12/03/2026
"You're 35, and you think this is just what it feels like now."
I hear this constantly. And I get why people land there. When something's been hurting for long enough, your brain starts filing it under normal.
But here's what I actually think is happening.
It's not age. It's accumulated load without recovery.
If you're spending 8 hours a day at a laptop and then coming home to pick up a toddler for the rest of the evening, your body adapts to that. It has to.
And if nothing's being done to counterbalance it, the adaptation tips towards pain and restriction rather than resilience.
That's not inevitable. It's just what happens when the load keeps stacking and there's no reset.
You're not broken. You're not just getting old. Your body is doing exactly what bodies do, responding to the demands being placed on it.
The good news is we can change the demand.
Tag someone who needs to hear they don't have to accept this.