Shadow Work Solutions

01/12/2025

The saying, "All that happens is as familiar as roses in spring" is attributed to the Stoic philosopher, Marcus Aurelius. It means that everything that happens in life e.g., war, disease, famine happens as predictably as roses blooming in summer and fruit in summer

27/11/2025

Coming soon! The Shadow Self program (formerly called the SIT Program) by Clinical and Transpersonal psychologist, Dr Toula Gordillo will soon be available on her website www.drtoulagordillo.com

The Shadow Self Program

This program expands on the foundations of Story Image Therapy (SIT®) and SIT Shadow Work™ to offer a transformative pathway for both women and men. The program consists of two complementary courses—Shadow Self Leadership and Shadow Self Mastery—each tailored to the unique ways individuals navigate inner patterns, personal history and life roles.

Shadow Self Leadership

Women as Psychospiritual Leaders through Story Image Therapy
Embrace the Unseen: Unlock Inner Balance

Shadow Self Leadership invites women to explore their inner world with clarity, intuition and compassion. Using symbolic imagery, therapeutic storytelling and SIT-based psychospiritual practices, this course supports women to recognise unconscious patterns, strengthen emotional awareness and lead with authenticity across all areas of life—relationships, family dynamics, work, community and personal meaning.
Trial participants often report feeling more aligned, grounded and empowered, with greater confidence in decision-making and boundary-setting.

Shadow Self Mastery

Men as Psychospiritual Leaders through SIT Shadow Work
Embrace the Unseen: Find Your True North

Shadow Self Mastery supports men to understand and work through the deeper emotional, generational and behavioural patterns that shape their lives. Through SIT Shadow Work™, reflective practices and symbolic exploration, men learn to 'manage' their inner landscape with integrity, steadiness and purpose.
Trial participants frequently describe improvements in emotional clarity, communication, relationships, stress management and a renewed sense of direction—both personally and professionally.

How the Courses Work Together

While each course is tailored to different learning styles and psychological tendencies, both share a common goal: helping individuals face and integrate the unseen aspects of themselves—the Shadow Self.

Shadow Self Leadership focuses on empowering women to lead their lives with psychospiritual insight and emotional intelligence.
Shadow Self Mastery guides men to navigate their inner world with purpose, resilience and soulful awareness.

Together, the courses form a unified program that strengthens self-awareness, emotional balance and meaningful personal change. Whether undertaken individually or as complementary pathways for couples, teams or communities, the Shadow Self Program supports participants to live with greater authenticity, connection and inner coherence—from the inside out.

25/11/2025

Luke Raynham of the Getting Mental podcast interviews Clinical and Jungian psychologist, Dr Toula Gordillo on how she uses symbolic STORIES & IMAGES to help her clients to "Unlock their Unconscious" and break free of self-sabotage and other destructive behaviour. For more information, see www.drtoulagordillo.com

Luke Raynham of the Getting Mental podcast interviews Clinical and Jungian psychologist, Dr Toula Gordillo on how she uses symbolic STORIES & IMAGES to help ...

13/11/2025

The Dream Room in SIT Shadow Work is the part of your inner world where your imagination, intuition, and deeper wisdom live. It’s where symbols, memories, and feelings blend together to send you guidance—often through dreams, daydreams, or sudden insights.

In the Dream Room, your mind shows you what you need to heal or grow, even if you don’t fully understand it at first.

The Dark Room is different. It holds the parts of yourself you avoid—old pain, fears, anger, or experiences you’ve pushed away. Many people feel nervous about entering this space, but it’s where the biggest breakthroughs happen. When you explore the Dark Room gently and honestly, you uncover the beliefs and patterns that have been holding you back.

Together, the Dream Room and the Dark Room show how healing works on two levels:

Dream Room brings you messages, symbols, and insight.
Dark Room brings you truth, honesty, and emotional release.

When you move between both spaces, you begin to understand your shadow, reclaim lost parts of yourself, and step into deeper authenticity and inner strength.

03/11/2025

The Family Shadow Self
Every family carries a shadow self—a mix of unspoken emotions, inherited habits, and unconscious roles passed down through generations. A parent’s control can become a child’s fear of failure; a grandparent’s silence can turn into emotional distance. These patterns repeat until someone becomes aware enough to change them.
The family shadow often appears in everyday struggles: constant tension, guilt-driven giving or pretending everything is fine. It keeps us loyal to the old family story, even when it no longer serves us.
Frog and Scorpion in the Living Room explores how families can bring light to these hidden patterns. In Story Image Therapy (SIT®), the Living Room represents connection—the space where we share truth, set boundaries, and practice empathy.
When we face the family shadow together, we begin to replace guilt and control with understanding and genuine love. Healing doesn’t make a perfect family—it makes a more conscious one.

01/11/2025

The family shadow is how we see ourselves... the patterns and archetypes we identify with as children. Then, as an adult, these become out of balance as we over-identify with them. The result? Our addictive shadow creates all sorts of problems for us as we take on unhealthy roles, behaviours, things we want to escape but don't know how. This is the subject of the upcoming Frog and Scorpion in the Dark Room soon available on Amazon.

30/10/2025

Want to know more about your shadow? Look at the person you married (or partnered with in life) and project 20 years. What have you been through? What would you have done differently? What have you learned?

Legendary investor Warren Buffett says your success depends on one crucial but less obvious choice.

29/10/2025

The shadow is our greatest teacher, if we care to listen!

27/10/2025

Technically, Jung called it the unconscious (not subconscious) as it us unconscious to us -- meaning we are not consciously aware of its influence. It's also not under, below or less than our conscious mind. In fact; it is all around us and its influence is far greater than what our conscious mind is capable of achieving. It is when we reach the unconscious theta brain wave that the greatest changes are made possible.

25/10/2025

Coming Soon! Frog and Scorpion in the Dark Room

Sick of repeating the same addictive patterns and getting the same results? This soon-to-be published revealing book uses the power of archetypes, storytelling and symbolic imagery to help you see the compulsive habits that keep running your life — and, more importantly, how to change them.

If you’re ready to break the cycle and face your addictive shadow self, this is the perfect companion to Frog and Scorpion in the Dream Room. Both books together offer a clear, insightful guide to permanent growth and transformation!

💡 Step into the Dark Room… travel through the Dream Room... and step out free.

25/10/2025

If you want to talk to the unconscious, and bring about permanent changes on a deeper level, then use the language of our unconscious to talk to it. The unconscious reveals its language to us every day through our dreams, and the language is symbolic stories & images! :)