17/12/2025
Growing up as the ‘hero’ or savior often teaches you to carry the weight of other people’s struggles, intellectualising their pain to justify unhealthy bonds or relationships.
It’s a role born from empathy, but one that can keep you trapped in cycles where you accept behavior that’s harmful to you.
Empathy and understanding don’t mean you have to fix or save anyone, nor do they require you to endure abuse or unhealthy dynamics. It doesn’t mean sacrificing yourself.
Growth is realising you don’t need to feel guilty for stepping back. You don’t have to hate someone to create distance or set boundaries.
In fact, with enough compassion and clarity, you can hold space for the truth: that their essence, their potential, or even who they could be if they were healed, is not enough reason for you to stay. And that’s okay.
You can acknowledge their pain without taking it on as your responsibility. You can honour the lessons they’ve brought into your life and still move forward, with love, with acceptance, and with the deep understanding that walking away doesn’t make you cold hearted. It makes you whole.
If you’re struggling with setting boundaries, moving on, people pleasing, or relationship entanglements. DM me the word ‘HEAL’ now. Let’s start a conversation.
