Aness Holistic Therapist

10/11/2025

Masculine containment is the grounded, steady energy that allows a woman to relax, trust, and fully express her feminine essence.

Here’s how my partner embodies his powerful masculine energy creating the safety and space for me to flourish in mine.

He studied me like a book for two years, learning everything about me( my wounds, childhood conditioning, desires, needs, fears, and values). He uses this understanding to meet my needs and create healing experiences for me, never using what he knows against me. This deepens our connection as I feel seen, heard, understood and cared for.

From the first moment of our relationship, he “cleaned up” his phone and social media even though I had never asked him to. He wanted me to have access to his phone and he cared about me feeling respected. This simple act built deep trust from the start and made me feel special. Two years in, I’ve never once felt the need to check his phone.

He chooses not to have female friendships (except for his family, of course) even though that wasn't something I have ever asked of him. He says he doesn't need it as his focus is fully on me and our relationship. Knowing that choice came from him makes me feel profoundly chosen.

He doesn’t leak his sexual energy. His attention and desire are directed towards me, and that makes me feel deeply secure and cherished.

He’s always been sure about me. Fully in, fully committed. My nervous system relaxes in that certainty as I have never had to chase his love. I have always known I hold a special place in his heart.

His energy is steady, not wobbly. When I’m unsure, his grounded energy brings me back to certainty and trust.

He’s hardworking, focused, and purpose-driven, always moving toward his dreams.

He never gives up. Even when life gets tough, I know he won’t drop the containment and that allows me to rest into deeper trust.

He’s not “go with the flow” kind of man. He has a strong masculine core, knows what he wants and deals with challenges when they come up.

He faces uncomfortable conversations knowing they’re essential for growth and deeper connection.

He’s resilient and resourceful, intelligent, and skilled in many areas of life. These qualities make me admire and deeply respect him as a man.

He’s self-aware, taking responsibility for his wounds instead of projecting them onto me. He’s accountable and emotionally responsive. Making changes when required for our relationship to thrive.

He speaks my love languages and is fully present when we’re together.

He leads without controlling and bulldozing me, always considering my needs while taking charge.

He holds healthy boundaries and communicates with an open heart.

He’s vulnerable, honest, and deeply trustworthy.

He has my best interests at heart and shows it through his generosity, time, energy, and love. He genuinely cares about my happiness and safety.

He’s committed to continuous growth, doing the inner work to evolve as a man and a partner.

He prioritizes his health and emotional wellbeing to be the best version of himself.

He never asks me to fix his problems instead he takes ownership and gets things done.

He didn’t grow up seeing this modeled, yet he’s devoted himself to becoming this kind of man for himself, me and our connection. He’s had to learn, unlearn, and grow into this man through our relationship. I honor his effort, growth, and the love he pours into me and our relationship every day.

This is what masculine containment looks and feels like. To me it’s presence, integrity, and strength that allow love to deepen and polarity to thrive.

If you’re a man who wants to learn how to create a safe and empowering container for your woman, reach out to Matt at The Sacred Union

If you’re a woman ready to soften, surrender, reconnect with your feminine energy and let your man lead, reach out to me.

And if you’re a couple struggling to restore the balance between masculine and feminine energy in your relationship, we invite you to book a couples' session with us.

We’re here to help you build the foundation for a sacred union that will elevate every area of your life. We know what works because we live it.

With love,
Aness ~ the Sacred Union ~ Transforming Relationships

02/02/2025

I help my clients create radical transformations in their lives before or after the manifestation of critical illness, such as cancer, by addressing the root causes behind these physical ailments. Cancer, like many other illnesses, is not just a disease of the body—it's an emotional dis-ease that shows up physically when the mind and body are out of alignment. Mostly, it’s our subconscious programming, the beliefs and patterns we picked up as children, that drive us to live a life of frustration, fear, and stress, unaware that we are slowly moving away from a life worth living, slowly dying inside.

Most of us live on autopilot, repeating the same negative patterns day after day, feeling stuck, overwhelmed, unhappy, depressed not even understanding why. Most people don't realize that these unresolved emotional imbalances are slowly manifesting in their bodies as disease. The key to healing isn't in battling the illness through aggressive treatments or even natural treatments(even though supporting the body with natural remedies can be helpful); it's in understanding why the illness manifested in the first place and what it's trying to communicate to us. As Teal Swan puts it, “Change your life or die.” Cancer becomes a powerful messenger, pushing us to make necessary changes in how we live. We need to come back to alignment, to our truth and design our life in a way that waking up each day makes us feel excited.

That’s where I come in. I guide my clients through the emotional and subconscious blocks that are preventing them from living their truest, healthiest life. By traveling to their subconscious mind, we uncover hidden beliefs, fears, and unresolved trauma, which is the true cause behind their illness. Through this deep inner work, I help them make the changes necessary for true healing to begin.

I’ve seen firsthand how transformative this work can be. Many of my clients have healed from conditions deemed “incurable,” not by fighting their bodies but by aligning their minds, emotions, and spirit. If you're ready to heal and transform your life before illness takes over, or even when you already manifested it, I’m here to help you. With the right tools and guidance, lasting change is not only possible but also inevitable. Let’s work together to uncover the path to your health, freedom, and a life that truly aligns with who you are meant to be.
There is no other way, everything else is just a temporary band-aid.

24/01/2025

Women are naturally designed to operate from their feminine energy, and when we align with this energy in our personal and professional lives, we thrive in a way that's not only more powerful but sustainable.

Unfortunately, many women, especially entrepreneurs, feel pressure to run their businesses the same way men do—by pushing themselves, overworking, and adhering to rigid schedules and goals. This approach most often leads to burnout and health issues that affect our physical and emotional well-being as well as relationship issues because we flip the masculine/feminine dynamic and men don't find us energetically attractive anymore.

When we try to operate outside of our feminine energy, our health can suffer in various ways: thyroid imbalances, weight gain, adrenal burnout, hormonal disruptions, difficulties with fertility, PCOS or endometriosis, reproductive organ issues, chronic fatigue, brain fog, hair loss, skin issues, and even certain cancers. These are signs that we are out of balance, pushing ourselves too hard, and neglecting the need for flow, creativity, and intuition—qualities that are inherent to our feminine nature.

The feminine energy is magnetic. It draws what we want toward us with less effort, allowing us to achieve our dreams without the constant hustle. Yes, the masculine energy is still necessary for action, but it works best when it's inspired by our feminine flow—not dictated by a scheduled calendar or rigid structure. When we embrace our feminine energy, we create a business that works with us, not against us.

If you're ready to learn how to run a business that nurtures you, your dreams, and your health, I invite you to book a session with me. I will guide you in aligning your business with your natural feminine power, so you can achieve success without the depletion. Together, we’ll explore your subconscious beliefs, childchood wounds that block your flow and trust in your feminine magnetism.
I will help you come back to your magnetic self and guide you back to your feminine core that nourishes you and helps you build the life and business you’ve always dreamed of.

I have already had the privilege of helping many incredible female clients tap into their feminine energy and transform the way they approach their businesses and lives.

Let’s work together to align your business with your natural energy, so you can experience the success and peace you deserve.

18/11/2024

My client's message after she worked with me on her disregulated nervous system that stopped her from living her life.

Our autonomic nervous system creates our life experiences. Every behaviour we ever had, our emotions, every thought is a result of our nervous system that has been shaped before we were 7 years old. It's responsible for how we attach in our relationships, how we relate to other people, how we create relationships, what people we attract, how we live our lives, how we respond to stress etc.

Once you reprogram your nervous system, every area of your life changes.

That's the beauty of the somatic work that talk therapy can't offer.

You can get control over your life by healing your disregulated nervous system.

Book a call with me to find out how.

04/11/2024

Everyone seems to throw around the word Triggered nowadays.

But what exactly does that mean?

When we are triggered our nervous system is dis-regulated.

We are reacting rather than responding.

It’s not the present you that is reacting though, it’s the young child within you that’s reacting.

This reaction is through the lens of a child that has experienced a trauma.

A trauma is any experience that is unresolved, even something simple like not getting desert after dinner as a child.
We all experience things differently as a child and this depends on how our caregivers treat us.

That’s why we all react or respond differently.

So how do we know when we are “triggered”?

If the experience/conflict etc feels charged with emotion or if your actions aren’t what would be called typical, then you are triggered.

We CAN NOT talk our way into a regulated nervous system.

The only way is by feeling, this is called a somatic healing.

Because of this we first have to understand each other from the point of view of that inner child and rather than explaining our way out of it, it has to be felt.

This is done with a partner through co-regulation and by ourselves with somatic exercises such as breathwork and self awareness. Coming back into the body.

If you’ve never experienced this before it can be confusing and overwhelming, it’s extremely beneficial to work with someone that embodies these kind of practices.
Aness and I certainly have, we spend many hours each day working on refining our relationship.

You can have a happier more peaceful life and loving connected relationship with these tools.

If you crave that peace and love in your life get in touch with us at The Sacred Union

Much love -Matt ❤️

30/10/2024

A message from an old client of mine who doesn't need me anymore as she is now living her dream life and is able to do the inner work without my help🙂

When you work with me, not only do I facilitate the healing process for you, but I also give you the tools to do it on your own in future so you don't have to see me forever 🙂


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30/10/2024

A lovely message from my client after the session yesterday.

29/10/2024

29/10/2024

Incredibly vulnerable testimonial from one of my clients.

Sexual abuse in childhood happens more often than we think. It's the most damaging abuse there is.
Healing is possible when supported in the right way.

It's a very tricky subject to navigate, and unfortunately, most mainstream modalities are only a bandaid solution providing temporary relief.

The method I use is very specific and gets to the core of the issue, and creates a lasting improvement.

Many clients have come to me after years of different therapies with no resolution and have had a huge healing with me in just a few sessions because we deal with core wounds.