gifted.

So today, dear friend, show yourself kindness and gentle attention to what is right before you.This is one of the most authentic and invaluable gifts you can bestow upon yourself and the world around you.

12/08/2025

6 Effective Communication Strategies for Parents of Teenagers

1. Replace "Lecturing" with "Active Listening"

Maintain eye contact, nod, and use phrases like “I see” or “Tell me more” to encourage your teen to express themselves fully.

Humanistic therapy emphasises *unconditional positive regard*—listening fosters a sense of safety.

If your teen complains about school stress, avoid saying, “You need to try harder.” Instead, say, “It sounds like you’ve been overwhelmed. What’s been the hardest part?”

2. Use "Emotion Labeling" to Defuse Conflict

When your teen is upset, name their emotions first: “You’re feeling angry because you think I don’t trust you, right?”

Identifying emotions calms the amygdala (the brain’s emotional center) and activates the prefrontal cortex (rational thinking).

Share relatable experiences: “When I was your age, I’d slam doors too when I felt misunderstood. Do you want space or a chat right now?”

3. Turn "Commands" into "Limited Choices"

- Avoid: “Turn off the game and study NOW!”

- Try instead: “We agreed on 1 hour of gaming daily. Do you want to stop now or in 10 minutes? Let me know if you need a reminder.”

Teens crave autonomy. Limited choices uphold boundaries while granting control.

4. Express Concerns with a "Nonviolent Communication" Framework

-Formula: Observation (fact) + Feeling (“I” statement) + Need + Request.


- Example: “I noticed you’ve been staying up until 2 AM this week (observation). I’m worried this might affect your health (feeling). Let’s adjust your schedule (need). Can we plan a bedtime routine together? (request)”

- Avoid triggers: Replace accusatory language like “You always…” with neutral observations.

5. Create a "Safe Word" for Heated Moments

Agree on a word (e.g., “pause”) to temporarily stop arguments. Resume the conversation after 1 hour.


High cortisol during conflict impairs rational thinking. A cooldown period restores calm.

Respect the rule. Don’t dismiss it with, “Not this again!”—this builds trust.

6. Use "Third-Party Metaphors" to Share Values

Indirect discussions reduce defensiveness. Use movies/books as conversation starters.

If your teen is glued to social media, ask, “In *Ready Player One*, people lived in VR. What real-life things do you think they missed out on?”

Watch coming-of-age films like ［Turning Red] together to spark deeper talks.

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Common Pitfalls to Avoid

❌ Treating communication as a “battle to win” → ✅ Aim to “understand”, not to “convince”.

❌ Expecting instant fixes → ✅ Build trust gradually; allow room for setbacks.

❌ Ignoring body language (eye-rolling, fidgeting) → ✅ Gently ask, “You seem uneasy. Want to talk about it?”

Implementation Tips: Start with 1-2 strategies and observe your teen’s responses. Keep a “communication journal” to track what works. Adjust your approach based on their openness and feedback. Consistency and patience are key to nurturing a stronger connection.