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20/10/2025

14/10/2025

One of the most important practices is to be in the present moment. Not trying to justify the past, nor predict the future, but simply 'be'.

Now it's hump day again, aka known as Wednesday, what a perfect time for the middle of the week to do this very thing. Neither looking back, nor forward but paying attention to the more subtle things:

Intentionally directing your awareness to what is happening right now, such as your breath, physical sensations, thoughts, and surroundings.

Non-judgmental observation: Noticing your experiences without labeling them as good or bad, and without trying to change them.

Acceptance: Allowing things to be as they are in the moment, which can help you respond to situations more intentionally rather than reacting to them.

Notice the way these things affect you and the way you have affect them in return.

Happy Wednesday, have a wonderful day x

14/10/2025

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14/10/2025

YAY!!! Happy Choose day everyone :

A big fat happy Choose Day, (AKA as) TUESDAY, to you

28/09/2025

HOW TO STOP LETTING PEOPLE TALK OVER YOU - AND STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT IT.

Here are a few very powerful phrases, gently assertive and not in the least aggressive. Try them out and see the difference they will make.

As a person to person support worker, I've spent the last 15 years working with hundreds of Asians, Australians, Polish, English, Ukrainian, Philipino, Italian and Greek clients and students from a variety of backgrounds. Even though their experiences were all different, I started seeing the same patterns of struggles in communication.

Asians in particular are often seen as nice, polite, smart or even "cute," but rarely as powerful, fearless or decisive. Even though I am not Asian, I've also known these struggles my whole life. I've tried to fit into lots of different employment situations as a hardworking, employee and though I have developed a more outspoken personality, far from being the shy and timid person I was growing up, I have caught myself unnecessarily over apologizing to others out of habit. And deferring to others even when an idea was my own and when I really wanted to be listened to.

One of the biggest issues I've encountered, including many of my peers of all backgrounds, is getting talked over. Here are some powerful responses to use when it happens:

1. USE THE INTERUPTERS NAME
I once had a student living with me, a young Asian woman, who told me her co-worker (an older white man) would ask her a question, and then cut her off while she was answering his question! I related straight away.

We teach people how to treat us based on what we will and won't accept. When we let people talk over us, we're teaching them we it's okay for them to do it, even if we're just demurring out of politeness.

I call these offenders "power thieves" — people who repeatedly talk over you, subtly demean you, or invalidate your opinions in public.

But power can't be taken, it can only be given away by you. And if you make it clear you're not going to give it up, the other person will generally back down and look for someone else to take it from.

Let's say someone is trying to talk over you in a meeting. The quickest thing to do in those moments is to call it out. Just say, "Hey [their name], I'm not done yet. I'll come back to you in a second."

People instinctively pause when they hear their names, and it calls the whole group's attention to their actions. I also add the "I'll come back to you" or "I'll let you know when I'm done" part because it asserts you're the one to decide when you are done, not them.

2. STAY CALM AND NUETRAL AND DON"T APOLOGISE
In some situations, if someone has a habit of interrupting, you can just continue talking, as if you don't hear them. If they're particularly egregious, keep saying over them, "I'm still speaking," "I'm not done," or "if I may continue" in a calm, neutral tone until they get the point.

Then say, "As I was saying before the interruption," and finish your thought. If you want to see this done like a pro, check out the video of Kamala Harris's interaction with Mike Pence https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXFqTGBty1wcutting her off during the 2020 Vice Presidential debate.

This might be uncomfortable to do at first, but you will get used to it quickly. If you're on a Zoom call, you can even turn down the volume on your speakers, so you're not as bothered by the offender's voice.

Once you're done, turn back to the person who was interrupting and ask, "Okay [their name], did you have something you wanted to say?" This lets them know you're finished, but from an empowered place.

3. ENGAGE WITH THEM ONE-ON-ONE
If this happens too many times, I recommend addressing things in private: "I'm sure you didn't mean to interrupt, but when you did, it felt like you didn't want to hear what I was saying. I would appreciate it if you stopped interrupting."

If they are really persistent, be more direct by saying in a firm but calm voice, "Hey [their name], this is the third time you've interrupted. Please stop." Then pause for a few seconds before going back to what you were saying. If they get defensive and try to argue, you can repeat, "Just stop," or hold up a finger until the point is clear. Once they give up, say, "As I was saying before the interruption," and continue.

If you find there are people who do this frequently with others, call it out. Let's say you see the interrupter cut off another co-worker. Do the same thing as above and say, "Hey [interrupter name], I believe [name of the person who was interrupted] was still speaking when you jumped in, and I'd really like to hear what they have to say."

4. STOP 'POWER THIEVES' FROM TAKING UNDUE CREDIT
If you see someone making a suggestion, only to have a power thief make the exact same suggestion a few moments later and claim credit, you should point this out by saying, "That's a great idea. In fact, that's what [other person's name] was trying to suggest before." Or if they claim credit to your idea, you can say, "Yes, thanks [their name] for reiterating my point from earlier."

Stopping power thieves is something we can watch for not only for ourselves, but for everyone else. You don't need permission from the person who's being interrupted, because it's not just about them. You're stopping behavior that devalues the quality of the entire meeting, which affects everyone, including you.

Of course, not everyone who interrupts others is intentionally trying to take their power. Sometimes people interrupt because they're just too excited or eager to share, and so they can't help themselves. You can choose to be more compassionate by softening your tone, but you still can assert your needs and expectations clearly.

I hope you can use these pointers with a little more confidence and prove to yourself that they actually work. What could be the worst that can happen? Nothing bad that's for certain. Suddenly you'll be listened to and guess what else happens? You will have a new sense of self power because others will truly respect you and isn't that what we all want?

The vice-presidential debate was more courteous than last week’s horror show, during which Donald Trump interrupted Joe Biden 71 times during the first presi...

23/09/2025

Some things are just self explanatory aren't they?

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23/09/2025

I hope September encourages you to stop running using distractions like farceblock, insinugram, tickitetytokity, tellyversion and endless phone usage, and pause long enough, often enough to pay attention to people and all the details of life around you.
I hope September makes you want to treat yourself right because it’s never too late to prioritize yourself and those who you call loved ones, be that family or friends or a mix of both.
I hope September gives you the courage to love yourself despite the mistakes you’ve made and the ones you are yet to make.
I hope September makes you happy, after all its Spring in Australia, a new season to have a new start, because every day is a new opportunity for a fresh start.

22/09/2025

Life on this Earth is a journey, everyone is on it. And like all journeys, each one has a beginning and an end.

Keep in mind the finite nature of your life and that of those around you.

Being aware of this every single day is the first step to truly living a conscious life.

Make sure you live every day so there is nothing to regret.

Returning Home AUS...a journey for every body....

22/09/2025

BE AN EXTRAORDINARY PERSON - BREAK AWAY FROM BRULES.

Ever heard of Brules? I mentioned Brules in my earlier post and want to explain a bit more about them, where they come from and how we use them in our daily lives. So let's talk about bull s**t rules, or brules.

To get a grasp of what a brule is, listen to a story of one man's soul’s voice and doing the things that finally lit him up. This is something that you can do as well to move closer to becoming an extraordinary person.

You’ll also get familiar with the most common Brules in our lives and learn about the 5 ways we take on Brules.

NOTE: Humans often DO NOT make their own conscious decisions through rational choice. What????

Do you think we make our own independant choices? Spoiler alert, we think we do but we don't. We inherit and transmit behaviours, emotions, religions and beliefs not through rational choice but through contagion.
As a species when we're unsure how to react to a stimulus or situation this theory suggests that we actively look to others for guidance and consciously imitate them. We consciously imitate to free ourselves from thinking for ourselves. All of us do this to some degree or another.

Here's an example of what actually happens when we apply a brule.

As a young man in the early 1990's (Vishen Lakhiani, owner of Mindvalley) was driving with his grandpa who told him, to be rich and successful in life he should aim to be like Bill Gates, the richest man in the world. To be that rich, go into a career in computers. Vishen's grandfather was a manager in a big department store and he looked up to his grandpa. The idea was implanted. It changed his behaviour.
Vishen started to get really interested in science and engineering and was a good student so his grandpa's advice had a positive effect. Hard study and an application to great universities he finally got into the computer engineering school at the University of Michigan.
And that's when things got a bit tricky. Whilst in Uni, what he really loved doing was performing arts and photography which were the only 2 subjects he got A's for. He sucked in his engineering classes and barley graduated from Uni with a 2.5GPA which there is no pride in!
Some days he wouldn't show up for classes as he dreaded them and did the barest minimum just so he didn't get kicked out.
In photography and performing arts he was always the first in class and thoroughly enjoyed those classes. That's what sang to his soul.
But he had been trained to believe there was no money in acting or photography. So he stuck to engineering.
One day Microsoft came to the campus on career day. They set up a booth and was THE company to be in during 1998. So he went to the booth knowing if he got a job at Microsoft he would make his grandpa so proud. He got the job not because he was the best engineer but because he was a really good actor and became one of the 1% of American computer science students to get in!
He was so proud and knew as a new hire how well he would be treated - a fancy apartment near Redmond Square, Washington, a free bike and an enormous pay packet.
He was supposed to be happy, but he wasn't. One morning, looking up at the beautiful mountain bike hanging on the wall in the fancy apartment all paid for by Microsoft he knew in 3 hours he'd have to show up to work in his own private office with 3 monitors but he dreaded the work, he hated his job. This particular morning he would wake up and realise he was living his grandpa's dream, not his own dream.
It was his grandpa who wanted him to be like Bill Gates. That weekend Bill Gates invited all of the new hires to his home looking out at Lake Washington. It was one of the most beautiful intelligent homes in the entire United States. On the lawn gazing out over the lake, Bill serving hamburgers he had cooked for everyone, he was such a good and friendly man. Other new hires were shaking Bill's hand and listen to his stories but Vishen was too ashamed to shake Bill's hand because he knew he was failing him and he had no excitement for his job and hated showing up at work every day. Vishen was living a lie and full of shame. Showing up every day as a tiny portion of himself. He wasn't giving his best to the company because he was following the dream that his grandpa had implanted into him.
11 weeks later he decided to quit Microsoft. but was too chicken to do it because his parents would be so upset, after his dad had paid hundreds of thousands of dollars for his computer engineering degree. So he got himself fired by holing himself up in his office playing the computer game Age of Empires non stop knowing eventually he was going to get caught. And he did. Even though he felt like he had failed, actually that wasn't true. Turns out it was one of the smartest decisions he ever made even though for the next few years he floundered and didn't have it all figured out but he started to realise that our souls often speak to us with greater truth than the outside world. He had been following his grandpa's version of what is a successful life.
One day he woke up and asked himself, "what the hell am I doing"? I hate my job, getting out of bed. And so many of us do that.
Luckily it was only 11 weeks, some people take 11 years, even longer. It's the reason why so many people wake up one day at the age of 40, 50 or 60 wondering "what the hell happened to my life"?
So here is the key. Listening to your soul voice, your souls desire for you.
Thinking back, he asked himself why did he love photography and performing arts so much? He didn't see it then but these were clues lining up for him and go on to start Mindvalley.
Exactly 10 years after leaving Microsoft he would go on stage for his first big speaking opportunity talking to a massive crowd in Calgary with the Dalai Lama! His talent as a performing artist came back and he took the stage with a passion that got him voted one of the best speakers that day that started his speaking career.
Speaking on stage translated into the ability to teach on camera which is why he truly enjoys his work now.
Because of his earlier passion about photography he also did some time as a photographic journalist. His passion for photography translated into giving Mindvalley one of it's biggest competitive edges with great visuals and design. Industry peers were saying the industry was changing as Mindvalley was bringing aesthetics, design and beauty to all their products. His classes in photography were tiny breadcrumbs leading to his destiny.
Falsely we think that imitation is the way to success but what if life is so much friendlier than that? What if we exist in a benevolent universe? What if our soul really knows what we are meant to do? What if the voice we are meant to be listening to is the voice inside?
Maybe we are meant to quit the job that is draining our soul and like Vishen, listen to our soul and be guided onto the path we are really meant to be on.
Reflect in that idea and ask yourself "am I really doing what lights me up"?
Ask yourself about the clues from your past, that might be pointing to the true direction you need to take your life?
To help you unravel some of this, unravel the beliefs and mental structures, the ideas of what others say is right to be doing in the world, that you've taken on possibly through imitation just like the imitations of what success looks like.
Ask yourself, what Brules do I buy into? As said earlier, brules are bulls**t rules. Brules are the rules that we take on from our external environment, our culture, our religion, our parents even though they mean to guide us with love, but some of these are rules that actually hold us back. And when you start to break these brules get ready to be judged and criticised. But it's important to remember these words. The people who criticise you for leading the life you want to lead are simply saying, "look at me, my chains are bigger"!
You should be choosing the life you want.
Brules are interesting n that they are precepts of how life should work.
Here are some common brules we may need to question.
1. The pursuit of money is wrong
2. Women can't use money and don't understand politics
3. All men only want s*x
4. Success equals hard work
5. Working 9 - 5 makes you productive
6. You need a University degree to get anywhere in life
7. Every woman needs a man
8. Religion is needed to go to heaven and avoid hell

Over the years I've come to realise that all of the above brules (and thousands of others just as limiting as the ones mentioned) are fundamentally wrong. I'm sure you can add many more of your own. All brules need to be questioned and really challenged as they mostly represent cultural and religious rules and not stand alone truths. Some things are brules but aren't immediately apparent.

Remember there are the 5 ways we take on Brules that confine us.
1. Childhood indoctrination - we can train an infant to become a Buddhist or a Muslim, socialist or capitalist, confident or broken. We are molded as children taking on beliefs from our family, teachers and others around us as we are growing up.

2. Authority Figures, primarily politicians. News casts are full of political scandals and corruption around the world, blatantly lied to get votes. Using social media to target us to get us to believe things that are simply not true. Be careful what ideas we take on that are implanted through any media by politicians.

3. The Need to Belong. Recently a woman escaped a cult and was asked what made her join this group of white supremacists? She said that almost everyone that got sucked into the cult did it because they were lonely and isolated. The lesson is that sometimes we take on brules that hold us back because we want to conform so we can fit in with a particular group of people. It can even be the company culture of the company that hires us, or the religion or the beliefs of an ethnic group that we want to belong to.
While these groups temporarily give us a sense of belonging some of them can have really dangerous brules. So our brains are not perfect rational machines. and often supress rational thought to fit into a group.
Keep these three ideas in mind because they will help you identify when you are making irrational choices and suppressing your soul's desire.

4. Social Proof. You want to be conscious of this. Why is that billions of people across the world willingly put high fructose corn syrup into their bodies and think it's normal? The biggest item is Coca Cola which has a brilliant marketing machine behind it that uses social proof to sway you. Their advertising basically says "everyone is drinking Coca Cola so you ought to do it too"! Every Coca Cola add is full of trick advertising. You see people happily chugging down cokes while running and holding hands down a hill associating coke with positivity. The same was for smoking and ci******es once upon a time till it was found that it wasn't at all positive in the meantime billions were sucked in by the clever marketing and suggested that everyone was doing it, so hey you gotta do it too. All started with the application of social proof and implanted a brule into the minds of people across the world.
Be very attentive on how you start to take on behaviours and beliefs and practices because everyone else seems to be doing it.
But the beauty is that planet earth is waking up and we are seeing that lots of different companies are misdirecting us.

5.Internal Insecurities. The meaning-making machinery in our head. Here's how it works. You're at work and you do really great work but somebody else gets the recognition. Why? Because you are not fully 'unmessible' yet. You create a meaning that, I'm not worthy or I'm not recognised, or my boss is an a-hole. Or you come up with an excuse that the other person looks better and spoke up more so that's why they got the praise. Life is unfair. Our internal insecurities make us create brules. Therefore we live under these operating systems without realising we made it all up.

So when you pay attention to these 5 ideas you learn to identify and pluck out the brules that you've irrationally bought into.

"Reality is negotiable. Outside of science and law all rules can be bent or broken". Tim Ferris

So listen to your soul and break the brules.

Key Ideas:
1. We inherit behaviours by contagion and not by rational choice
2. Listen to your soul to do what lights you up
3. Brules are the rules we take on from our outside environment and can be broken.

22/09/2025

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT & UPGRADES

Personal development is a process of transformation whereby a person adopts new ways of thinking to develop new behaviours and attitudes.

While listening to Vishen Lakhiani creator of Mindvalley, he explainMindvalleynsciousness Engineering and how we can use it to hack our own mind to improve how we show up in the world and how we function.

To understand this better he uses the parallel of a mobile phone and like any computer, it's made up of two things - software and hardware.
Hardware is the glass screen and the components in the phone.
Software are the apps you download to make the phone work.
Without the software, the hardware isn't much use & vice versa.
Our minds are very similar to that, having software and hardware.

Our minds hardware are our beliefs. The minds software are our daily practices.

Back to the phone, if you want to make an upgrade to it or your computer, there's to ways to do it. To make the computer better you'd upgrade it by removing the smaller hard drive and install a hard drive with more memory. That's a hardware upgrade.
Just like upgrading your mind by taking out a bad or limiting belief and instal a more empowering belief. The concept of culturescape and brules (bulls**t + rules) help you identify beliefs that are holding you back.

Using Consciousness Engineering helps you instal new beliefs.

The other way to upgrade your computer, your mind, is to upgrade the software - so you could instal a new version of your favourite app making it a software upgrade.

So in your mind you can instal a new way of doing things you need to do on a daily basis which are your habits. You do certain things in certain ways, you eat breakfast in a certain way, exercise in a certain way, you sleep, meditate, make love and have your coffee in a certain way.

The problem? For most people these certain ways stay the same for years and years and years.

When you understand Consciousness Engineering, you understand every aspect of your daily life can actually be improved and for the better.

There are new systems, new practices, where you can get better exercise in less time, where you can do more work, more creative work with less stress. You can sleep better and get more sleep in a given time frame by accessing deeper states of sleep. Where you can meditate and create elevated states of being, where you can optimise breakfast so you feel completely energised and fuelled throughout the day.
Almost everything you do in life can be an upgraded as a system.

Yet most of us don't.

Most of us stay stuck to the old beliefs and the same systems as we did five or even ten years ago. The purpose of personal growth is to constantly evolve ourselves by examining the limiting beliefs in our head and replacing these with empowering beliefs. Examining how we run our day, the practices we put in place and upgrading these practices.

Examining our Models of Reality.

1. What are the Models of Reality that we've taken on that have created how you function in the world?
Models of Reality are really fascinating because our world is created by our beliefs. But when you change these beliefs, the world and the way you experience the world will actually change and the scientific evidence supports it. It's not just metaphysical thinking.

2. Systems for Living
The second thing is that many of us fail to understand that our systems for how we function in a day can be constantly upgraded. For example, growing up you may have believed that exercise looked a certain way, or meditation looked a certain way, or that eating or the way you should look was a certain way. But as humanity progresses, different visionaries and different inventors, scientists, creative people and writers develope new means of functioning in the world.

Constantly learning is to incorporate these new ideas into yourself, so you become better at being you, the best version of you.

Consciousness Engineering is being acutely aware of your models of reality and your beliefs and your systems of living.

Constantly upgrading both to keep becoming the best and better version of yourself.

Understanding these 2 ideas will help you make sense of all the other ideas around personal growth and development.

Every time you listen to a mentor or read an autobiography or listen to people as they talk about their personal experiences of growth and understanding, or a podcast about people's growth. You can say to yourself, WOW I love what they have said, I want to take that on or WOW that system looks good I want to put in that new system into my thinking and daily practice.

Key Ideas
1. Use Conscious Engineering to become your best self
2. Beliefs are your mind's hardware, daily practices are it's software.
3.Examine and upgrade your models of reality and your systems for living.