05/01/2021
๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐๐ซ๐๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ฐ๐ฌ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐๐ซ๐๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐๐๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐
In the past, I have written about reflection โ and helping kids notice and store positive, meaningful memories. These often consist of the small moments that can be appreciated when we slow down to be present in the moment. Today, with a new year upon us, letโs talk about the future.
In RDIยฎ, we work with caregivers to develop โMission Previews.โ These are snapshots of small moments at designated future intervals โ e.g., 1-2 years, 5 years and 10 years from now. Caregivers write their Mission Previews in everyday language to capture small moments that will be meaningful when they occur. Some example Mission Previews I have enjoyed: a Dad teaching his son how to fish, a Mom looking through her kitchen window to see her child playing with a friend in their backyard, and a family cooking dinner together.
As we enter the new year, try writing a Mission Preview for yourself, or write one with your child. You can choose how far into the future youโd like to mentally travel. Even thinking one day or one week ahead practices the important skills of planning, and picturing what it is we might want for ourselves in the future.
If you do this with your child, use declarative language to model ideas first:
-๐ผโ๐ ๐กโ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ข๐ก ๐กโ๐๐ ๐๐๐ก๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐คโ๐๐ก ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐. ๐ต๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐โ๐ก ๐๐ ๐๐ข๐!
-๐๐๐ฅ๐ก ๐ค๐๐๐ ๐๐ก ๐กโ๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐, ๐ค๐โ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐ โ๐๐๐๐ค๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐กโ๐๐.
-๐ด ๐ฆ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ค, ๐ผโ๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ข๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ก ๐๐๐๐โ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐บ๐๐๐๐๐ฆโ๐ โ๐๐ข๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐๐ โ๐๐๐๐๐๐ฆ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ฆ.
-๐ผ๐ 5 ๐ฆ๐๐๐๐ , ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐โ๐ก ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐ฃ๐. ๐๐๐ค!
-๐ผ๐ 10 ๐ฆ๐๐๐๐ , ๐ผ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐. ๐โ๐๐ก ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ก๐๐๐ก ๐๐๐!
Then, as you invite your child to think of their own previews, you could guide them with declarative statements such as:
-๐ผโ๐ ๐ค๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐คโ๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ข๐๐ ๐ข๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ก๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐ฆ.
-๐ฟ๐๐กโ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐ค๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ !
-๐ผ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ฅ๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐๐ ๐๐ก ๐กโ๐๐ ๐ก๐๐๐. ๐๐๐ข ๐ค๐๐๐ ๐๐ 10! ๐ผโ๐ ๐ค๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ค๐ ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐กโ๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐ค๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐ก๐ข๐๐ 10.
-๐ผ๐ 10 ๐ฆ๐๐๐๐ , ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐ค๐๐๐ ๐๐ 16. ๐ผ ๐ค๐๐๐๐๐ ๐คโ๐๐ก ๐ฆ๐๐ข ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ก๐ข๐๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ ๐ก๐๐๐๐๐๐๐!
Giving your child time to think and brainstorming together are always helpful scaffolds for this type of exercise. And โ importantly - allow your child to have ideas about the future that are fun!
Last, hold onto your Mission Previews to notice if/when they come true. In my experience, once we write them down, they often do!