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If love felt unpredictable, controlling, distant, or chaotic growing up, it makes sense that relationships can feel conf...
15/02/2026

If love felt unpredictable, controlling, distant, or chaotic growing up, it makes sense that relationships can feel confusing now.

Attachment patterns are not flaws. They are strategies that once protected you. And they can change.

Secure love isn’t something you magically attract once you “heal enough.” It’s something you practice, internally and relationally.

This Valentine’s Day, the work might not be flowers.

It might be choosing safety.
Choosing standards.
Choosing yourself.

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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When I was a young teenager, I didn’t know many men I truly admired.I had seen relationships with unbalanced power dynam...
10/02/2026

When I was a young teenager, I didn’t know many men I truly admired.
I had seen relationships with unbalanced power dynamics, men who were controlling, insecure, and emotionally closed off.

Even then, I knew this much: I wanted partnership and family, but I would rather do life on my own than with someone who wasn’t right for me.

And then I got lucky.

At just 22, I met my life partner. Someone I could play with. Someone who made me feel safe. Someone secure enough in himself that he never needed to control me.

He was easy-going in ways I didn’t know were possible. Things I expected would cause tension
 didn’t. And that brought such deep relief.

I’ve now spent more than half my life with my best friend and husband, 25 years. We’ve lived through hard seasons and beautiful ones, and somehow we’ve grown closer through it all.

My life is infinitely richer because of you.

You are my rock.

Happy 50th to the best husband and father my 13-year-old self could have asked for.
Thank you for being you and for opening your heart. All my love, always,

Jen

Letting people be disappointed can feel deeply uncomfortable, especially if you learned early that harmony depended on y...
09/02/2026

Letting people be disappointed can feel deeply uncomfortable, especially if you learned early that harmony depended on you.

Many of us were conditioned to explain, fix, or soften the impact so others wouldn’t feel upset. That wasn’t a flaw, it was a survival strategy.

But as adults, we’re allowed to choose capacity over collapse. Self-respect over self-abandonment.

What are you practising letting be imperfect right now?

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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Underrated life skill: pausing long enough to ask, “Is this actually worth my energy?”Not every comment needs a response...
09/02/2026

Underrated life skill: pausing long enough to ask, “Is this actually worth my energy?”

Not every comment needs a response.
Not every trigger needs a reaction.
Not every invitation deserves a yes.

Sometimes the most regulated, self-respecting choice is to conserve your energy and keep moving.

What’s something you’ve stopped giving your energy to lately?

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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As a psychotherapist, I broke down the Taylor Swift-Blake Lively texts for body+soul.com.au, revealing what they got rig...
26/01/2026

As a psychotherapist, I broke down the Taylor Swift-Blake Lively texts for body+soul.com.au, revealing what they got right (vulnerable check-ins!), what could’ve been better (earlier reciprocity), and lessons for us all.

Conflict avoidant? Their bold honesty shows that naming the “shift” with empathy builds bridges, not walls. Try it next time things feel off.

How do you handle it when things come up with friends? Comment below!

Love, Jen

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https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-and-relationships/dating-and-relationships/a-psychologist-analyses-the-texts-between-taylor-swift-and-blake-lively/news-story/e477d14fb313a4fe0e3ee54809bc6d4e

This has been a habit of mine for years. I often forget my glasses, water, sunscreen or even my phone and have to run ba...
20/01/2026

This has been a habit of mine for years. I often forget my glasses, water, sunscreen or even my phone and have to run back to get something. If I have given myself some extra time, I don't have to stress; I can go back and get things, knowing I have plenty of time.

Game changer.

Thank you

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Walking helps your brain process emotions. Each step, each soft movement of your eyes right, left, right, activates both...
19/01/2026

Walking helps your brain process emotions. Each step, each soft movement of your eyes right, left, right, activates both sides of your brain. This connects how you think with how you feel, helping everything make a little more sense.

When we sit still, the brain’s threat centre stays loud. Walking helps quiet it down. It turns tension into rhythm and brings your body back into a state of safety.

If you’re having a hard conversation, try walking while you talk. You’ll both stay more balanced and open. Compassion comes easier when your nervous system feels safe.

Afterwards, pause and notice how much calmer you feel.

Your body knows what to do. Just walk.

Love, Jen

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Advice has its place, but so does quiet understanding. Not every pain needs a solution; sometimes it just needs to be wi...
17/01/2026

Advice has its place, but so does quiet understanding. Not every pain needs a solution; sometimes it just needs to be witnessed. When we listen without judgment and imagine what it might be like for the other person,, we make room for real healing. đŸŒ±

Listen well, Love Jen

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The avoidant part is often misunderstood and judged.It’s labelled ‘cold’, ‘distant’, or ‘emotionally unavailable’. But f...
10/01/2026

The avoidant part is often misunderstood and judged.

It’s labelled ‘cold’, ‘distant’, or ‘emotionally unavailable’. But from a parts-work lens, it’s a protector that learned early: needing others wasn’t safe.

This part formed in environments where closeness came with disappointment, overwhelm, or intrusion. So it adapted by creating distance, autonomy, and self-reliance.

Healing doesn’t come from pushing this part to open. It comes from respecting its boundaries and deeply listening to it.

When you stay steady without demanding closeness, when you offer connection without pressure, this part often begins to relax.

Over time, it learns something new: that closeness can be chosen, not forced.

This is how INNER secure attachment is built, by creating safety for all parts.

IFS is a powerful way to work with avoidant parts.

If you’d like support, you can learn more about working with me via my website.

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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The anxious part is often misunderstood, even by the person carrying it.It’s labelled 'needy', 'reactive', 'too much'.Bu...
09/01/2026

The anxious part is often misunderstood, even by the person carrying it.

It’s labelled 'needy', 'reactive', 'too much'.
But from a parts-work lens, it’s simply a protector trying to prevent loss.

This part formed in moments where connection felt uncertain or fragile. It learned that staying alert, reaching out, and scanning for signs of closeness was necessary.

Healing doesn’t come from silencing this part. It comes from staying present with it.

When you respond with steadiness instead of urgency, with curiosity instead of shame,this part begins to relax.

Over time, it learns something new: that connection can be internal as well as external.

This is how INNER secure attachment is built, not by getting rid of anxious parts, but by becoming a safe place for them.

IFS is a wonderful way to work with your parts, if you want to know more about working with me, check out my website: www.psychotherapycentral.health

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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In parts work, we don’t ask, “How do I stop this reaction?” We ask, “Which part of me is activated right now?”There is a...
08/01/2026

In parts work, we don’t ask, “How do I stop this reaction?” We ask, “Which part of me is activated right now?”

There is always a reason a part shows up.
It emerges when something feels unsafe, even if that danger is old.

When you slow down and listen, the part no longer has to shout.
And when it doesn’t have to shout, your system settles.

Nothing inside you is random.
Nothing inside you is wrong.

This is how internal safety is built, what I can INNER secure attachment.

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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When your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, parts step forward to manage the threat.One part might push you to analyse.A...
07/01/2026

When your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, parts step forward to manage the threat.

One part might push you to analyse.
Another urge you to act quickly.
Another wants to withdraw or shut down.

These aren’t flaws. They are intelligent survival responses.

IFS teaches us that healing happens when we stop fighting these parts and start listening to them.

When a part feels seen and understood, it softens. When it softens, your system reorganises naturally.

You don’t heal by eliminating parts of yourself.
You heal by building a relationship with them. This is the work I LOVE. If you would to find out more about how I work, check out my website through the link in my bio.

Love, Jen đŸȘ·

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Hi! I’m Jennifer. I’m the founder of Psychotherapy Central, President of the International Energetic Healing Association, co-founder of The Golden Woman Centre, and Ambassador for A Sound Life charity. I am a mum to two beautiful children, wife, daughter, sister and friend. I have a Masters degree in Counselling and Applied Psychotherapy. I am a licensed psychotherapist, counsellor and energetic healer, but you can think of me as a huge self-love advocate, a listening ear, and a holder of space for transformation and healing.

I am lucky enough to do work that is my calling, it is my vocation. I have over 16 year’s experience working with individuals and groups. Leading international transformational retreats, seminars, writing accredited courses, e-books and blogs.

What brings me here?

I grew up wanting to change the world. I saw the images of starving children in Africa in the 80’s and I wanted to help. That desire led me to study Political Science at university with a large does of Development Studies included. After university I worked for the Japanese government for three years, teaching English in their public school sector. It was such a completely different culture to the UK, I found myself on a steep learning curve. I feel like I did a lot of growing up there. I met my husband to be, I travelled a lot – India, Nepal, South East Asia, Europe, Chille, Southern Africa, including hitchhiking and camping through Botswana and Namibia and had a lot of fun.