29/01/2026
You can’t build skills on an unsafe nervous system.
When a child is dysregulated, the brain prioritises protection over learning.
Access to skills like attention, impulse control, communication and flexibility depends on nervous system safety first.
This is why behaviour strategies often appear ineffective under stress — not because the strategies are wrong, but because the system they rely on isn’t accessible yet.
Regulation is not an “extra” or a soft option.
It is the foundation that allows skills to emerge,
practise and stabilise over time.
When safety and regulation are supported first, behaviour often shifts without escalation, because the child finally has the capacity to meet the demand.
This is not permissive practice.
It is developmentally informed practice.