Graceful transitions

19/12/2021

Eldering by Keiko Honda, Ph.D., MPH What is important is to try to develop insights and wisdom rather than mere knowledge, respect someone's character rather than his learning... -Inazo Nitobe Becoming an elder is more than passively aging. Often called a teacher, knowledge

01/08/2019

What to do with your parents stuff when they die. Below (in the article) are some suggestions and these are worth the read . It took me a full week of work to clean out my mothers downsized apartment. I had trouble letting go of it all ...with thoughts like Ill paint that with mineral fusion paint...never did!. Ill put that in a cupboard and find a good sale for it ...never did. So after overcrowding my own space, I think from guilt and my own attachment to stuff. It has taken me 10 years to Gumtree the lot. Now I am back to a bare bones house again.(Feels great by the way) I am not sure what the right thing to do is. But Free signs on the footpath are very effective. There is a sweet little ABC program from Britain called The Repair Shop, people bring their broken heirlooms to be repaired. The reactions to the prepared object are always joyful ...I guess its nice to keep some memories alive in objects. Doing this work after death isn't easy and I would suggest getting help, from one of the many End of Life workers

5 useful stories for the stress of inheriting possessions

06/04/2019

These days more and more of us are wanting authentic ceremony that reflects our values. Death of a loved one changes us and wanting to get away from the "stitched up" black suited or white hatted funeral industry that stands around the outside of a ceremony is for many of us an absolute necessity. We want a place of our choice, words that we use and can stumble over; we can choose flowers from our garden or no flowers at all. We can use a shroud or a h**p casket. So many of us are tired of being sold over blown paraphernalia that we don't need at our most vulnerable times. Many of us are saying no to buying by virtue of being guilted into purchase either as a pre sale ...I'm a burden...or post death...if you really loved them then you would spend ..status etc

11/12/2018

This is an article for all

These six people are trying to make dying in America better—for both the living and the dead.

08/12/2018

Beautiful

How do you stay present in an out-of-time time?

27/11/2018

26/11/2018

We too can have a funeral of our wishes

"Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards." —Søren Kierkegaard In his 10th book, Quaker teacher and spiritual mentor Parker Palmer, 79, offers readers a backward view o...

26/11/2018

"Love holds no Fear"

10/11/2018

“I will not die an unlived life.

I will not live in fear
of falling or catching fire.

I choose to inhabit my days,
to allow my living to open me,
to make me less afraid,
more accessible;

to loosen my heart
until it becomes a wing, 
a torch, a promise.

I choose to risk my significance,
to live so that which came to me as seed

goes to the next as blossom,
and that which came to me as blossom,
goes on as fruit.” 

― Dawna Markova,

02/11/2018

Staying in "touch" with our loved ones who have died

22/10/2018

End of Life Care and Death Literacy, community education in talking about, learning about, and hearing stories that bring all of us to be ok with understanding and know as experience the cycles of life and how they impact us all. Afterlife care of our bodies and the impact of continual communication with those who have died. :) is what inspire me.