George Brun Counselling

03/07/2025

07/06/2022

Controlling Behaviours

People who want to control others are, at the core, consumed with their own fears thereby projecting those fears onto others. We all know what it’s like to want to be in control. In some ways, exerting control is an important survival skill. For example, we have every right to be in control of our own bodies and our own lives. Taking control in these cases is empowering and necessary.

Controlling behaviour in the negative sense comes from a tendency to reach beyond our own boundaries and into the lives of others. Many people do this with the rationalisation that they are helping. This can happen with parents who are still trying to force their grown children into behaving in ways that they find acceptable. It can also happen when people try to control their partner’s behaviour.

A person with controlling behaviour will tend to interfere with what is happening rather than just allowing events to unfold. Almost everyone has at least one situation or relationship in which they try to exert control. This often happens because someone’s behaviour makes us uncomfortable. We may feel it makes us look bad, or it embarrasses us. For example, if your best friend tends to drink too much, you might spend an entire party just trying to prevent them from doing so. This is different from directly confronting them about the problem and allowing them to decide what they should do. Controlling behaviour generally goes hand in hand with an unwillingness to be direct about what you want, as well as an inability to let go and let people live their own lives.

If you are the one that is controlling, it’s probably because you feel as if you are out of control and it scares you. Try to pick one thing you could just let unfold without any control on your part. Examine how it made you feel - both before and after, and examine why you wanted to control the situation.
It is hard sometimes to allow others to be who they are, especially if we feel we know what’s best for them and we see them making choices we wouldn’t make.

However, if we are to be respectful and truly loving, we have to let people go, trusting that they will find their own way in their own time and understanding that it is their life to live. Just remind yourself that the only life you have to live is your own – This is the first step.

If you feel you would like to explore and unpack this type of behaviour – call me. 😊

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17/10/2021

Relationships are as individual as the people in them. Each relationship presents unique circumstances and challenges, particularly when different backgrounds, personalities, and value systems are involved. We will form a collaborative therapeutic alliance with you and your partner. Together, you and your partner will identify key areas for change and learn practical tools to help you and your partner create a mutually beneficial, rewarding relationship.

The good news is that our couples therapy in Castle Hill gives families hope for those struggling with couples and relationship issues. A growing body of evidence-based on decades of couples counselling research suggests that couples can overcome relationship issues and live happy, fulfilling lives together with appropriate therapeutic support. Closeness, communication and commitment are the keys to authentic intimacy. If you are looking to reignite these in your lives, then call George Brun marriage counselling Castle Hill.

For more information or to make a booking for marriage and relationship counselling in Castle Hill, Baulkham Hills, Norwest and the general Hill’s district, contact George Brun today. Everyone deserves to be happy!

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19/09/2021

It's okay to put yourself first. And it's not something you need to feel guilty about. Thinking about your own mental wellbeing before others is something a lot of people find hard to do. But living your life to please other people can have a major impact on your mental and physical health.

By putting yourself first means being as kind to yourself as you are to others. It means taking care of yourself so you can be more productive and organised and a better person in general. It means just loving yourself a little more and that’s not selfish, its necessary.

It may seem selfish, but honestly it’s something we should all learn to do a little more, sometimes we’re so blinded by everything going on around us that we forget to care for ourselves.

15/08/2021

A deep feeling of gratitude can emerge, as we open to the experience of being helped.

Most of us pride ourselves on our self-sufficiency.

We like to be responsible for taking care of ourselves and pulling our own weight in the world. This is why it can be so challenging when we find ourselves in a situation in which we have to rely on someone else.

This can happen as the result of every day stress, an illness or an injury, or even in the case of a positive change, such as the arrival of a newborn. At times like these, it is essential that we let go of our feeling that we should be able to do it all by ourselves and accept the help of others.

We believe that happiness and wellbeing come from maintaining emotional and life balance. Challenges across the lifespan are a normal part of life, and at George Brun Counselling, I work with you to develop the skills necessary to effectively manage these challenges and enhance your emotional wellbeing.

I use evidence-based therapeutic approaches, tailoring intervention to meet your needs.

“At some point, it has got to be about you and about having a life for yourself some times.”

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13/08/2021

Self-care is any activity that we engage in to take care of our personal needs and well-being.

It is vital to our mental and overall health and, ironically, it’s something we frequently neglect to practice.

It is important that we all take the time to do things for our own well-being because it will refresh and recharge us so that we can feel and be at our best.

Self-care improves our lives in different areas and in different ways, all of which are important to our overall health.

Practising self-care can have remarkable effects on our self-esteem and when we take care of ourselves, it affirms our self-worth.

By taking care of ourselves and our needs, we’re telling ourselves, ‘I deserve this’. And we do.

What works for one person as a means of self-care may not resonate with another. Finding a personal means of self-care is important in helping you maintain your overall positive mental health.

Its all in the doing!!

Let me show you how to put into practice your own sustainable self-care plan.

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10/08/2021

Why do some people find it so hard to ask others for help? After all, it seems to go against anything that would make sense.

Why would anyone choose to struggle alone, instead of reaching out to others who can possibly provide help and assistance.

Some say we may have become conditioned to believe that asking for help is to be perceived as either a burden or as a sign of emotional weakness.

Our emotional strength should be defined by our ability to not only act independently, but also to know when it is time to look to others for assistance.

“Asking for help is not a burden nor a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of humanness.”

So what are you waiting for...........reach out!

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25/07/2021

Sometimes asking for help is the bravest move you can make. You don't have to do it alone.

Always remember You Matter!

Many people who have come to see me have found individual/relationship counselling to be helpful because it gives them time to debrief, uninterrupted.

They see it as constructive and a safe place to voice all of their worries, fears, grievances and frustrations.

So what are you waiting for?
Give me a call.

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11/07/2021

Life is full of uncertainties and can leave us at times feeling anxious, stuck or feeling lost with our thoughts and emotions.

I will help you explore your feelings, thoughts and behaviours that are distressing you.

My empathetic approach and expertise is to guide and empower you to strengthen your sense of self and build a framework for navigating the trials of life..

Together we can discuss your concerns and put in place the necessary steps to help improve your situation.

George Brun Counselling in Hills District provides quality counselling & support for individuals & couples to build strong relationships. Call 1300 855 893 now.

04/07/2021

Having good mental health helps you lead a relatively happy and healthy life! 🌼

George Brun Counselling provides counselling and support for both individuals and couples with concerns such as
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Stress
• Grief and loss
• Family therapy
• Work/life balance
• Workplace conflicts
• Relationship issues 👫

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