13/07/2021
Neuroscientists tell us that there is an eighteen-month (or so) window that is the most intense time for teen brain development. This window of development characteristically involves defiance, and an exaggerated ego that drives teens towards risk taking.
This stage of development has to run its course. In the meantime, we hold the fort. That means we do everything we can to get them through safely, with their relationship with us intact. A big part of that is allowing them to feel our unconditional love and protection, because THIS gives them the strength to learn. Thatβs what we ultimately want them to do β learn and grow into their unique self.
We might not always agree with their choices but we need to stand beside them and support them to find their way. As adults itβs our duty to support them whether we be their parents or coaches or family friends. They need a village. Letβs be the supports they need! Sometimes that does mean putting aside our own egos! May we have the strength and poise to be the adults π
Young people typically cross my path when they are between 13 and 15 years old. They are quite often taking risks, pushing boundaries, and telling the adults in their lives [β¦]