27/12/2025
๐ซThe Inspiring quote from the 13th-century Persian poet and mystic, Rumi:
"Before you speak,
let your words pass
through 3 gates;
Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?",
invites us to pause, examine and qualify our words before they come out into the ether and shape and influence our reality and those around us.
๐ซ Our words have power.โก๏ธ
๐ฃ Whether you're speaking to yourself/internal dialogue, to another person directly, either verbally or writing/texting/emailing or even if you're posting comments on social media,
this "3 gate buffer/check-list" has the potential for positive transformation and/or for saving us from regret/negative consequences due to thoughtless, conditioned or impulsive expression.
โณ Acting as a filter, it allows time, reflection and more importantly, enables emotional regulation, so before you open your mouth or press send, this invitation encourages the practical application ofย virtue, reason, and aligning with core Stoic principles of being able to control our internal environment of our thoughts/words/actions and not over the external world, so helping us create mindful and harmonious dialogue within ourselves and out toward others.
โ๏ธ This is not about muzzling expression or policing every word, โ
๏ธ but rather empowering, meaningful and mindful communication and strengthening relationships, be it personal or professional, on or off your mats.
๐ฌ By asking these questions:
โ๏ธIs it true?
(Is what you're about to say based on facts? Gossip? Or Assumptions?)
โ๏ธIs it necessary?
(Is what you're about to say add value? Have purpose? Or improve/help the situation?)
โ๏ธIs it kind?
(Or is it cruel? The old "do no harm" principle teaches to speak with tact, empathy and respect. It is not about avoiding conflict, rather learning to speak from the heart truthfully with care, integrity and compassion.
โก๏ธWords are powerful tools โ they can create joy, heal, build, hurt, break or cause us pain.
๐ Always choose them wisely.
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๐ฉต Nia