Mind Your Mind

19/10/2025

How often you want to go back to what is familiar. Breakup’s are so uncomfortable, so heartbreaking, it’s always tempting to find something familiar. Have courage, know you are a valued person. Spend time with people who support you.

11/10/2025

So often we’re stuck and we’re not sure what to do.
A kind thing is to be compassionate to yourself or kind to yourself.
There’s a Ho’oponopono group that have this mantra.
“ I love you”
“ I’m sorry”
“ please forgive me”
“ thank you”.
Sometimes you feel unsettled and not sure why, so this mantra is being kind to yourself. It’s a first step to understanding that you need to be kind to yourself all the time. You probably show a lot of compassion and kindness to others and it’s time to show it to yourself.
Say the mantra it helps you from being stuck to unstuck.

09/10/2025

So often we regret things that we do. We look at all the scenarios of what we could’ve done and what we did wrong.
Our Self talk keeps telling us what we could’ve done better, we weren’t enough, we didn’t try hard enough.
What if we change the focus to, “What I did right”.
You often goes through an emotional journey once our self talk continues to berate you about what you didn’t do right.
In life you seem to be able to remember what you got wrong rather than what you got right. For example, in a maths test you might get 95% right and 5% wrong but you’re always looking to see what you got wrong instead of ticking all the boxes of what you got right?
Whoever ever teaches you to look at what you’ve done right instead of what you’ve done wrong.
It is so important to acknowledge what you do right, teach your brain to find all the strengths within you. All the good things that you do.
It’s important to change your focus to what you do right because people always find something that you do wrong and it’s not really about them.
So what did you do right in the relationship and you learnt that after the break up?
Did you realise how you wanted to be treated better?
Did you realise that you wanted to to be interdependent which is not being dependent or totally independent but a combination of both.
Often in a relationship you blossom and the beautiful you comes out.
Question, when did that beautiful you start disappearing?
Did you have to act in a certain way?
Were you not free to be yourself without someone embarrassing you or believing it might be a little bit too much for them.
Look at your strength at the beginning of what happened in the relationship and who did you become and what did you see in you that hadn’t blossom before.
Keep focusing on those strengths.
You only ever learn, when we make a mistake. So mistakes are healthy.
It is only how you accept a mistake is whether you learn or not. The first thing you must always do is acknowledge what you got right and then look at the mistake and go “what can I learn from this”?

09/10/2025

Today is the beginning of taking one small step from being stuck to unstuck.
What is one small thing that you can keep doing to make you feel good and feel a little more unstuck?
Remember
“you are born worthy”,
“you are loved” and
“everything works out for you”.
It is important to encourage yourself to change your self talk to supporting you.
How many times has your mind allow you to build doubt?
How many times do you listening to that Self talk that does not support you?
Dr. Joe dispenser, Bruce Lipton, Louise Hay and many more have proven scientifically that you can change the self talk to support you. To build a new future, create a life that you would love.
Having come from a very fearful father, I believe there’s only love in the world, I’ve had to change my mindset to support that belief.
I have spent the last few decades completely changing myself talk to support what I believe to be only love in the world.
So if you can observe your self- talk, that is the first step.
The second step is to change the negative version, to a positive version.
Example: “I’m always being rejected”, negative self talk
“ I am being redirected “, positive self talk.
The breakup might not have been a good fit, you might’ve realise how you would like to be treated or respected. You have value, be kind to yourself.
Remember one small thing that you could do for you to make you feel good.

08/10/2025

Now that we’ve talked about our struggle and then we have rewritten what it would like without the struggle. It is important to create a mindset that will support you.
Possibly by now you might have been able to observe some of your thoughts that have come forward, to create doubt, stop you from thinking things that you’ve never thought about before.
Even thought like “ why me? I’m not good enough.”
You are enough, you are perfect just the way you are.

Sometimes you need to give yourself permission to let yourself think like that because life has never allowed you to think like that.
I remember I had to say things like.” I am allowed to have money.”, I’m allowed to think about a holiday that I’ve never had.”
I noticed that I was never given permission to think about nice things because I was always told what to do., how to do it and stop dreaming.
It’s important to find a time where you’re alone and say , “I am allowed to feel good”.
Observe your thoughts and ask “do they want me to be successful or have what I want”.
The Self talk is trying to keep you safe, however, it doesn’t encourage you to do new things. It’s not familiar, so they throw in doubt.
Teach yourself talk that it is okay to do all the new things you want to do and choose to do.
I have a masterclass that that will outline these skills. Click on the Masterclass in my bio.

07/10/2025

Today can be a bit of a challenge. You encouraged to write a story as if you didn’t have the struggle. What would life look like?

What would I feel like?

What are some of the things I would do if I didn’t have this struggle?
Sometimes your mind is so focused on one thing it doesn’t create space for something new.
I found when I was younger and I was trying to change a number of struggles., I hadn’t really had a vision of what it would look like without that struggle.
Your mind needs to see a new version of what you would like or your desires and then you can focus on looking for it.
Sometimes when you meet someone or see something you like, you can feel the energy of that moment. That then becomes a new version of something new. The more we look for what we desire, the more our mind can focus on that rather than the struggle.
So, just keep writing, it’s like dreaming but the reality of it is, that the mind can actually find something new to think about. Think about something that you would really like, a desire.
People like Neville Goddard would tell you to write it every day and feel what it would look like, And imagine you being there. He says that’s how you manifesting things.

It is difficult to imagine life without the struggle but if you really want to lose the struggle then start writing. Write what you would like, write what you desire.
Remember, if a negative thought or doubt comes in your mind , just say thank you for coming but at the moment we are busy writing about what we desire in life.
Eventually, you will feel better and free of the continual harassment of your mind and negative self-talk.

05/10/2025

Day 2 of our 5 day challenge, defines our struggle.
After a break up, you do struggle and you get stuck?

It can become so overwhelming that we’re not sure where to begin.
It is important to listen to what your mind is telling you. Is it saying?” I am not enough.” is it saying “it’s all my fault?”.
You need to question these thoughts because at the beginning of the relationship you were enough and you are enough.
You’re mind likes to analyse and find a reason for why the break up. It looks at your past experiences and thinks …………must because I felt I’m not good enough. And that is not true at all. There are so many emotions coming up because of the break up we are overwhelmed and feel stuck.
A new word called mindwise is when the thought and the heart are married together to have a result that supports you.
You may feel that you have a broken heart And therefore your mind looks for the message that might support that, but if you look for love and a word that supports that you feels wonderful.
So trying to observe what your mind is thinking and what thoughts come up and remember a time when you felt you were enough and how that felt and bring that feeling forward because the relationship doesn’t define you, you define yourself.

30/08/2025

Louise Hay

“You’ve been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” — Louise Hay 🌸

Today we celebrate the radiant legacy of our founder, Louise Hay. Her timeless wisdom continues to remind us that true healing begins with self-love.

Louise’s teachings were simple, yet transformative: when we choose compassion over criticism, we create space for growth, peace, and joy. Her affirmations still ripple across the world, uplifting countless lives every single day.

As we remember Louise, we invite you to carry her message with you: look in the mirror, speak kindly to yourself, and know that you are worthy of love, right here, right now.

Thank you, Louise, for showing us the way back to ourselves. Your love and light are forever a part of us. 💖

02/08/2025

Being put down before your breakup can be hurtful and disrespectful. Everyone has needs and our needs can be met in different ways. It is so important to recognise your needs and find ways to nurture yourself, create boundaries if necessary or take up an activity that you enjoy. It is so important to be heard and acknowledged.