27/10/2025
Today we are going to talk about Stacey.
Stacey is a 4-year-old girl. She is having big meltdowns at home. A lot. Being told what to do makes her feel anxious and out of control, so she lashes out or hides when she is given instructions. She has trouble using pencils, scissors and paintbrushes, so she avoids these activities even though she really likes them. Stacey is already hearing words like 'naughty' and 'stubborn' and absorbing them into her identity.
But here's the thing:
Stacey doesn't want to have big meltdowns every day. She isn't trying to be difficult when she hides instead of doing what she is told. She wants to paint and draw and create at kinder. She just can't yet.
Stacey comes to see Sumeyye, and it's tricky. She is being asked to do difficult things. Slowly, she learns to trust that Sumeyye will help her when she needs it. Sumeyye isn't frustrated by her feelings and wants to work with her when things feel the hardest. At the same time, Sumeyye is teaching Stacey's mum and dad how it feels to be Stacey, and they come up with strategies to work with Stacey, instead of against her. Sumeyye is working with Stacey's kinder teachers to help them understand Stacey and how her brain works.
Stacey learns how her emotions feel in her body and strategies to use when she feels out of control. She develops her hand strength and fine motor skills, so that she can complete craft activities. Stacey builds her resilience so that she can persist when tasks are difficult. Her grown-ups learn a better way to communicate with her so that she can follow instructions.
Stacey is 5 years old. She still has meltdowns sometimes, even big ones, but they are not every day, and Stacey is getting better at working through her feelings. She understands her routine and thrives when adults around her give her choices and a sense of control. She loves being a leader at kinder and helping her teachers and peers. Her favourite things to do are drawing and painting. Her fridge is overflowing with artwork. Things aren't perfect and some days are hard, but Stacey feels seen, heard and supported by the adults around her.
This is occupational therapy in action.