Restore your Nervous System

31/01/2026

~ It’s not change your mind and change your beliefs. No. That’s the misdirection. This is a deep core nervous system regulation. From there we create more conscious awareness and don’t repeat the narrations.

Those who teach the mind, teach to simply understand your wounds and beliefs and know your childhood and know intellect, are bypassing the real magic of the ordinary.

The true alchemy is nervous system regulation. And this can’t be done with the mind. This is a deep sensory feeling of. I do enough mind stuffing to know it was snake oil. ~

David Dayan Fisher

29/01/2026

On average, we speak about 16,000 words a day and every word we speak creates an energy intelligence.

Words can lift or lower.
✨ Positive speech → fulfilment, elevation, expansion.
⚡ Negative speech → depletion, contraction, heaviness.

In Kabbalah, harmful speech isn’t just “bad manners” - it’s an energetic force that punctures your aura - and the aura of the one you talk about. These are often referred to as the 10 forms of destructive speech:

1. Lashon Hara – speaking negatively about someone (even if it’s true)
2. Rechilut – gossiping or spreading stories
3. Motzi Shem Ra – slander or false accusations
4. Sheker – lying
5. Chanufah – flattery / brown-nosing with hidden motives
6. Leitzanut – mockery or ridicule
7. Ona’at Devarim – hurtful or oppressive speech
8. Halbanat Panim – humiliating someone
9. Kitrug – constant complaining or fault-finding
10. Klalot – cursing or harsh verbal wishing

Each of these creates a vulnerability with a specific negative vibration - around you and the other person. That’s why you can “feel” what someone is saying, even if you weren’t there to hear it. When you are in their presence, you feel drained, uneasy, or like you just can’t be around someone anymore.

The good news is … You can only be affected by someone’s words or the evil eye when you are needing something from them.

Approval.
Validation.
Support.
Sustenance.
Dependence.

That need creates an energetic opening - a place where their energy can pe*****te yours.

When you no longer seek, cling, or outsource your worth, their words have nothing to attach to.

Self-sourcing is protection.
Wholeness is sovereignty.
And independence closes energetic doors 🔐

Stay rooted in your own fullness.

📸 My words are Architecture by Yaws Trulee

29/01/2026

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Sometimes being the “villain” just means you told the truth. 💚🙏🏽

27/01/2026

Limerence: A Nervous System Note

If you’re experiencing intense attraction, longing, or preoccupation with another person, you may be in a state known as limerence.

From a nervous system perspective, limerence is not about love or lack of integrity. It is a moment of activation - often occurring when aliveness, sensuality, or emotional presence has been constrained for a long time.

Limerence frequently activates both:
• a seeking impulse (longing for closeness or connection), and
• an avoidant instinct (fear of losing autonomy or safety).

This can feel confusing, urgent, or destabilising.

Healing does not require acting on these feelings - or suppressing them.
It requires regulation and integration.

When the nervous system learns that:
• desire can be felt without being followed
• closeness doesn’t require collapse
• distance doesn’t require disconnection

…the intensity naturally softens.

What remains is often clarity, warmth, and a deeper sense of self-trust.

Limerence is not something to overcome. It is something to listen to gently.



New blog on the my website 🌿 👇🏽 💛

https://www.therestoremethod.com/post/limerence-love-the-nervous-system

27/01/2026

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27/01/2026

WOWSIES what a crazy 48h. Talk about the final days as the Year of the Snake comes to an end.

An Eastern Brown slithered in on Sunday, no doubt looking for cool in the sweltering heat… and quickly found its way into the laundry cupboard. I was amazed to watch how it hid from three very patient snake catchers over three days. Flour on the floor told us he was definitely moving around but would literally disappear the moment we opened the door. Then today, Stu managed to spot it tucked into the corner between the wall and a built-in cupboard. The snake never became aggressive, just interested in getting away. Stu finally removed it from inside the washing machine.

This experience to many might be us just getting rid of a snake in the laundry. But I now appreciate it from a different angle, standing behind the catchers, their only interest to look after these creatures, and in this case, certainly risking their lives, for us to sleep better tonight 😊

It is definitely not an every-day job, more of a calling to ensure the snakes and humans can say bye to each other with a big sigh of relief. Their phones literally did not stop and taking days off is a real luxury.

Thank you Heather & co, Summer and Stu 🐍 🐍 🐍 f

23/01/2026

16/01/2026

An unrealised fantasy that some thing or some one outside of your own self can and will heal you, is the perfect recipe for hyper-arousal/ sympathetic overload (always seeking/chasing, never finding), dopamine addiction, paranoia and bouts of, or, chronic depression.

Then, the exhausted, disillusioned realisation that the external chase didn’t deliver, and blaming others and the world got you alienated, goes hand in hand with panic and anxiety… where you feel frozen, stuck.

Then you go again, looking to the Universe for answers, and waste your time, money and focus on the charlatans who sell you that fantasy.

Befriend and restore your autonomic nervous system.
It changes your energy.
It changes your life.

01/11/2025

🪶 I don’t need to know the whole plan.
I trust the next step will appear when I am ready.
I serve not from striving, but from overflow.
I am guided, held, and protected by Love itself.
What is meant for me will always find me - gently, clearly, in perfect time.

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29/10/2025

Stimulating your Vagus Nerve activates your parasympathetic nervous system - your body’s rest, digest, and repair mode. But yes, you can overstimulate it - and it can lead to dizziness, nausea, feeling spacey and in severe cases, reduce your heart rate too much.

Regulation isn’t one-size-fits-all. Ice plunges for example are not advisable for everyone, certainly not if you struggle with strong stress responses. It can spike blood pressure even further and strain your cardiovascular system. Start slow with gentle cold exposure to build capacity without flipping into more dysregulation.

Similarly, long baths or nights on the couch fuelled with wine can aggravate the dorsal vagal response and deepen the collapse, slowing the heart rate even further, reinforcing the “checked out” feeling. Your body will benefit more from humming, gentle rebounding and cool showers.

💡Be state-specific: know your state before choosing your tools. The right practice for the wrong state can make you feel worse, not better!

A bit about “Wired buy Tired”/ Freeze:

Freeze is the body’s response to extreme / life-threatening stress, and functional freeze or “always wired but tired” often comes from unresolved trauma and chronic stress.

Gentle movement, vibration, mental health support, and safe connection with trusted others are some of your bridges back to presence.

26/10/2025

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