11/02/2026
Making more aligned and authentic choices don’t come from judging your way or thinking harder and longer, into making those choices.
You know if you’ve made a choice from fear and survival because it feels off and you might wonder “why do I keep making these choices?”
We have to have the capacity to make a different choice.
Capacity comes from the degree of spaciousness we have to witness our thoughts and feelings without automatically identifying with them.
If I’m totally identified with the belief “I’m not good enough” - as a fact - then I won’t have the capacity to make a choice that doesn’t reflect that core wound of insecurity and lack. The nervous system reacts to that belief and feeling state associated with it, and choices/actions/behaviour automatically follow.
How do we create that space?
Practices like Self Enquiry and Self Recognition help us to build the internal muscle of returning our attention to awareness over and over again. This naturally creates more distance and space to witness thoughts and feelings, for more authentic choices to emerge.
These practices help us to be with really challenging feelings without suppressing or reacting, to confirm in our direct experience that if I can observe this, I am not it, and therefore I don’t have to be controlled by this belief or feeling.
This is not just a nice idea, it is highly practical and becomes evident through direct experience.
If you want to learn how to make more aligned choices that reflect who you truly are, you can book a free clarity call on my page 🤍