21/07/2021
How special is the journey of motherhood right? Most of us wouldn’t want to swap our lives for anything….but why is our greatest joy so often the cause of some of our greatest stress?
I’ve seen and spoken to too many amazing mums who give endlessly to their beautiful kids, but are left feeling so emptied by the end of the week. However, we keep going until it gets too much and then our family tends to know about it in a way we wish we could have taken back!
This is too often the case for many of you.
So how can we make space for that much needed breathing room that can de-escalate the emotional build up? Making the space is more about the quality of that space, rather than the quantity!
1. Don’t over-commit to too many things in your week.
2. Surround yourself with friends who can listen well and help you process what your feeling.
3. Make sure you have a good balance of adult conversation, this could even be over the phone.
4. Talk to a Counsellor who can help you process your feelings and get to the root cause.
5. Take a 15min break each day to sit either with a good book or cup of tea and take some deep breaths.
6. Engage in mindfulness, this can be through breathing, eating or even sipping on a coffee or tea slowly.
7. Try and get some fresh air, even if it’s for 10-15mins.
8. Be kinder to yourself, reduce the expectation that to be a good mum you have to have it all together and get everything done.
9. Break up household tasks to 1-2 things a day so you don’t feel overwhelmed.
10. Talk through with your partner, how you are feeling, let them in invite them into that space in a gentle way, they may want to help but just don’t know how to support you.
11. Don’t use up those spare moments watching shows that leave you feeling bad about your life or your self….and A big one are those reality shows which aren’t really reality.
12. Unfollow people who leave you feeling the same as number 11 👆🏾.
So tell me? Are you someone who needs to make space? Or are you someone who has and would be happy to share what you do to make this space one that has left you feeling filled?