Inga Dennett Consulting

02/04/2026

Happy Monday! Something to keep in mind this week:

Every reaction costs something. Most people spend that currency without checking the balance first.

The published research is clear: reacting to every perceived threat, every slight, every situation that feels urgent keeps your mind locked in a stress loop. That loop drains your mental energy, elevates your cortisol, and taxes your body at the cellular level.
The pause is where your mind regains the driver's seat.

Before you respond, send the message, have the argument, replay the worry: ask if it's worth what it's going to cost you. Most of the time, the answer will surprise you.

What's something you've been spending energy on that's not paying you back? 👇

01/04/2026

This came through me on a walk.

And it stopped me.

“If I’m not connected to your pain… how do I connect?"

Not in a poetic way—
in a this-has-been-running-my-life kind of way.

Because when you’ve grown up around pain…
you learn to stay connected to it.

You learn to read it.
Hold it.
Anticipate it.
Carry it.

And somewhere along the way…
it becomes your identity.

Connection becomes intertwined with suffering.
Love becomes intertwined with holding.

And sometimes…
this isn’t just ours.

It’s something that’s been carried
through generations—quietly, unconsciously.

So when there’s no pain to attach to—
it can feel disorienting.

Empty, even.

But that doesn’t mean something is missing.

It means something is changing.

It means your system is learning
that connection doesn’t have to come through pain.

And that…
can feel unfamiliar at first.

This is the work I sit in with women.

Not rushing them out of it—
but helping them gently untangle
what was never theirs to carry alone.

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If this stirred something in you—
you don’t have to make sense of it alone.

27/03/2026

27/03/2026

We can follow all the scripts.
Use the calm voice.
Hold the boundary.

But if your body still carries what wasn’t resolved before you…
it will show up.

In the tone you didn’t mean to use.
In the shutdown you can’t explain.
In the reaction that feels bigger than the moment.

Because parenting doesn’t create our patterns.
It reveals them.

What we call “losing it” is often inherited.
Wired through generations of survival, silence, control, or disconnection.

And no method — not even gentle parenting —
can override a nervous system that hasn’t been met.

That’s why this work matters.

Not to be a “better parent”…
but to stop handing down what was never yours to carry.

If you’ve ever found yourself reacting in ways that don’t match the parent you want to be…
you’re not broken.

You’re patterned.

And patterns can be seen, understood, and shifted.

This is the work I do in 1:1 spaces —
gently, honestly, and at the root.

27/03/2026

I didn’t wake up one day and throw everything out.

It was quieter than that.

A slow noticing…
of what I was using…
what my kids were exposed to…
what I’d never questioned.

And it didn’t sit right anymore.

So I started small.

One swap.
Then another.
Then this became our new normal.

This box?
It reflects that shift.

And LRP is what keeps it sustainable.

Not overwhelming.
Not all at once.

Just a steady return… to what feels better.

If you’re in that space…
where something is asking you to choose differently…

You don’t need to do everything.

You just need to begin.

25/03/2026

It’s subtle.

The moment your voice changes
your chest tightens
your body leans forward or pulls away

The moment you want to react
or shut down

…and something in you notices it.

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Most people miss this.

They move straight into the reaction
and the pattern continues.

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But when you start noticing that moment…
everything begins to change.

Not because you’ve fixed it.
Not because you understand it.

But because you can no longer not see it.

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In my work, this is often the point where everything starts to shift.
And also where most people realise they don’t know how to stay with it.

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That’s the space I work in.

25/03/2026

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24/03/2026

I don’t feel at home in conversations that go nowhere anymore.

And I feel that even more now… as a mother.

Because something I didn’t understand before I had children
is that the patterns we don’t look at…
don’t disappear.

They get lived out.

In our homes.
In our relationships.
In the quiet moments we thought would feel different.

I didn’t have awareness of my own emotional patterning before I became a mum.
I didn’t understand attachment, or nervous system responses, or the way my own childhood would shape how I showed up.

And it impacted me.
It impacted my relationships.
It impacted my family.

Not because I didn’t love deeply—
but because love on its own isn’t what changes patterns.

Awareness does.
Responsibility does.
A willingness to gently turn toward ourselves does.

And once you begin that process…
you start to feel the difference.

In yourself.
In others.
In the spaces you choose to be in.

I can feel now when I’m in conversations that stay on the surface…
or circle the same stories without movement.

And I can feel when I’m with women who are willing
to pause, reflect, and take ownership of their inner world.

That kind of work matters.

Not just for us—
but for the children watching us.

Because they don’t learn from what we say.
They learn from how we regulate, how we respond, how we relate.

And I say all of this without judgment…
only from lived experience.

This is the work I now hold space for.

Gently.
Quietly.
In a way that honours where you are, while also supporting where you’re ready to go.

Whether you’re yet to become a mother…
or already in it and starting to see things more clearly—

it’s never too early,
and it’s never too late
to begin.

24/03/2026

Your body keeps score of who you spend time with.

The conversations that feel heavy.
The dynamics where you overgive.
The spaces where you leave feeling smaller, not more like yourself.

That’s not just “a bit off”…
That’s your system working overtime to stay safe.

Discernment isn’t about judging others.
It’s about noticing what your body does in their presence.

Do you soften?
Or do you brace?

Do you feel met?
Or do you feel like you’re carrying it all?

I used to have space for everyone.
And what I didn’t realise was how much of that space was being used for people who weren’t actually willing to meet me, grow, or take responsibility for themselves.

That’s changed.

Now, I choose spaces and people where there is curiosity.
Where there’s ownership.
Where there’s a willingness to look inward, not just outward.

Because that’s where real wellbeing lives.

Not just in what we consume…
But in what we participate in.

If you’ve been feeling tired in a way that rest isn’t fixing…
It might not be your routine.

It might be your environment.

And you’re allowed to be discerning about that.