The Counselling Room

22/12/2025

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Cuter than ever!

11/12/2025

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BCEFT insights 🌼

11/12/2025

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10/12/2025

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09/12/2025

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21/11/2025

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Uncertainty is one of the most uncomfortable states for the human brain. Neuroscience shows that the brain is constantly scanning for safety, stability, and predictability. When something feels unclear or unresolved, the nervous system interprets it as a potential threat. This triggers the brain’s natural survival mechanisms, making the unknown feel heavier and more stressful than the actual situation itself.

Research reveals that the brain dislikes gaps in information. When a situation feels uncertain, the mind starts filling those gaps by creating scenarios, predictions, and possibilities. This is why people often find themselves overthinking. The brain is trying to regain control by imagining outcomes, even if they are unlikely or negative. Psychologists explain that this process is an attempt to reduce anxiety, but it can become mentally exhausting.

The stress response also activates during uncertainty. Levels of cortisol rise, attention narrows, and the brain becomes more sensitive to emotional signals. This can lead to repetitive thinking patterns, racing thoughts, and a strong urge to seek answers right away. The discomfort is not weakness. It is a biological reaction designed to keep you safe.

Understanding this can help you approach uncertainty with more clarity. When the brain reacts intensely, it is responding to perceived lack of control. Awareness is the first step in calming the system and creating a sense of grounding.

18/11/2025

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Emotional validation sounds like....

15/11/2025

Getting ready for clients starting Monday!

Not sure we will be completely ready, but it's definitely getting there.

Today is painting my office and repainting the yellow safety paint for the stairs.

And the air-conditioning man is here, getting rid of the ancient non-working units (three different obsolete types in one small office- how is that even possible?!) and putting in nice ducted coolness 👏🏻👏🏻 ❄️🆒

I don't think we will have the furniture all in place for Monday, but at least we will be cool 😎

13/11/2025

Moving day! Grateful to have chosen today, as rain ☔🌧️ and storms ⛈️🌧️are predicted for the next two days!

07/11/2025

Tomorrow morning is the Summit that I am presenting at!

SO many hours of preparation have gone into this one. I really wanted it to be very useful, so I am teaching 12 tools that therapists can use when seeing couples.

And because I wanted the therapists to get a really good understanding of the techniques, I have even used some 'actors' to make little vignette videos of the tools in action. It's been an immense amount of work, but I truly hope to give the therapists confidence as they work with couples.

I'm first speaker for the second day of the Summit. My name is on the program!

06/11/2025

Moving date to the new address is official!

Monday 17th November @ Cinderella Drive Springwood 🏡

Madly painting and other stuff at the moment

06/11/2025

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