17/02/2026
DAY ONES 🔐😤❤️🔥
I've found that over time, my circle of trusted confidants has shrunk a lot. Once upon a time I moved around with a lot of different people.
Some friends are gone, some people never evolved (no judgment), other relationships broke down, and true colour's emerged. Others I ruined! (honestly).
Run this simple thought experiment, now.
Are the people in your life:
1) LEAVES
2) BRANCHES
3) ROOTS
An honest inventory into this can be illuminating, difficult to acknowledge, painful, and awkard, but most of all very affirming. I found this especially helpful in acknowledging where I've needed to provide more value and connection as one half of the relationship.
Reciprocity. Give and take.
Place your energy and effort where you like.. Just be mindful and conscious of what you're investing in.
Maybe that means prioritizing some more than others, expressing your honest thoughts, or even drawing boundaries and having difficult conversations to acknowledge the lack of value/reciprocity the relationship has for you.
Lastly, it's never too late to reconnect, call the person, text them, apologize, forgive, mend, heal. Just do it.
PS: Jamie & Ramon, pictured here, are OLD friends, but long-term relationships don't equal ROOTS. I've know plenty of people longer whose relationship didn't last the test of time.
Enjoy the colours and textures of many humans
Have a community and village around
Water and nurture your roots, most.
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