SelfConnect Psychology Services

31/01/2026

WHAT'S YOUR COMMUNICATION STYLE?
This post explores passive, aggressive, and assertive communication styles, and how they shape our relationships.
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Discover your communication style and how it affects your relationships. Explore passive, aggressive, and assertive ways of interacting, and gain insight into the patterns that shape how you connect with others and with yourself.

09/01/2026

Panic attacks can feel frightening, but they are not dangerous. By noticing your body and responding with kindness, you can relate to panic in a way that helps it soften instead of escalate. Learn more about this compassionate, body-aware approach and how it can help you feel more in control.

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Panic attacks can feel frightening and intense. This article offers a compassionate, body-aware approach to managing panic by changing how you relate to bodily sensations and fear.

08/12/2025

We all get angry sometimes—but what if there was a way to handle it without hurting your relationships? In my latest blog, I share practical tips for managing your own anger and responding calmly when someone else is upset. Simple steps you can start using today!
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Anger is a natural emotion, but many of us struggle with how to handle it—both our own and other people’s. In this article, you’ll learn practical ways to understand your anger, express it safely, and respond calmly when someone else is upset. These simple, compassionate tools can help you com...

12/11/2025

Many of us find it hard to say no, especially when we want to keep our relationships strong. But learning to say no with honesty and empathy is key to caring for ourselves and others.

In my latest blog post, I explore how to set boundaries with clarity and kindness, using principles from Nonviolent Communication to help you stay connected while respecting your own needs.

👉 Read the full article: “How to Say No (Without Hurting the Relationship)”:

Learn compassionate ways to say no, set boundaries, and communicate your needs without damaging relationships or feeling guilty.

30/10/2025

🌿 Why many people are turning to somatic therapies such as Focusing
More people are discovering that true healing often involves more than talking about our experiences — it includes listening to the body as well.
Somatic (body-based) therapies, like Focusing, help us tune into the body’s signals to release tension, regulate emotions and feel more grounded. These approaches recognise that the mind and body are deeply interconnected, and that lasting wellbeing often means working with both.
Somatic therapy can support people experiencing anxiety, trauma, chronic stress or emotional overwhelm by helping the nervous system return to balance and creating space for healing at a deeper level.
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Young man in nature sitting with his eyes closed Focusing.

17/10/2025

🤔 Do you find it hard to make decisions, even small everyday ones?
Indecision can feel overwhelming and affect work, relationships, or daily life. It may come from not having enough information, the complexity of the choice, fear of making the wrong decision, or emotional blocks from past experiences.

In my latest blog, I explore some common causes of indecision and share gentle, practical ways to move forward. You’ll learn strategies like weighing pros and cons, tuning into your emotions and bodily responses, and experimenting with small decisions to build confidence.

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Every day we make countless decisions — whether to get out of bed, what to have for breakfast, what to wear, or what time to leave for work. Some decisions are easy; we may even make them unconsciously. We get in the car and drive the usual route to the office. Other decisions are harder, like lea...

02/10/2025

Do you find it hard to show your true self? 🌱 Many of us learned early to hide our feelings to stay safe, but that fear can hold us back even as adults. Learn how small steps, self-awareness, and mindful communication can help you start speaking up.

Why we hide our true selves

25/09/2025

¿Luchas contra emociones o sensaciones incómodas?
Evitar lo que sentimos no funciona… pero hay otra manera.
Descubre cómo transformar esa lucha en conexión contigo misma/o en mi blog: https://selfconnectpsychology.au/blog-spanish/sensaciones-incomodas

Evitar lo que sentimos no funciona. ¿Y si la solución no fuera huir del dolor, sino acercarnos a él?

22/09/2025

We all try to avoid unpleasant feelings, but they usually come back.
What if relief comes not from pushing them away, but from turning towards them with curiosity?

I’ve written a new blog about this gentle but powerful shift. You can read it here: https://selfconnectpsychology.au/blog-english/uncomfortable-feelings

Avoiding our inner experiences doesn´t work. What if the solution is not running away from pain, but turning towards it?

15/07/2025

Sometimes talking therapy is not enough. Try something different.

Focusing is a body-oriented approach that can support you to explore what is happening beneath the surface, at your own pace. It offers a way to tune into your physical experience and better understand what might be contributing to feeling stuck so that you can find your way forward.

If you are curious about this approach, I am happy to answer any questions or discuss whether it might be a good fit for you.

You may be eligible for Medicare or private health fund rebates.

🧠 Isabel Alfonso | Registered Psychologist | AHPRA No. PSY0002146686
📍 At Frenchs Forest in Sydney’s Northern Beaches, and online
📞 0400 86 85 84
✉️ isabel@selfconnectpsychology.au

To learn more visit:
🌐 www.selfconnectpsychology.au

13/07/2025

Feeling stuck?
You may find that talking about a problem doesn’t always bring clarity or change.

Focusing is a body-oriented approach that can support you to explore what is happening beneath the surface, at your own pace. It offers a way to tune into your physical experience and better understand what might be contributing to feeling stuck so that you can find your way forward.

If you are curious about this approach, I am happy to answer any questions or discuss whether it might be a good fit for you.

🧠 Isabel Alfonso | Registered Psychologist | AHPRA No. PSY0002146686
📍 At Frenchs Forest in Sydney’s Northern Beaches, and online
📞 0400 86 85 84
✉️ isabel@selfconnectpsychology.au
🌐 www.selfconnectpsychology.au

Isabel Alfonso. Psychologist in Frenchs Forest, Sydney. Combining cognitive & behavioural strategies with Focusing-Oriented Therapy (a somatic, evidence-based approach), to reach deeper and produce more profound shifts. Speaks Spanish.

19/01/2025

Accepting new clients.