Positive Moves Wellbeing

21/04/2026

Every one of us holds a story inside and we are shaped by the generations of stories that went before us.  These stories of families commute transgenerational patterns. 
 
The stories and aspects of ourselves we don’t know can be a shadow influencing us in ways we never fully understand.  We might cling to past stories as they once offered protection but now cause constraint in our life. Recognizing patterns and self-defeating stories is essential for change and unresolved family histories can create personal feelings of inadequacy or “something missing”.
 
In therapy we bring curiosity to the stories people bring – which stories have been woven and shared across generations.  Which stories have come to define a family or individual.  Which stories were never uttered and still wait to be heard. 
 
Narratives we construct about our lives directly shape our identity, often determining our emotional reality and future actions. By identifying, challenging, and changing these stories – especially the restricted and hidden ones – we can help people move from feeling stuck to finding agency and growth.
 

15/02/2026

Love is not a scarce resource to be restricted only for those who know us best – our friends, family, and intimate partners. Exercising love abundantly allows its impact to be felt more deeply and widely in the world. Potential loving acts can extend from romantic gestures to a force for social justice if we are willing to be implicated in the safety and dignity of others beyond our inner circle. 
 
Valerie Kaur refers to “revolutionary love”. It’s a choice each of us is asked to make time and time again when we encounter life’s painful and unjust moments. It means we refuse to let our feelings towards others harden or close us off and instead our love communicates quietly, your life touches my life and my life touches yours.  Revolutionary love can leak through our interactions with those different from us, those we don’t yet know or understand. 
 
We grow collective relational resilience through incremental exposure to grit in our relationship oyster.  As we navigate disagreements, difference, ruptures and repair, we can deepen our understanding and attunement to one another.  Over time, acts of revolutionary love might allow us to remain open, wondering and curious rather than hardened in silos of fear and hate.
 

20/01/2026

So much of how we define ourselves and show up in the world is driven by internal wounds and patterns we develop to stay protected and connected in a mis-attuned world.  Without supportive human interactions and resources, life experiences which overwhelm our mind and body become emotional ruptures that go unseen and unsoothed. 
 
In therapy we map patterns of experience and explore how a nervous system might have made meaning of these experiences.  Formative events can be stories of exclusion, neglect, abuse, assault, bullying, illness, injury and other happenings.  It matters less about the detail and magnitude of what happened and more how the those events landed in a particular body, at a particular stage and time, and how the nervous system adapted as a result. 
 
Emotional overwhelm can leave an imprint—one that might surface years later as conflict avoidance, overwork, people-pleasing, numbing, overconsumption, or excessive control.  The patterns are not random. They form for a reason and are the nervous system’s way of restoring safety when it has not been available from other sources. 
 
When we short-cut to pathologise, label, or judge symptoms as flaws, we miss the opportunity to understand what lies at the heart of a wound and how we can activate in ways to support healing. 
 

05/08/2025

Our health does not exist in a vacuum. The systems we live in shape the adaptations we adopt to maintain connection and safety.

Symptoms are rarely due to individual pathology but rather a response to the features inherent in our environment. If we do not attend to systems that surround us, we risk perpetuating an unhelpful belief an individual is the source of the problem rather acknowledge the collective responsibility we share.

Physical, social, and relational environments impact our internal human system. Patterns of emotion, behaviour and cognition are shaped by our

- family dynamics and structures
- social connections and interactions
- organisational structures
- culture and community
- physical environments

In therapy our work is to explore how particular adaptations may have been required. It can be complex and messy work and the reality is “symptoms” rarely arise from a “within-person” deficit. Layers of experience across the lifespan, and adaptations intended to keep a person safe and connected, can underlie present-day symptoms.

We collaborate and consider how environments, resources, relationships and connection can support and sustain healthier humans. Our environment can restrict our humanity or it can support us to thrive and be whole.

01/04/2025

Regulation has become a widely used term when referring to emotions and nervous systems but there is an inherent risk when we confuse the concept of regulation as demanding calm rather than connection. Healthy human beings have the capacity to feel deeply and maintain a connection with themselves and others. Feelings of awe and wonder, intense disappointment, loss, anger and frustration are also places where we can connect and be truly felt. We risk depleting our vital source of energy when we equate regulation with suppression, denial or repression of our feelings.

Restoring a sense of safety in the body - letting the full spectrum of human emotions know they can be safely contained and expressed - means building our capacity to recognise, understand and express our emotions and adapting our responses to life. Constant micro-adjustments without avoidance, shame or dismissing builds this capacity. Life is messy, and so are our emotions. Let’s not pretend a calm exterior is an indicator of a healthy regulated inner experience. Such pretence can come at a terrible cost.

25/03/2025

11/02/2025

In therapy we witness the compounding costs of attachment wounds - needs that went unmet, needs that were met with blame, shame, and hidden beneath layers of protective coping responses. When these needs remain unmet in adulthood we continue to miss opportunities to accumulate more adaptive information. The absence of what should have happened can continue to be a barrier to connecting with the good stuff here in the present. A weekend event facilitated by and brought to life what happens when the needs of our younger self are met with courage, compassion and connection using our breathe and sound vibration as the vehicle of delivery. Thanks so much for tending all those little parts with such care.

21/08/2024

So many challenges impacting our mental health relate to a sense of disconnection - the disconnection from our roots, the disconnection from part of us denied or repressed, societal disconnection, and the disconnection from our communities and natural environment.

Spending time immersed in the natural world can feed our soul and calm our mind. It’s not easy to slow down, develop patience, and an ability to deeply listen to the natural world. If we are to restore balance and a pace more in sync with the rhythms of nature it takes investment in this relationship of reciprocity.

Imagine receiving healthcare in settings that are naturally healthy places to be - fresh air, plentiful plants, proximity to awe and wonder of natural sights and sounds. Nature-based health interventions embedded within our medical system can help restore wellbeing to those suffering as well as encourage protection and cherishing of nature’s health giving capacity. Therapeutic interventions have the potential to intuitively support hearts and minds to make choices better aligned with restoration of the place we each call home.

Bringing therapy out of the clinic and into the natural world we can work together through seasons of change and immersive therapeutic experiences. We can reconnect with the outer world and restore connection with parts of our inner world. Through regeneration and reconnection to our ecosystems we offer sustenance for resilient whole well beings.

18/06/2024

Being able to access states of physiological and relational safety is foundational to our work in therapy. The content of our mind is a narrative directed by the state of our nervous system. When we can shift our nervous system from alarm and restriction towards safety and ease, our thought patterns start to follow. The best way to get out of your head is to get into your body - so much of how we navigate life keeps us in a chronic state of disconnect and without access to the wisdom our physiology holds.

Bring your awareness to how you are moving through life within your body. How do you exist in that skin suit? How does the way you hold yourself affect the messages your mind is receiving? How do you allow your body to move at different times of the day? How you move through the morning/day/week will dictate how you are moving through life.

Instead of slowing down thoughts, try slowing down your body and breath. Notice the different ways of engaging your body appreciates and when it feels constricted or resistant.
How are you moving right now?
What sensations are you experiencing?
What messages is your body conveying and how are you listening and responding to these?

The body constantly communicates with the mind and the way we tend and respond to physiology influences how our mind makes sense of what it is arising internally. Our body serves as the vessel for our emotional energy and needs us to provide regular outlets for expression and signals of ease to avoid overwhelm or blockages creating inflammation, pain and dis-ease.

03/04/2024

Life regulation, or homeostasis, relies on our capacity to connect with the internal signals of our body and make micro-adjustments to maintain balance. It is a dynamic concept requiring us to check inward and make the necessary shifts to maintain healthy functioning.

If our prior experience means we learnt to shut off messages from our physiology (perhaps if they were too much to bear, or the kind of support or resources we needed at the time was not available) then we risk of missing the cues and overwhelming the capacity of our internal system.

Restoring a sense of safety in the body - letting the full spectrum of human emotions know they can be safely contained and expressed - means building our capacity to recognise, understand and express our emotions and regulating our responses to life. Constant micro-adjustments without avoidance, shame or dismissing builds this capacity.

13/02/2024

Some of the most important relationships we have are the ones we nurture with different parts of ourselves so we can show up whole.

02/01/2024

Every breath we take has a start and an end, a rising up and a letting go. This cycle is reflected in all elements of life. The wave that swells and breaks, the flower that blooms and withers, the trees that bud and shed.

With life’s passing seasons we might experience both the birth of a dream and the pain of letting go. There is comfort and bittersweet in this natural pattern. Birth and death, light and dark, growth and decay are intrinsically paired. When we realise all humans experience loss and suffering, we can turn towards each other and slowly transform our collective pain as we move through these cycles with love and connection.

Whatever you are letting go with 2023 may it see you beginning 2024 with sufficient breathing space to regenerate and reconnect.