Victoria Kasunic Psychologist

01/02/2024

J. Mike Fields

24/01/2024

14/01/2024

Change starts as a whisper.

05/01/2024

💭

23/10/2023

💞

It's madness
to hate all roses
because you got scratched
with one thorn,

to give up all dreams
because one of them
didn't come true,

to give up all attempts
because one of them failed.

It's folly to condemn
all your friends
because one has betrayed you,

to no longer believe in love
just because someone
was unfaithful
or didn't love you back,

to throw away
all your chances to be happy
because something went wrong.

There will always
be another opportunity,
another friend,
another love,
a new strength.

For every end,
there is always
a new beginning.

And now here is my secret,
a very simple secret:
It is only with the heart
that one can see rightly;
what is essential,
is invisible to the eye.

~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry: The Little Prince

[Art: Jason Mowry https://www.jasonmowryart.com/ ]

24/09/2023

💞🙏🏻

14/08/2023

The work of the mature person is to carry grief in one hand and gratitude in the other and to be stretched large by them.
How much sorrow can I hold? That’s how much gratitude I can give. If I carry only grief, I’ll bend toward cynicism and despair. If I have only gratitude, I’ll become saccharine and won’t develop much compassion for other people’s suffering.
Grief keeps the heart fluid and soft, which helps make compassion possible.

~ Francis Weller: www.francisweller.net

[Image: Giulia Valente: http://www.giuliavalente.com]

05/08/2023

Jill, 32, has found herself in a history of toxic relationships.

She’s drawn to men who challenge her, give mixed messages, and who can’t emotionally regulate. In her last relationship with Dan, she cried herself to sleep many nights. At the end of their relationship, she was having gut issues and dizziness.

He was bad for her health.

The breakup hit Jill hard. As unhealthy as they were together, she missed everything about him. She loved his charm and the feeling she had around him. But she chose herself.

After reading and learning all about emotional patterns, attachment, and generational trauma, Jill was gaining self awareness. Instead of shaming herself for always picking the wrong men, she started to have empathy for herself.

These men were a lot like her father. The dynamics in her relationships were all similar to the dynamics she witnessed between her parents. She always wondered why her mom stayed. Now, she understood.

Jill spends 6 months creating a sleep routine, walking every day, drinking plenty of water, and getting to know who she actually is from reading .

She’s healing.

Ready to date, she connects with Jordan. Jordan is calm, open, expressive, and in touch with his true nature. He lacks the false bravado she’s typically attracted to. He’s also direct and clear. His words align with his actions.

Jill is noticing she sees him as boring. Her body craves the excitement and feelings of fireworks. Educated and aware, she knows that is actually dysregulation from her nervous system. She gives Jordan a chance. She knows that her physical responses have led her wrong in the past.

A year later, her and Jordan are in a relationship. Jordan is caring, has integrity, and just being around him calms her down. Jill loves him deeply, and she still feels bored from time to time. Jealousy and explosive fights have turned into nights in, planting a guarded, and going hiking.

One night they’re sitting out back. They’re laughing and listening to music. Jordan looks at her and says “want me to turn on the grill for dinner?” Jill smiles.

She chose herself. She gave herself the peace she never knew and always wanted

13/07/2023

So often we live our relationship in our heads rather than with our partner. Good to check things out before we build a narrative that creates distance or conflict.