My Own Kind

06/12/2025

What if the thing you’re missing is not gratitude, it’s acknowledging your fears and worries…?

There is a small tribe in Papua New Guinea called the Kaluli.
Researchers have documented that anxiety and depression are almost unheard of in their community. One of the reasons is their nightly ritual; before bed, families gather and tell real stories. Not fairy tales or happy endings; real life, hard moments, scary moments, things that hurt.
Their children grow up knowing that life is not perfect. That hard emotions are not a ‘problem’, that they can be felt and moved through. Because nothing is ever hidden or suppressed, and the result is deeper sleep and resilient nervous systems formed from childhood.

We can borrow this wisdom in a way that is essential for this time in our modern midlife lives.
At night, instead of trying to push away your fears or pretend everything is fine, try this:
Write down what is worrying you - the fears, doubts, worries.
When you put them down on paper (or speak them out loud) you are doing what the Kaluli do.
You are acknowledging what is real.
You are honouring the truth of your inner world.
You are letting your nervous system breathe.
Your brain no longer needs to keep those thoughts spinning because you have told the truth of them.
This is not about staying stuck in negativity, this is emotional processing.
It’s honesty and safety.

When you stop sugar-coating, or ignoring your emotions and simply let them exist, you create the space inside you to properly rest.

Then allow your body to sink into deeper and more peaceful sleep.
The kind that comes when you stop holding everything in and finally let yourself be real, honest and accepted.

Cristie. X

[Everything shared here is for personal growth and wellbeing only. It’s not medical advice and doesn’t replace personalised care from your own health practitioner.]

01/12/2025

Why Creatine is good for us (midlife women) - not just for guys who want to bulk up in the gym…

There are heaps of benefits for us, and more than even I used to think; as a Personal Trainer in a huge gym with usually around 25-30 other trainers (mostly men) I assumed creatine was for guys wanting to get more from their training in order to bulk up and/or ‘shred’.

Fast-forward a decade I now I know better, especially from studying Dr Stacy Sims’ Menopause course.

Here are some of the key benefits of creatine for midlife women:

•Feel stronger
•Feel clearer
•Feel more like yourself

Creatine helps support strength brain clarity and everyday energy in midlife, and a simple daily scoop can make a noticeable difference.

•More strength and muscle support.
It helps maintain and build lean muscle when estrogen naturally declines.

•Sharper thinking and less brain fog.
It fuels the brain just as much as the muscles.

•More energy and stamina.
Better cellular energy means fewer afternoon crashes.

•Improved recovery.
It helps muscles repair and bounce back faster.

How Creatine Helps You Feel Better:
•Supports healthy metabolism.
More muscle helps you manage weight and feel more energised.

•Better mood and mental resilience.
It supports brain energy and emotional steadiness.

•Helps protect bone and joint stability.
It pairs perfectly with strength training for long term mobility.

•It’s easy to take: three to five grams daily

27/11/2025

27/11/2025

If you want to live healthier, part of that is reducing what quietly adds to your toxin load.

One of the biggest culprits in most homes is…
Scented candles and diffusers.
Yes, even the fancy “natural” ones.

Most fragrances in candles are synthetic.
When heated, those fragrance chemicals become even more potent in the air you breathe.
Please bear in mind:
real essential oils do not hold a strong scent for months.
So if a candle or diffuser smells intense for ages… it’s not natural.

This isn’t about ditching everything.
It’s about making simple swaps that support your body, your hormones, your skin, your mood and your home environment.

Small choices, big impact.

AND…. when buying gifts….🎁

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HEALTHIER ALTERNATIVES TO SCENTED CANDLES

1. Essential Oil Diffusers (Cold-Air or Ultrasonic)

These disperse micro-particles of real essential oils without heating them.
✔ Non-toxic
✔ Gentle scent
✔ Also supports mood, calm, focus depending on the blend
Best oils: lavender, bergamot, sandalwood, cedarwood, eucalyptus, lemon.

2. Beeswax Candles (Unscented)

A beautiful natural choice.
✔ No synthetic fragrance
✔ Purifies the air slightly by releasing negative ions
✔ Long burn time
Just avoid anything labelled “scented” unless it specifically states 100 percent pure essential oil.

3. Essential Oil Reed Diffusers (DIY Version)

Store-bought “natural” diffusers rarely are.
Instead, make your own with:
• Glass jar
• Natural reeds
• Carrier oil (fractionated coconut oil or sweet almond oil)
• 20 to 40 drops of pure essential oil
Gentle scent without the chemical load.

4. Simmer Pots on the Stove

A cosy, natural option.
Try simmering:
• Orange slices
• Lemon peel
• Cinnamon sticks
• Cloves
• Star anise
• Rosemary or pine
Your home will smell calming and fresh, without toxins.

5. Himalayan Salt Lamps (although no scent)

Not a fragrance, but creates a warm ambience without chemicals.

6. Linen & Room Sprays (DIY Only)

Avoid store-bought — even “organic” ones often hide synthetic fragrance.
DIY version:
• Distilled water
• Witch hazel
• 15 to 25 drops of essential oil
Shake and spritz.

27/11/2025

If you’re already feeling stressed and overloaded
and now December is looming right around the corner…
this is for you.

My “Chaos to Calm” 90 Minute Clarity Session is your space to breathe again.

A place to unload the mental load you’ve been carrying
so you’re not walking into the festive season already exhausted.

Because as women, we need to talk things through.
Once you say it out loud, half of it already feels lighter.
And the other half?
That’s where I come in.

In our session we
• unravel what’s weighing you down
• sort through what you can release
• create a simple, grounded plan for how to move forward
• shift the mindset blocks and limitations that have slowly been tightening around you
• weave in a little hypno and a little subconscious reset
so you can finally exhale and see things clearly again

Imagine letting go of the overwhelm.
Feeling calmer.
Thinking clearer.
Moving through the next few weeks with more confidence and presence.

If that sounds like exactly what you need,
I’d love to hold that space for you.

This Black Friday offer is only available until December 5th.

Book it now before the crazy begins.
And if the timing doesn’t work, you can still book it now and schedule your session for later.

But truly - don’t wait.
Future you will thank you for giving yourself this breather.

Book your session today: https://shorturl.at/jJbM3

27/11/2025

If the festive season tends to pull you into a blur of chaos, pressure and people pleasing… you’re not alone.

Most women hit December already exhausted and then try to push through on autopilot.

This year can feel different.

My Black Friday offer is a 90 minute Clarity Call designed to help you shift from chaos to calm before the season really ramps up.

In our session, we will
• cut through the noise
• simplify your priorities
• map out what truly matters
• create a realistic plan for the next two months
• protect your energy and wellbeing
• release the pressure to keep up or do it all

You’ll walk away with clarity, confidence and a sense of calm direction instead of surviving on stress and good intentions.

If you want this festive season to feel easier, lighter and more supportive… this is your reset.

Comment “CALM” and I’ll send you the link to book your session.

Cristie. x

17/11/2025

Do you get big toe holes in your trainers?

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I used to get them all the time - I could have sworn the manufacturers did it to make me but them more often!

Until I discovered why it happens.

The weird thing is it happens more often for women.

Women also have more glute issues.

The interesting thing is that these two seemingly unrelated issues are related.

When we lift our big toes - instead of pushing down into them (aka ‘loading’ them) it deactivates our glutes.

So I would love you to try this.
It’s free, quick and easy.

16/11/2025

You’ve got so much the information. You think you know what you should be doing. Yet you still feel stuck and not starting.

The issue isn’t knowledge. It’s knowing how to turn it into action.

That’s where I come in.
I’m like a filter, or a sieve -
I take everything you already know and pull out the parts that actually matter for your body, your life, your season and your goals.

Because knowing WHAT to do is not the same as knowing HOW to do it in a way that fits your real life.

I cut through the noise and give you the pieces that are relevant, helpful and purposeful so you save time, save money and finally experience results, without the overwhelm.

Less stuck. More clarity.
Aligned action that works.

•Book a free discovery call to find out how I can help you, the link is on my bio - or simply message me•

15/11/2025

I walk past this tree every day when I take Jasper and Goldie for a walk.

I’ve noticed the old rusted horseshoe sitting around the branch for years.

A few years ago it was so obvious.
Then this week I realised just how much the tree has grown around it.

The branch has almost absorbed it completely.

Nature just keeps going. Adapting. Growing. Taking in what gets put on it. Sometimes even forgetting that it was never really part of it.

We are the same.
Our minds and bodies adapt to things we never chose.

We absorb beliefs, expectations and roles that were placed on us long before we even noticed.

At some point they feel like they are part of us even when they are not.

This is a reminder to pause and notice what is truly ours and what we have simply grown around over the years. We get to choose what stays and what no longer belongs.

15/11/2025

What if the thing you’re missing isn’t another rule or restriction… but actual fun.
Actual joy.

The stuff that makes you feel alive rather than “on track.”

Most women think they need to tighten up, push harder, be more disciplined.
But honestly… sometimes the biggest shift comes from softening.

Laughing.
Playing.
Letting yourself be a human being, not a walking checklist.

When your life feels lighter, your habits feel easier.

When you feel joy, you naturally take better care of yourself.

And when you give yourself permission to live… everything else falls into place.

Maybe it’s time to bring back the version of you who felt free.

The one who didn’t overthink everything.

The one who knew how to have fun.

Because she is still in there.
And she’s the missing ingredient.

💕

14/11/2025

Why men don’t get slammed with symptoms like women do

(Even though they also go through “andropause”)

Short answer: men’s hormones decline slowly, women’s drop off a cliff.

Swipe for the longer answer.

1. Women have a sudden hormonal drop

Menopause is a rapid, dramatic shift.
Oestrogen and progesterone fall 40 to 60 percent in a relatively short window.
Your brain, temperature regulation, sleep, mood, metabolism, and fascia all rely on those hormones — so the drop = symptoms.

It’s like going from summer to winter overnight.

2. Men’s hormones decline slowly

Men do experience a decline in testosterone, but it’s usually around 1 percent a year from their 30s onward.
This slow drift means the body adapts gradually.

It’s like going from summer to autumn… over two decades.

3. Women rely on hormones for more body systems

Oestrogen and progesterone influence:
• brain
• sleep
• fascia / connective tissue
• gut
• metabolism
• temperature regulation
• heart health
• mental health
• bone density

Testosterone affects a lot, but not the same high-dependency systems in the same way.

4. Women lose two hormones at once

Men lose one primary hormone (testosterone).
Women lose:
• oestrogen
• progesterone
• and the downstream shifts also disrupt testosterone ratios.

It’s a triple whammy.

5. Men don’t have a hormonal “boundary moment”

No equivalent of:
• periods stopping
• ovaries shutting down
• ovulation ending
• reproductive hormones collapsing

Women have a biological event that triggers symptoms.
Men have a slow slide.

6. Culturally, men’s symptoms get re-framed

Women say
“I’m having night sweats, mood swings, anxiety, weight gain.”
Men say
“I’m tired, stressed, unmotivated, flat.”
Same physiology sometimes, but different language.

Low testosterone in men can cause:
• low energy
• erectile changes
• belly fat gain
• low mood
• irritability
• reduced drive
• poor sleep

But because it’s gradual, most don’t connect the dots.