Julie Tenner

Julie Tenner Julie Tenner is The Pleasure Nutritionist. A mother of four and an experienced facilitator of deep women’s work.

Mum of 4💕 Wife💍
I help individuals and long-term couples go from emotional flatlines and roommate mode back to craving each other again.

🌀Somatic trauma specialist

📕Author - Flowers and Honey, The art of relationship, love & desire A naturopath, nutritionist, herbalist, counsellor, doula, intuitive bodyworker, Divine Feminine and embodiment leader who teaches women how to love wider, feel safe in surrender and open to their untapped magnetic power. The daughter of a yogi, together with a lifetime of spiritual practice and over 17 years experience working intimately with women’s physical, emotional and relationship health, Julie believes pleasure is the missing ingredient to women’s wellbeing and ability to radiate their love and light out into the world. Julie creates safe and sacred space for women and couples to explore more of who they are and how they love. A sage and guide in women’s mysteries, she infuses humour with deep knowledge in a distinctive combination of heart and soul, bringing awareness to dynamics and healing that lead the way for deep relationship transformation. A born storyteller, Julie weaves old world magic with modern savviness, captivating audiences all around the world through facilitation of women’s circles, ceremonies, events, online learning and training programs, together with co-hosting her podcast ‘Nourishing The Mother’. A self proclaimed pilgrim of love, Julie will revolutionise the way you relate to yourself and the ones you love, bringing deeper connection and richer intimacy.

This client started with fatigue, resentment, and relationship patterns that felt heavy and stuck. After working togethe...
25/03/2026

This client started with fatigue, resentment, and relationship patterns that felt heavy and stuck. After working together - first in Queen School, then in Couples Dates and 1:1 - she told me:

‘All of a sudden I wanted s*x all the time! Jules, you say you want to get women to 30 degrees, but I felt like a 70! We can’t keep our hands off each other. And that’s given me energy that’s flowing into every part of my life…’

What shifted? They invested in their relationship space - and discovered that the energy you create between you is the energy you have for everything else.

That’s the magic of intimacy work. It’s never just about the bedroom. It’s about the life that connection fuels.

So many women crave surrender… and resist it at the same time.Because when your body doesn’t feel safe, touch doesn’t no...
23/03/2026

So many women crave surrender… and resist it at the same time.

Because when your body doesn’t feel safe, touch doesn’t nourish - it feels like one more thing to give out. And then the gap between you grows.

But your body isn’t broken. She’s wise. She’s signalling: “I need safety. I need nourishment.”

When you listen, the way back to pleasure - and to yourself - begins.

💌 Start with my free guide Reconnecting with Your Feminine Energy 👉 julie-tenner.newzenler.com/courses/reconnect

And if you’re ready to go deeper, Honey Club is where you’ll find the daily support to live it.

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Clarity isn’t cruelty.Boundaried love is still love.I recently worked with a client who found herself in one of those mo...
16/03/2026

Clarity isn’t cruelty.
Boundaried love is still love.

I recently worked with a client who found herself in one of those moments - when someone she loves spoke from their stress, not their truth.
And it landed like a slap to the soul.

She felt hurt. Unseen. Questioned.
Not just for what she did - but for who she is.
It echoed old wounds, touched deep fears of not being enough,
and for a moment, she wondered if she was failing in the relationship.

So together, we did the work:
Not to harden her heart, but to ground her in it.

We anchored her in truth:
✔ What was the impact?
✔ What did she need?
✔ What would she no longer accept as the cost of connection?
✔ And how could she bring her full love and full boundaries to the conversation?

She didn’t want to withdraw.
She didn’t want to blame.
She wanted to be seen.

So she said - clearly, lovingly, powerfully:

✔ I am showing up.
✔ I need to be appreciated, not corrected.
✔ I will not be torn down in your overwhelm.
✔ I want to be in the foxhole with you - but I won’t be thrown under the bus.
✔ And if I’m not enough for you as I am, I’d rather know than keep proving myself.

This is what we do in this work.
We find the place where truth and tenderness meet.
Where the part of you that wants to love
doesn’t have to abandon the part of you that wants to be loved well.

“Here’s what I want to move toward - do you want that too?”

This is how we rebuild safety, repair, and real love.

Love and desire need different things.Love wants closeness - belonging, safety, shared values, being on the same team.De...
13/03/2026

Love and desire need different things.

Love wants closeness - belonging, safety, shared values, being on the same team.

Desire wants difference - space, individuality, polarity.

Too much sameness and the spark fades. Too much distance and the safety disappears.

When we can’t tolerate difference - when a partner’s different opinion, interest, or need feels like rejection - love becomes enmeshment instead of intimacy.

But when we can hold both - closeness and difference - we create the conditions for long-term passion and real connection to coexist.

💛 Flowers & Honey: The Art of Relationship, Love & Desire
By Julie Tenner - available wherever you get your books and audiobooks.

12/03/2026

Let’s talk about the invisible labour most women carry - the kind that doesn’t get thanked, tracked, or shared.

Globally, women still do 76% of the world’s unpaid care and domestic work (UN Women, 2022).
And in most households - especially with kids - the mental load is real.
It’s logistics, anticipation, remembering, managing, soothing, following up…
and still being expected to smile through it.

In this episode, I share how I used to feel:

“I don’t need all of this to change.
I just need you to see what I’ve carried today.
And thank me for it.”

It’s not always about outsourcing.
Sometimes it’s about acknowledging what’s being held.

And when it does need to shift?
You’re allowed to say:
“I can’t do this anymore.”
Even if you don’t have a solution yet.
Even if it feels scary to drop the ball.

It’s not selfish to stop pack-horsing the entire household.
It’s not dramatic to ask for help.
There are more options than:

Do it all.

Let it all fall apart.

You’re allowed to change the rules you’ve been silently playing by.
And to ask your partner to learn a new role in that, too.

🎧 Listen to Ep 509: Inside Our Bedroom and Beyond
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6e1Kis2mvp3RSl4nb8uezf?si=a3f9b54e6c4443af

12/03/2026

Your most powerful asset isn’t in how much you do, fix, or hold together.
It’s your delight. 🌹 The lightness he can see, feel, and track.

His most powerful asset? Attention.
The way his gaze lands and lingers. The way he sees you.

She craves to be seen. 👁️
He craves to come alive in the warmth of her delight. 🔥

This is polarity at its simplest - and s*xiest.

Not power-over, not pressure - just the exquisite dance of attention + delight.

When couples forget this, connection feels flat.
When they remember? Sparks.

💌 Book a free 15-min call and let’s see what you need and how I can best support you to get there.

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The thing I hear most in relationship discord?“I just want to feel chosen.”And almost always, the reply from their partn...
09/03/2026

The thing I hear most in relationship discord?
“I just want to feel chosen.”

And almost always, the reply from their partner is, “But you are! You’re my priority. You’re my person.”

Here’s the problem - he thinks “chosen” is a status. She feels “chosen” as an experience.

He believes loyalty is enough. She’s craving evidence.

Because in practice, he’s choosing everything else first. Work. Kids. Sport. Friends. His ex. His phone. She’s the safe one. The certain one. The one who’ll still be there when everything else is done.

And over time, that erodes something vital: her sense of being special and feeling treasured by him.

To feel chosen isn’t about neediness. It’s about devotion in action. The micro-moments that whisper:
“You matter more than convenience.” “You come before…” “I see you, not just what you do.”

Because when a woman feels chosen, her body relaxes. Her walls drop. She opens. She softens. She wants again.

This is the difference between being loved and being experienced as love.

💌 Send this to the one who needs the translation.

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“I could live without s^x. I don’t really think about it. In fact, I often avoid anything that might make him think ‘it’...
26/02/2026

“I could live without s^x. I don’t really think about it. In fact, I often avoid anything that might make him think ‘it’s on.’”

If that feels familiar, you’re not broken - you may just be confusing desire with wanting.

Desire isn’t always spontaneous.
It’s not always the “I feel h***y and want s^x” model we’ve been taught to expect.

For many women, especially mothers, desire is responsive.
It doesn’t appear on demand.
It wakes up once the conditions are right - when there’s safety, relaxation, connection…and TIME to drop out of your head and into your body.

This is the critical reframe:
👉 You don’t have to want it first.
👉 You only need to give yourself permission to step into situations that MIGHT spark desire.

Because desire isn’t gone.
It’s simply waiting for the right conditions to come alive.

✨ You’re not broken. You’re wired for love, connection, and safety - not pressure.

💛 If this speaks to you, book a free 15-minute chat and let’s see what you need and what suits you best.

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