Brisbane Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Support

24/11/2025

24/11/2025

I have written for a while as I took a break from providing support. But 5 years after surviving harrowing covert narcissistic abuse - it still feels like a twilight zone. People think you couldn’t handle a break up. They don’t realise the pattern of gas lighting. The little things hidden or broken or blame deflected to always keep you unsettled. And if they go through mortification, the absolute discard is so cruel. The person you were with no longer exists. And you’re left to ponder who on earth did I spend 30 years with. Grief and trauma does get easier to handle over the years. But surviving narcissistic abuse is like running a marathon bare foot over barbed wire that’s hidden from others view. Not many understand your experience except for those who can see the barbed wire! That’s why connecting with others with the same experience is so important. An online support group literally saved my life!

27/02/2025

You didn’t lose the love of your life—you lost a parasite that was draining the life out of you. Narcissists aren’t soulmates; they are predators in disguise, and understanding this is crucial to your healing. The person you saw at the end of the relationship is who they truly are.

Their true nature was hidden behind a facade of charm, charisma, and manipulation. They lured you in with false promises, fake emotions, and a convincing act. But underneath it all, they were feeding off your emotional energy, chipping away at your self-worth, and eroding your sense of self.

What you experienced wasn't love; it was a toxic cycle of abuse where each day felt like a battle for survival. Their gaslighting, emotional blackmail, and constant criticism weren't signs of affection; they were tools of control and domination. Their infidelity, deceit, and lack of empathy weren’t mere mistakes; they were deliberate actions to exploit your vulnerabilities.

You didn’t lose a loved one—you escaped a toxic nightmare. You broke free from a cycle of abuse, and that takes incredible courage, strength, and resilience. Narcissists are incapable of genuine love; they only mimic it to get what they want.

To heal, you must accept the truth: you were not loved, you were used. You were a source of supply, a means to an end, and a pawn in their manipulative game. But now, you are free to rediscover yourself, embrace true love, and live a life filled with purpose, joy, and authenticity.

You deserve real love, genuine connection, and healthy relationships. You deserve to be seen, heard and understood. You deserve to be valued, respected, and cherished. Never settle for anything less. You are worthy of love, and it will find you when you least expect it.

✍️ Alan Sinott

22/12/2023

A few people have joined this group now, so feel free to share and ask questions.

17/03/2023

Sound familiar?

The provisional life.

Jung speaks of the provisional life most often in reference to the puer aeternus archetype, Latin for the ‘eternal child’. Typically, the archetype is used to describe a neurotic condition whereby the maturational process has been arrested. The puer (or puella aeterna when referencing a female subject) is a man or woman who refuses to grow up and take responsibility for his or her life, thwarting self-realization in favor of childlike fantasies. This complex is often described in popular psychology as ‘peter pan syndrome’.

One of the many qualities of the puer or puella, according to Jung, is that they lead a provisional life. A life not rooted in the present but lost to fantasies, fantasies that never come to fruition but instead serve to keep them removed from life. They imagine that something better is to come but never take the necessary action to change their condition. Thus, they are alienated from the world and from themselves. Jung describes this as:
“[T]he modern European disease of the merely imaginary life”

Carl Jung’s Letter to Count Hermann Keyserling (30 August 1931)

“The provisional life; where one does not exist really, they are only a spectator; so any experience is ghost-like, perfectly abstract, without a trace of realisation.”
Carl Jung, The Visions Seminar

By way of example, he describes a 25-year-old female patient who suffered so greatly from this neurosis that she eventually took her own life. Jung found himself absolutely unable to access her. So removed was she from reality that nothing could touch her, for she had no relation to the world at all. Going through the motions of life but knowing not what life was. Months later, she shot herself. Jung writes:

“I saw the co**se. She had shot herself through the heart in the street and had not lost consciousness for a minute or two. The expression on her face was completely altered. For a long time I stood watching her face and asking myself: “What kind of expression is that?” It was the most extraordinary, the expression of someone who was convinced, say, that a thing was black, and to whom it was very important that it was black, but to whom one had finally proven that it was red; and it was as if she suddenly realised it was red. It was a look full of bewilderment and a sort of pleasant surprise. I saw what happened: at the moment when she shot herself… she understood what life was for the first time.”

C.G. Jung, The Visions Seminar

Image: Brittany Cossette

10/03/2023

This!!!!

03/03/2023

The longer you have been with a narcissist the more severe the impact of this reality!

01/03/2023

Sometimes others really do understand and describe your experience! 🙏 Maria Consiglio

09/02/2023

They are unwell people and deserve compassion for how they survived childhood trauma, but for us survivors it’s such a difficult thing to survive

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