The Edge Counselling

15/02/2026

This is what a man in full emotional containment with his partner looks like. A grounded masculine presence that doesn’t dominate the room but stabilises it. If boys were raised to understand this kind of strength, half my work would disappear.

A woman’s deepest need in partnership is emotional safety. Not perfection. Not grand gestures. Safety. The kind that comes from a man who can regulate himself, hold tension without exploding, and protect the emotional climate of the home. That regulation is the architecture of peace. And peace is what allows love to grow.

15/02/2026

As a therapist, I see how often people walk into dates hoping to be loved and approved of. That’s the low, fragile road. Vulnerability isn’t meant “to perform” for ACCEPTANCE.
It’s there to help us inquire, grapple, and learn who the other person truly is!
Real connection isn’t built by trying to secure approval. (The beginning of wisdom for lasting bonds!) It grows from strength, curiosity, and self-respect.

08/02/2026

Feeling like your relationship struggles are one-of-a-kind? You’re not alone. In my latest blog I break down the 7 most common relationship challenges couples in Perth face — and practical ways to repair them. Whether it’s communication breakdowns, trust issues or growing apart, these signals can be understood and healed. Read more: https://wix.to/klmezbI

Every couple I meet believes their struggle is unique. The details differ, but the underlying patterns are surprisingly consistent. Relationships are less like fragile glass and more like living systems. They bend, strain, adapt, and sometimes protest loudly when neglected. The good news is that mos...

08/02/2026

In a nutshell, after years in the chair with couples, this is the quiet dividing line: the ones who last are willing to learn, repair, and stay open when it’s uncomfortable. The ones who don’t close ranks around pride. Enduring love isn’t luck. It’s skill, humility, and the courage to keep choosing each other when it would be easier not to.

01/02/2026

In my work with couples, one truth shows up again and again: relationships don’t fail because of conflict. They fail when bids for connection and repair are ignored.

Love survives when two people choose to respond, reach back, and stay in the conversation.

The couples who grow are the ones willing to fight for love. They invest in skills. They practise the tools. They keep showing up, especially when it’s uncomfortable. That’s where repair lives. That’s where trust rebuilds.

It’s a privilege to work with couples who choose action over avoidance and effort over resignation. Love isn’t passive. Love is a verb. And like any verb worth mastering, it takes intention, repetition, and courage.

Every couple gets my A-game and passionate support, but real change only happens when both partners are equally invested. When ego or fear takes the wheel, the process can stall, and that is heartbreaking to witness as a relationship coach and couples counsellor. I can only work with the power and authority each partner is willing to place into the process.

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01/02/2026

What many men and woman don’t realise until they invest in relationship education is this: women don’t always need fixing. They need to feel listened to. Even when the topic sounds mundane to you or her, it matters! And what matters to both parties should matter to you both!

The most powerful way to show care is simple. Stop. Hear what she/she is saying. Reflect it back.

Not advice. Not solutions. Not walking away because you feel unsure. Just calm presence and mirror listening. The golden tool for connection.

“So what I’m hearing is this… have I missed anything?”

That sentence alone can transform a conversation. It tells her him/her they exist in your world. If she/he wants action or a solution, she/he will ask. Otherwise, your job is already done.

Connection first. Fixing later.

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31/01/2026

We’ve all heard about IQ and EQ but here’s a newer psych term.
Ever heard of AQ?!

AQ = Adversity Quotient.
It describes how well someone endures, adapts, and keeps going when life doesn’t play nice.

Here’s the part I find fascinating, and I see this every week in my therapy room.

Adults who grew up without a safe parent often develop a very high AQ.

They’re the ones who:
• cope in crises while others unravel
• stay calm when things go pear-shaped
• read rooms instantly
• survive things they never should have had to
• keep functioning… even when exhausted

On the outside, they look capable, strong, impressive.
On the inside? Often anxious, hyper-vigilant, and quietly tired of being “the strong one”.

High AQ is usually forged early.
Not because childhood was nurturing, but because it required resilience.

A little honesty from me:
High AQ adults are brilliant in emergencies… and terrible at resting without guilt.

Healing isn’t about losing your resilience.
It’s about no longer needing to live in survival mode.



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30/01/2026

Trauma is often defined as the event or a series of events.
But in childhood, complex trauma and PTSD are more often shaped by what was missing.

Not having a safe parent to guide, validate, and comfort a child creates a nervous system that learns the world is unsafe. Over time, this becomes chronic anxiety. When there is no one to turn to, no one who can help make sense of pain, hopelessness can take root. This is how depression quietly forms.

Trauma is not only about what happened.
It is also about who wasn’t there when it did.

This is the part that deserves far more attention.

30/01/2026

When someone chooses me as their coach or therapist, I go balls to the wall for them. Truly.
That’s why I love this work.

Small talk drains the life out of me. Vacuous, uneventful conversation does nothing for growth — and frankly, it bores me senseless. People don’t come to therapy to hover politely on the surface. They come because something matters. And I honour that by getting us there pronto.

With the incredible people who place their trust in me, we get straight down to business — the real stuff. The patterns. The pain. The blind spots. The courage it takes to change. It’s focused, intentional, and deeply human.

It remains one of the great privileges of my life to walk alongside people as they do the brave work of becoming more whole. I am profoundly grateful to every beautiful soul who has allowed me to support them on their journey! 🙌🫶

22/01/2026

Yep, Tony Robbins nails this one. It takes TWO to tango. That’s why I don’t “umpire” in my work with conflicted couples. Both partners have to embrace and be genuinely committed to change, not just one.

22/01/2026

Tucker Carlson nails it. As a therapist deeply passionate about relationship education (every human on the planet needs to invest in it) I can’t help noticing this: it’s rarely well-funded globally because a divided society is far easier to control. That serves the poli-ticks, not the people.

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15/01/2026

I help Perth couples rebuild trust and manage FIFO separation with a clear, evidence-based plan. It starts with your Relationship Health Assessment so we know what to measure and where to focus. Each session is solution-focused: set practical goals, try small changes between meetings, review progress, and adjust what isn’t working. You can expect concrete tools for communication, strategies to reduce distance when you’re apart, and steady steps toward stronger connection. Book a consult to see how this approach fits you — let’s take the next step together. https://wix.to/PRWIIlx